Hey all,
Before you continue to read this post, I should warn you that, yes, this is in fact ANOTHER post about sanky panky in the Dominican Republic. While I am sure that all of us here (myself included) are damn well fed up of hearing pathetic story after pathetic story, I am (sadly) here today to feed the fire. At risk of sounding like I am covering up my own pathetic story with the old "my FRIEND, Jane, went to the DR and fell in love with this guy and SHE wants to know what his motives are..." excuse, I really am here to tell a story that is not my own. Sadly, this sankie situation does not revolve around me, because I already know what his motives are, and I would gladly tell him where to put it. After reading articles, forums, and watching videos, I was able to distinguish his disgusting qualities from the get-go. He is, hands down, without a hitch, a S-A-N-K-I-E. Yeah, I hear ya...this is all fine and dandy for me, but my sister is another story. Yes people, she's real- all 5 foot 6 inches of her. She is beautiful, educated, witty, NAIVE and HARD HEADED. Although I will be telling you her story, I am not asking you all to tell me if he is a sankie...I am asking you to tell HER. I am at my wits end, and I have to turn to a forum to (hopefully?) get through to her. You can be brutally honest-she needs to hear it from someone who doesn't know her-from people that are not afraid to hurt her feelings. Like we have all heard before, her Dominican is different. He's special, and he loves her (not his fiance). Here's the story...have at it.
We have a big family and go down south every winter, most often to the Dominican Republic. Immediate family, extended family, close family friends-a huge group of us. We first met my sister's sankie in March of 2011. A resort worker (in animation), good looking, big personality, outgoing, very likeable. He took a liking to our family right away. We are a big fun group and yes, we can be loud and crazy. He stuck close-by to us for most of that week, stopping to talk to us, dance with us, get us to join in on the animation activities/nightly shows. He was a funny guy, we didn't mind his daily visits. As the days went on, we eventually learned a bit about his personal life and about his job on the resort. We enjoy the people of the Dominican Republic, they are beautiful people with good hearts (for the most part), and we do like to learn about their lifestyle and culture and enjoy exchanging pleasantries with those who work there and work hard to make your stay memorable.
We came to learn that he had been working there for several years, but that this was not what he wanted to do for the rest of his life. He told us about his family in New York (his fiance and his child), and told us how he had not seen them in a very long time but was trying to work hard to eventually be with them for the long-haul. Naturally, regardless of his motives for telling us this story, any human would feel a pang of sadness for how difficult life can be. I too felt sorry for him, because at this point, I didn't really know what he was all about. When we left at the end of that week, we all said our goodbyes to the people we had met there, this guy included. He told us to stay in touch and to tell him if we were ever going to come back. We obliged and left Punta Cana with great memories from a wonderful trip. From that point on we received a single e-mail from him telling us that he enjoyed meeting us and hoped to see us all in the future. Thats it, thats all. Seemed innocent. This is where our relationship (my family and I) with him ended and my sister's relationship with him continued.
She returned to the DR alone 8 months later with a few of her girlfriends, to the same resort, where he was still working. To my knowledge, there were no romantic conversations between the two of them in between her first and second visit-all friendly. Upon arriving back home after this second trip, she was still not romantically involved with him, but I could tell that she was "taken" with him and had developed some sort of attachment to him. She received gifts from him while she was there and by the looks of her photos/stories was showered with a lot of attention. My sister is a very kind woman and has a big heart-she means well. She revealed to me that she had given him 500$ on her last day. She explained that he did not ask for money nor hint at it, but that she felt as though she needed to help him get to his family. This...was her second mistake. The first mistake was returning to the same hotel. Of course, his interest in my sister skyrocketed after this trip. They skyped daily, shared phone calls and spoke on facebook almost everyday. Still, she insisted that there was nothing romantic between the two of them and that he was simply a good friend who she had helped in a small way. He was extremely smart with her. He kept her close as a "buddy" for a very long time. Made her feel special and gave her attention.
