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    Quote Originally Posted by badpiece33 View Post
    Men like whores because they can pay her to leave and not deal with the BS that comes with most women in the states and other countries.
    So true. Men are too lazy to put in the real work. Thank goodness we have the freedom to choose our own lifestyles. Hopefully we can do what we want without too many judgements passed on us.
    In my next life I want to be mrgoodpiece and do what to hell ever I want guilt free. I wish you good luck in "keeping UP" your lifestyle for many years to "cum".

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    Quote Originally Posted by dulce View Post
    So true. Men are too lazy to put in the real work. Thank goodness we have the freedom to choose our own lifestyles. Hopefully we can do what we want without too many judgements passed on us.
    In my next life I want to be mrgoodpiece and do what to hell ever I want guilt free. I wish you good luck in "keeping UP" your lifestyle for many years to "cum".
    Define REAL WORK?

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    umm... as is building a serious relationship with someone they love and want to spend time with other than in the bedroom.
    Many of you guys are the ones who go so far to say that buying dinner,flowers,etc.etc. for a real girlfriend is the same as prostitution. I think this is just one of many examples of how they justify p4p and avoiding real emotions.
    Nothing wrong with what they choose. Many of them are babyboomers. Free love the sexual revolution all that stuff. Funny how that free love turned into p4p and love has nothing to do with it.
    Why do I feel like a freekin' shrink today?! LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by dulce View Post
    Many of you guys are the ones who go so far to say that buying dinner,flowers,etc.etc. for a real girlfriend is the same as prostitution. I think this is just one of many examples of how they justify p4p and avoiding real emotions.
    The truth when it comes to dating North American women is this-we are disposable to them. The contrived dating ritual speaks to this.

    It is a one-sided affair. We are expected to shower women with attention and other things while they play mind games. Then they compare notes during their girls' night out for the sheer sake of ridiculing the men who chase them. It's emasculating and contemptuous.

    Funny thing is, the end game is just as bad for women as it is for men. When women condition themselves to treat men like this, they become just as emotionally ill-equipped to handle a meaningful relationship as men who cavort with chicas in the DR.

    If men and women would sit down and talk TO each other rather than talk AT each other, blaming each other for what someone else has done to them, maybe the level of sex tourism would diminish to an extent.

    As it is, I see lonely men drinking themselves to death from loneliness, and frustrated wives home alone with the kids. This neurotic social construct is what dominates the social landscape in America. The henpecked, beer-bellied husband who can't do anything right versus the battle-axe wife who lost her figure and refuses to shave her mustache.

    And all we can do is blame each other for coming up short of our collective unrealistic expectations for each other.

    Is there any doubt as to why someone would choose an alternative lifestyle if this is what awaits them?

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    Quote Originally Posted by RacerX View Post
    But your lady friend who says this is making an egocentrically subjective statement. She assumes she is more intelligent than said whore. She may know what she knows but who is to say that that knowledge is of interest to you? I know MANY female lawyers in the US and DR and they are all BORING. Strong minded(I guess that means obstinate and unwilling to compromise) and independent? Well that means to me: a. we will always be getting into arguments about what to do; and b. one of use wants to be the boss AND not concede to the others point. She wants to wear the pants. Well most men and I do mean MOST MEN will take the position that if she wants to wear the pants she doesnt need me to be in the house. Its a contest that she will always win. A relationship cannot be where I work one pant leg and she does the other and somehow by the "Love of Cronkite(?)" we will end up at the same destination.

