hello? mr sankie??

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annie55

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hello I'm not sure if I writing this in the right spot or not.. but I guess I will try again....

I have been reading these forums for about 6 months and I have read some good info and bad info.. I love other peoples opnions and I decided to share my story with you guys.

First off I will tell you about myself im 24 yrs old no kids, divorced,and a student studying in college full time to be an esthetician.

My story begins when I was 18 yrs old just leaving a bad marriage I decided to go to the dominican and guess what you already know what I'm going to say.. I met a dude.. I already know what you guys are thinking oh he is in animation lol.. nope definetly not. He is actually front desk of the hotel.

anyways its started as minor chit chat about don omar and wisin y yandel music and lyrics what does this mean what does that mean kind of convo.. I went to see him every morning to say hi and blah blah blah... on my last day I left him my email cause I thought he would be a cool friend.. he gave me his as well.. when I landed back in canada I told him I was back safely and we decided to keep in contact as friends.

4 months goes by of constant communication I got a second job and went back again when I was 19... I hung out with him again and we went to a local beach we held hands but we never kissed or had sex....

after that I didn't have money to go back for a long time but we stayed in contact everyday and we began having a great friendship.. I dated men here in canada and he dated woman there.. he eventually had a daughter she is now 2 years old.

I went back when I was 23 and he picked me up from the hotel in his car and took me out for dinner and the beach and some shopping .he then dropped me off and hugged me goodbye...

me and this man are both church going individuals as well as we both have made mistakes in our life and both of us are very open with them. he finally asked me to marry him.. on one condition.. that I would live there with him in his house.. he told me that he would take care of me.. I advised him that I do not have money nor am I rich he laughed at me and asked if I though he was a sankie.. keep in mind I have known him for 6 years and has never asked me for anything... he then told me he was scared of making a mistake with me and would enjoy for me to come back and visit him for a month and he would provide for me... he is 29.. IM 24 to take the time to get to know me more cause if he makes me his wife he would not want to divorce me..

he does know I'm a student in school and I do live with my parents.. he asked me what was more important in my life a million dollars or true love... anyways theres tons that I left out here if you want to know more ask I have details details details.... comments are good as well

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If you are for real and not drunk or deluded you know you havent known him got 6 years, you have been to the beach once and the rest of time he has been at work. Marriage, don't be stupid.
I doubt you are real as this is post number one. You are probably a member of the board for a long time, nothing better to so imagine a character and play 'scenario DR1'. No first time poster would come on a site like this and blah off such a post, just doesn't happen.
Who has been banned lately?
 
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I'm not drunk.. nor do I work for this website and I never posted on this website before... I can ensure you that I'm a real woman I'm 24 from canada.... Im studying to be an esthitican full time..

I honestly have been to the dominican a total of 4 times.. and I have seen and been conversating with this man for 6 years... we have a really good friendship.. and it's not like were getting married overnight .. he told me he wants to spend more time with me.. and I would like to spend more time with him... as we both have made poor life decisions..
 

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I say, throw caution to the wind and go for it!!! This will be a great "life experience" hey.....your 24 years old, it's about time you started making some mistakes in life....(just kiddin)....YOU KNOW YOUR GONNA DO THIS, wow!....what an adventure your gonna have. It's probably not gonna work out, but give it a shot.

Just make sure there is a "plan B".....just in case....

I wish you the best of luck!!!
 
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you don't honestly think its possible that someone can actually love someone...???
even through just words.. I don't understand how he could possible use me .. he hasn't used me yet.. not a single dime has been sent to this man just simple talking back and forth and visits.. no sex no kissing.. what is it he is getting from me other then a friendship???
 

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I'm sure you may believe that "Love conquers all" It may in a Hollywood movie....but?....

Just the transistion alone...you coming from Canada to live under his roof in the DR. That takes BIG ONES.

And as far as no sex no kissing. You might wanna take him for a test drive before making a decision of this MAGNITUDE.

Again, I say have a great time and go for it!!!

I would say....PROCEED WITH CAUTION, but it wouldn't apply, because you've known him for six years.....

I'm surprised you haven't used the search engines. This subject has been beaten to death.....

Yours is kinda unique, it has a certain "niceness to it"....which could translate into ridiculous. But who am I to judge.

I hope it works out. Odds are against it, toooo many obstacles to overcome.

Again...."plan B".....very important.....

have a great night.....
 

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what is it he is getting from me other then a friendship???