After a few months of constant skyping he told her these words, and I wont forget them because this is the exact moment I knew that he was a Sankie.... "do you ever think about you and me...together?". Her reaction to this scared me. She was confused because he was engaged to be married, but she had been developing feelings for him over a period of time.I tried my best to caution her. I directed her to this very site and told her to read the articles and to look at the number of girls who post on here with similar stories, she read a handful of them before she dubbed him as.............. different. She told me that he was not in love with his fiance-he had told her this so it must be true. He was telling her things that made me laugh but made her swoon. How scary is that? these guys are good. He had laid down the perfect foundation with her by creating a relationship with her family and revealing his painful problems with his family. He knew exactly how to get her to dish out what he wanted. From that moment, their skype sessions and phone calls escalated to talk of her going back to visit his hometown, and to him asking her if she was crazy enough to marry him. SANKIE ALERT! SANKIE ALERT!!!
he asked her to write him a letter of invitation so that he could come visit her country for a few months, and when that fell through she planned to go see him as soon as she could get time off of work. He began telling her that he loved her and that he wanted to be with her (yet he was still with his fiance and had a family to take care of....interesting).
It wasn't until last week that he straight up asked her for money. She called me telling me that he needed money to buy something very expensive and he couldnt afford it right now. He assured her that he would pay her back. She told him that she didn't feel comfortable sending money through the mail, and that she would much rather come see him during the holidays and give it to him then. IS SHE CRAZY?! This is why I am here writing to you all in this forum. No matter what I say, and how hard I try to get through to her, she believes that he is a good guy. As I write this to you, she is currently heartbroken. She is trying desperately to contact him, but he has gone MIA and will not return her calls. She has recently found out via facebook that his fiance is moving to the DR, and that they will be married within the next month, yet she is STILL making excuses for him... Oh how I wish I could shake her.... Considering all of the information that has been made accessible to my sister, she still believes that he will leave his fiance.
PLEASE, members, have at it. Let your honesty shine....but remember, dont be (too) mean, she is my sister and I am doing this because I love her and want her to be rid of this $%&#head
I look forward to sharing your wisdom with her.
Before you continue to read this post, I should warn you that, yes, this is in fact ANOTHER post about sanky panky in the Dominican Republic. While I am sure that all of us here (myself included) are damn well fed up of hearing pathetic story after pathetic story, I am (sadly) here today to feed the fire. At risk of sounding like I am covering up my own pathetic story with the old "my FRIEND, Jane, went to the DR and fell in love with this guy and SHE wants to know what his motives are..." excuse, I really am here to tell a story that is not my own. Sadly, this sankie situation does not revolve around me, because I already know what his motives are, and I would gladly tell him where to put it. After reading articles, forums, and watching videos, I was able to distinguish his disgusting qualities from the get-go. He is, hands down, without a hitch, a S-A-N-K-I-E. Yeah, I hear ya...this is all fine and dandy for me, but my sister is another story. Yes people, she's real- all 5 foot 6 inches of her. She is beautiful, educated, witty, NAIVE and HARD HEADED. Although I will be telling you her story, I am not asking you all to tell me if he is a sankie...I am asking you to tell HER. I am at my wits end, and I have to turn to a forum to (hopefully?) get through to her. You can be brutally honest-she needs to hear it from someone who doesn't know her-from people that are not afraid to hurt her feelings. Like we have all heard before, her Dominican is different. He's special, and he loves her (not his fiance). Here's the story...have at it.
We have a big family and go down south every winter, most often to the Dominican Republic. Immediate family, extended family, close family friends-a huge group of us. We first met my sister's sankie in March of 2011. A resort worker (in animation), good looking, big personality, outgoing, very likeable. He took a liking to our family right away. We are a big fun group and yes, we can be loud and crazy. He stuck close-by to us for most of that week, stopping to talk to us, dance with us, get us to join in on the animation activities/nightly shows. He was a funny guy, we didn't mind his daily visits. As the days went on, we eventually learned a bit about his personal life and about his job on the resort. We enjoy the people of the Dominican Republic, they are beautiful people with good hearts (for the most part), and we do like to learn about their lifestyle and culture and enjoy exchanging pleasantries with those who work there and work hard to make your stay memorable.