    In the DR, it is comfortably accepted that the man will be wear the pants and his decisions are those that the couple will take. That is ideologically anathema to your USA bred-Destiny's Child woman. And therefore she will look down on any woman who holds to this philosophy, even Dominican women raised in the US or transplanted there sometime during their formative years.
    This is not necessarily true. In the beginning of my relationship with Victor's father, I was very much with the Destiny's child attitude. A friend of mine explain to me that Dominican men are like children (she is from El Salvador, her husband from DR). She said, "Shalena, he has to make all decisions, he has to feel like every idea is his or he will feel worthless". It was very hard for me to change my habits but I did it at that time. Even though I paid my own rent in Santiago (what he made in a month could not have paid my rent), I let this person make all my decisions because I was told that that is what "Dominican women do" and that I needed to conform. When you are single, you try to figure out what you have done in past relationships and I thought "maybe I DO come off a little too strong" He paid when we went out or gave me 100RD here and there but nothing near the $3000 I spent per month, yet and still he made my decisions. I had to sit back and think if this was how I wanted to spend my life...pretending that I had no opinions or decision-making skills of my own in order to make a man with an inferiority complex feel better. Mind you, I did it for some time but anytime we argued my true self came out. He was recently here in the States and after the first couple of days told me that he felt as if he had no say so over his own son (basically because I did not jump and do everything that he told me to regarding the care of our child)
    I do not look down on the women that perform this way, I just could not put up that front for long. If they can, more power to them.
    I do believe that men...especially Dominicans are so used to putas that an actual, real-life, "I don't have to depend on you to live" woman scares them. They know only 2 kinds...the "wife" sitting at home with a smile doing whatever the hell they say in the house, or their whore sitting by her phone with a smile willing to do whatever the hell they say in the bed.
    Just my opinion, which we all know...doesn't mean much

    SHALENA
    Last edited by SKing; 11-28-2010 at 04:23 PM. Reason: spelling error

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    Quote Originally Posted by SKing View Post
    They know only 2 kinds...the "wife" sitting at home with a smile doing whatever the hell they say in the house, or their whore sitting by her phone with a smile willing to do whatever the hell they say in the bed.
    Just my opinion, which we all know...doesn't mean much

    SHALENA
    What about the mistress, that cooks, cleans, as well as sucks & phucks?
    That is the best of both worlds, a wife rarely does more than 1/4 tasks.

    tambo'

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    My husband is one of five brothers, one sister. The sister doesn't take any nonsense from anyone, she's had two husbands, both Dominicans. Of the five boys, two of them are married to rather submissive women. One is highly educated, raised in NYC, good job, etc., but if I call her to ask if we can stop by to drop something off she has to ask her husband first. The other is married to a much younger, very passive [-20 years younger] woman. The first wife was a lovely, educated and intelligent woman who didn't put up with his crap and divorced him. The other 3 brothers are married to self-sufficient, educated, bright business women. (I'm the only non-Dominican in the family, cousins included.)

    I have to say that the women I know in Santo Domingo are for the most part NOT the shrinking violets that so many claim they are. Only one brother controls all the money in the family. I don't know if this is peculiar to the women in my husband's family, but it's true for his large extended family. And let me tell you, you'd have a hard time finding a woman more self-sufficient and independent than my mother-in-law.

    Like Shalena, I'd never pass that submissive test, but I am not a feminist. We make decisions together on important things. "What do you think about such-and-such..." is a common opening sentence in our house. I love to cook for my family, and I go out of my way to make things he likes. When something is important to one of us, it's a given that the other will agree.

    I think a strong, self-assured man has little problem with a woman who is self-sufficient and an equal partner. It's the ones with low self-esteem that have the need to be "the boss".

    Just my two pesos worth.... probably not worth any more than that

    AE

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlterEgo View Post
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    I think a strong, self-assured man has little problem with a woman who is self-sufficient and an equal partner. It's the ones with low self-esteem that have the need to be "the boss".

    AE
    My opinion exactly.........Thanks
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    NOT SUBMISSIVE...NOT A FEMINIST

    I think this is on topic and on target.
    Pls forgive for not reading ALL of the previous posts.

    I have spoken to many of my female friends - incl former girlfriends who are 60-ish.
    They feel were led astray by the likes of Gloria Steinham.... "Go get it girls ! "
    These were the vanguard of the feminist movement... with no real practical examples to light their path....suffragettes - no, I don't think so - anyway too far back in time

    Some are very unhappy at 60 +/- with just a successful career and no relationships ( marriage)...
    What does the future hold now Ms Steinham?

    Guess where Gloria is.... she gave up the ghost as her latter years approached...
    Got married and is living "happily everafter"...... not all the disciples were so lucky.... they're still toiling under the glass ceiling with not enough to retire comfortably

    Good for you AE to not only find the balance but to strike it..
    Not all females of your generation were so lucky.

    I remember a Today show.... many moons ago .....where one of the "bra burners" had seen seen the light.

    "There are 3 things... a good career, a good relationship/marriage, and a good family (meaning children)....
    Go ahead pick any two.... all three is virtually impossible.

    That may stand today...... you tell me

    WW
    Slightly anachronistic father of two females

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    It is possible to have all three, but it is much more work and motivation. Life was never meant to be easy.

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