Hope . . . . .

Yeah, I still believe in love.

He wants to support you? Take some time off and let him do that for you. You'll learn a lot about each other.
 

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I'm sure you may believe that "Love conquers all" It may in a Hollywood movie....but?....

Just the transistion alone...you coming from Canada to live under his roof in the DR. That takes BIG ONES.

And as far as no sex no kissing. You might wanna take him for a test drive before making a decision of this MAGNITUDE.

Again, I say have a great time and go for it!!!

I would say....PROCEED WITH CAUTION, but it wouldn't apply, because you've known him for six years.....

I'm surprised you haven't used the search engines. This subject has been beaten to death.....

Yours is kinda unique, it has a certain "niceness to it"....which could translate into ridiculous. But who am I to judge.

I hope it works out. Odds are against it, toooo many obstacles to overcome.

Again...."plan B".....very important.....

have a great night.....

This is actually a pretty good post & advice. I second that.
 

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Interesting version of your previous story!

Are you sure he works the front desk?

That's a pretty big promotion from sports equipment shack.
 

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Given that you have been reading this forum, you know that many of us are rather suspicious and skeptical when someone asks for advice on this topic.

So, why did you post? You're asking for the advice of anonymous people who see a sankie in every relationship.

If you're convinced the guy is for real, then continue the relationship.
If you have doubts, then proceed very cautiously.

My advice is the same I would give anyone in any country in this situation:
FINISH YOUR EDUCATION FIRST. Do not let this relationship derail that.

After that, take one or two trusted friends or relatives to meet the man and then ask them to give you their honest opinion.

PS. A Canadian esthetician could possibly land a job at one of the all-inclusive resorts here in DR. After you finish your education, if you wish to continue the relationship, perhaps you could come down here on your own and live for a year.
 

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he does know I'm a student in school and I do live with my parents.. he asked me what was more important in my life a million dollars or true love... anyways theres tons that I left out here if you want to know more ask I have details details details.... comments are good as well

thanks

I think that you really need to have this conversation with your Dad and follow his advice on the matter. I can tell you that if one of my daughters wants to leave my roof to spend a Month with a guy in the Dominican Republic or across town I want to meet him first and get a sense of who he is.

As far as getting a job as an "aesthetician" there, I wouldn't be surprised if 10% of the Women in the Dominican Republic between 25-45 are licensed cosmetologists. Dominican hair and beauty workers are the country's second largest export. There's a lot of competition and the pay sucks.
 

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Please, let's leave the assumptions that these kinds of posters are fake, sock puppets, etc. The moderators will take care of these assumptions.

What is the purpose of this forum if everyone who post are considered fakes?

No wonder AnnaC retired.:ermm::tired::tired::tired:
 

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I think that you really need to have this conversation with your Dad and follow his advice on the matter. I can tell you that if one of my daughters wants to leave my roof to spend a Month with a guy in the Dominican Republic or across town I want to meet him first and get a sense of who he is.

As far as getting a job as an "aesthetician" there, I wouldn't be surprised if 10% of the Women in the Dominican Republic between 25-45 are licensed cosmetologists. Dominican hair and beauty workers are the country's second largest export. There's a lot of competition and the pay sucks.

EXCELLENT ADVICE!!!!!! When it comes to something as serious as this, speak to your parents. They know you better than a group of anonymous posters on the internet.
 

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You should go, but get your own place, not live under his roof.

But the reality is that you won't really get to really know him after 1 month (at least not enough for a life long commitment).
 

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Well my parents do know about him and have talked to him on the phone as well... He even asked my mom for permission to take me out of my hotel ... And I'm definitely finishing school here first ... My dad already knows and actually enjoys him..
 

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Well my parents do know about him and have talked to him on the phone as well... He even asked my mom for permission to take me out of my hotel ... And I'm definitely finishing school here first ... My dad already knows and actually enjoys him..

Well what did you expect to accomplish by posting on here for advice/opinions, you know it all so just get on with it.
 

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Well my parents do know about him and have talked to him on the phone as well... He even asked my mom for permission to take me out of my hotel ... And I'm definitely finishing school here first ... My dad already knows and actually enjoys him..

OK

AnnaC ask "what is the real question here?"

Anastacio says "Well what did you expect to accomplish by posting on here for advice/opinions, you know it all so just get on with it.

I say WHAT DO YOU WANT THEN?

Do you want our blessing?

NOT!!!!
 
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