We came to learn that he had been working there for several years, but that this was not what he wanted to do for the rest of his life. He told us about his family in New York (his fiance and his child), and told us how he had not seen them in a very long time but was trying to work hard to eventually be with them for the long-haul. Naturally, regardless of his motives for telling us this story, any human would feel a pang of sadness for how difficult life can be. I too felt sorry for him, because at this point, I didn't really know what he was all about. When we left at the end of that week, we all said our goodbyes to the people we had met there, this guy included. He told us to stay in touch and to tell him if we were ever going to come back. We obliged and left Punta Cana with great memories from a wonderful trip. From that point on we received a single e-mail from him telling us that he enjoyed meeting us and hoped to see us all in the future. Thats it, thats all. Seemed innocent. This is where our relationship (my family and I) with him ended and my sister's relationship with him continued.
She returned to the DR alone 8 months later with a few of her girlfriends, to the same resort, where he was still working. To my knowledge, there were no romantic conversations between the two of them in between her first and second visit-all friendly. Upon arriving back home after this second trip, she was still not romantically involved with him, but I could tell that she was "taken" with him and had developed some sort of attachment to him. She received gifts from him while she was there and by the looks of her photos/stories was showered with a lot of attention. My sister is a very kind woman and has a big heart-she means well. She revealed to me that she had given him 500$ on her last day. She explained that he did not ask for money nor hint at it, but that she felt as though she needed to help him get to his family. This...was her second mistake. The first mistake was returning to the same hotel. Of course, his interest in my sister skyrocketed after this trip. They skyped daily, shared phone calls and spoke on facebook almost everyday. Still, she insisted that there was nothing romantic between the two of them and that he was simply a good friend who she had helped in a small way. He was extremely smart with her. He kept her close as a "buddy" for a very long time. Made her feel special and gave her attention.
After a few months of constant skyping he told her these words, and I wont forget them because this is the exact moment I knew that he was a Sankie.... "do you ever think about you and me...together?". Her reaction to this scared me. She was confused because he was engaged to be married, but she had been developing feelings for him over a period of time.I tried my best to caution her. I directed her to this very site and told her to read the articles and to look at the number of girls who post on here with similar stories, she read a handful of them before she dubbed him as.............. different. She told me that he was not in love with his fiance-he had told her this so it must be true. He was telling her things that made me laugh but made her swoon. How scary is that? these guys are good. He had laid down the perfect foundation with her by creating a relationship with her family and revealing his painful problems with his family. He knew exactly how to get her to dish out what he wanted. From that moment, their skype sessions and phone calls escalated to talk of her going back to visit his hometown, and to him asking her if she was crazy enough to marry him. SANKIE ALERT! SANKIE ALERT!!!
he asked her to write him a letter of invitation so that he could come visit her country for a few months, and when that fell through she planned to go see him as soon as she could get time off of work. He began telling her that he loved her and that he wanted to be with her (yet he was still with his fiance and had a family to take care of....interesting).
It wasn't until last week that he straight up asked her for money. She called me telling me that he needed money to buy something very expensive and he couldnt afford it right now. He assured her that he would pay her back. She told him that she didn't feel comfortable sending money through the mail, and that she would much rather come see him during the holidays and give it to him then. IS SHE CRAZY?! This is why I am here writing to you all in this forum. No matter what I say, and how hard I try to get through to her, she believes that he is a good guy. As I write this to you, she is currently heartbroken. She is trying desperately to contact him, but he has gone MIA and will not return her calls. She has recently found out via facebook that his fiance is moving to the DR, and that they will be married within the next month, yet she is STILL making excuses for him... Oh how I wish I could shake her.... Considering all of the information that has been made accessible to my sister, she still believes that he will leave his fiance.
PLEASE, members, have at it. Let your honesty shine....but remember, dont be (too) mean, she is my sister and I am doing this because I love her and want her to be rid of this $%&#head
I look forward to sharing your wisdom with her.
