Hi all, looking for advice really and i know how some of that advice can sometimes be harsh but i can take it!
I am currently about 2 years into a relationship with a wonderful Dominican man, I am a CAnadian Citizen and met him whilst working in th DR. As soon as we met we just clicked, within a week his stuff had gradually moved into my apartment and we spent every night/day/spare minute together. We would not go out to discos or clubs, just preferred to spend night in watching DVDs, chilling out..that sort of thing. This continued for about 7 months, then I had to move back to Canada for work. The last day was very sad and tearful and I actually thought that it would go no further. I know all about sankies as I lived in the DR for 1 1/2 years before I met him and had my fair share trying their luck!! May I add during the 7 months he didnt ask for any money and I visited his family home a few times and met his very religious parents!! They are lovely and kind and very welcoming!
When I left we decided to keep in touch via Skype/MSN/Facebook and telephone. Without fail 3 - 4 times a day we would make contact either by him calling me or me calling him. I then returned for a vacation about 5 months after I left him and spent an amazing week together, where he gave me a beautiful engagement ring, engraved with the date. This is where we decided that what we had had a future and just wasnt a fling. Again I spent some time with his family and friends in his home town which was lovely and as I speak Spainish I got to know them well.
I unfortunatly havent seen him again for about 5/6 months due to work. However we speak every day 4 - 5times, both through him calling me, me calling him, skype msn etc etc. We can spend hours just talking about general life and our future. He has never asked for money NEVER and apparently have no interest in moving to Canada as of yet. He actually has asked me to move back to DR to be with him and I will be relocating in about 3 weeks to start our future. He has found us an apartment and paid the deposit and will be paying 1/2 the rent.
He seems to be genuinly in love with me. Of course its not all happy..we argue like most couples.usually about jealousy as we cant be with each other, but we work through it. In the past I believe he has tried to play women....but for some reason when he tells me he loves me I believe him completley.
I need to add he works in a resort as a receptionist, so that put up a red flag, but he knows i hate it so has said he will look for alternative work when I get back.....He wants us to move to his home town to be close to his family and I want to live in Bavaro to find a good job.
He isnt rushing me to get married............he says if i never marry him its ok as long as we are together........and as I said hes willing to pay 1/2 to everything.
I read on these forums about sankies and I worry like my family oeos that I am getting played. I genuinly dont think I am, I just want to see what you guys opinions are to be honest, It would be nice to hear an outsiders point of view even if it may be harsh.......
I am currently about 2 years into a relationship with a wonderful Dominican man, I am a CAnadian Citizen and met him whilst working in th DR. As soon as we met we just clicked, within a week his stuff had gradually moved into my apartment and we spent every night/day/spare minute together. We would not go out to discos or clubs, just preferred to spend night in watching DVDs, chilling out..that sort of thing. This continued for about 7 months, then I had to move back to Canada for work. The last day was very sad and tearful and I actually thought that it would go no further. I know all about sankies as I lived in the DR for 1 1/2 years before I met him and had my fair share trying their luck!! May I add during the 7 months he didnt ask for any money and I visited his family home a few times and met his very religious parents!! They are lovely and kind and very welcoming!
When I left we decided to keep in touch via Skype/MSN/Facebook and telephone. Without fail 3 - 4 times a day we would make contact either by him calling me or me calling him. I then returned for a vacation about 5 months after I left him and spent an amazing week together, where he gave me a beautiful engagement ring, engraved with the date. This is where we decided that what we had had a future and just wasnt a fling. Again I spent some time with his family and friends in his home town which was lovely and as I speak Spainish I got to know them well.
I unfortunatly havent seen him again for about 5/6 months due to work. However we speak every day 4 - 5times, both through him calling me, me calling him, skype msn etc etc. We can spend hours just talking about general life and our future. He has never asked for money NEVER and apparently have no interest in moving to Canada as of yet. He actually has asked me to move back to DR to be with him and I will be relocating in about 3 weeks to start our future. He has found us an apartment and paid the deposit and will be paying 1/2 the rent.
He seems to be genuinly in love with me. Of course its not all happy..we argue like most couples.usually about jealousy as we cant be with each other, but we work through it. In the past I believe he has tried to play women....but for some reason when he tells me he loves me I believe him completley.
I need to add he works in a resort as a receptionist, so that put up a red flag, but he knows i hate it so has said he will look for alternative work when I get back.....He wants us to move to his home town to be close to his family and I want to live in Bavaro to find a good job.
He isnt rushing me to get married............he says if i never marry him its ok as long as we are together........and as I said hes willing to pay 1/2 to everything.
I read on these forums about sankies and I worry like my family oeos that I am getting played. I genuinly dont think I am, I just want to see what you guys opinions are to be honest, It would be nice to hear an outsiders point of view even if it may be harsh.......
