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    Quote Originally Posted by Cdn_Gringo View Post
    Good luck. Middle and upper class Doms have no interest in sharing their space with gringo tourists. The rest of them live in hovels that your local planning dept. would condemn in an instant to erect a plastic play structure. Semi solid walls, with a few corrugated iron sheets that constitute a roof. Locals already have an extended family on site and any extra room is taken up by livestock they wish to protect at night.

    The cultural experience you are seeking is not readily available here. Anyone offering such will be a part of the "tourist industry" and will expect to be paid for their time and effort. If you don't live here you and your family will probably get sick from the water used to wash the glasses or the plates.

    As you have or will read on DR1, there is a distinct difference in general attitude here. Many do not share our values because they can only dream of being in a situation to do so. Many times, short term gains trump any thought of repercussions or the interests and the welfare of others. It is unwise to assume that someone you do not know will be inclined to be hospitable and of honorable intent. Getting into a situation where you give up all control is a recipe for disaster.

    There are lots of good people here, you just can't find them on the internet because they don't have a website. You must always remember that the DR is an "upper" third world country. It's citizens are not like the people in the state/province next door. I don't think you would seek out a random family to share Easter with in Camden New Jersey, you should not have the inclination to attempt the same here.

    Okay, what a moron post mine was. I am really grateful to this forum already. Tough love. Calling people out
    just to keep them safe. I am very appreciative of the insight. Looking at the posts, pretty dumb to think we
    could blend in or be a part. BUT, I meant no disrespect to anyone local. Just wanted to get a feel for another's
    traditions. It does sound like a crazy time to be there and we are not at a resort. SOOOOOOO---I will take all
    of your advice..(most) and stay low.

    MikeFisher you are right===Americans wouldn't take an unknown in to celebrate anything. Why do you all
    love to live there so much? It sounds bad if you are a gringo. I am still looking forward to our visit and trip. No news at 11 for us. Thanks everyone for your comments and real advice. Cant get this anywhere else.

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    take the advice....
    go visit the beach, you may find a group who speaks English and will be happy to spend some time with you

    They'll have rum, beer, you name it.. and will be willing to share... you can do the same

    That's how to do it if you ask me.....just let it happen

    have fun, but remember, for many its a family time - a once a year get together
    they may not be willing to give up that private time...

    I know I don't........

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    Quote Originally Posted by william webster View Post
    take the advice....
    go visit the beach, you may find a group who speaks English and will be happy to spend some time with you

    They'll have rum, beer, you name it.. and will be willing to share... you can do the same

    That's how to do it if you ask me.....just let it happen

    have fun, but remember, for many its a family time - a once a year get together
    they may not be willing to give up that private time...

    I know I don't........
    WilliamWebster--Thanks, that means a lot and is a good point. Family time (and vacation time for that matter) are sacred in most cultures, so I should respect theirs. I think we shall be observers and like you said, if we happen to meet anyone local to toast with, so be it. We will also be with our own family, so will be spending that time together as well. Again, this is a great fourm. It is sure tough love, but in a good way. No complaints!

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    Quote Originally Posted by william webster View Post
    take the advice....
    go visit the beach, you may find a group who speaks English and will be happy to spend some time with you

    They'll have rum, beer, you name it.. and will be willing to share... you can do the same

    That's how to do it if you ask me.....just let it happen

    have fun, but remember, for many its a family time - a once a year get together
    they may not be willing to give up that private time...

    I know I don't........
    WilliamWebster--Thanks, that means a lot and is a good point. Family time (and vacation time for that matter) are sacred in most cultures, so I should respect theirs. I think we shall be observers and like you said, if we happen to meet anyone local to toast with, so be it. We will also be with our own family, so will be spending that time together as well. Again, this is a great fourm. It is sure tough love, but in a good way. No complaints!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brookelemongotsoul View Post
    Okay, what a moron post mine was. I am really grateful to this forum already. Tough love. Calling people out
    just to keep them safe. I am very appreciative of the insight. Looking at the posts, pretty dumb to think we
    could blend in or be a part. BUT, I meant no disrespect to anyone local. Just wanted to get a feel for another's
    traditions. It does sound like a crazy time to be there and we are not at a resort. SOOOOOOO---I will take all
    of your advice..(most) and stay low.

    MikeFisher you are right===Americans wouldn't take an unknown in to celebrate anything. Why do you all
    love to live there so much? It sounds bad if you are a gringo. I am still looking forward to our visit and trip. No news at 11 for us. Thanks everyone for your comments and real advice. Cant get this anywhere else.
    Bad??
    what of the above written would be any bad for a Gringo?
    it is fantatsic for gringos and negros and yellow ones and pink or whatsoeverones alike.
    just do not bother strangers and their families on a traditional family weekend/week by knowcking their door as a tourist wanting to Observe and Experience their way of running a family holiday weekend.
    what family weekend would that be with some drinking strangers walking thru the garden?
    we have here at my place(i am a gringo, yes) foreigners and local family and friends as guests, we have this year again rented a additional appartment right aside our one beachplace to have enough space for them to spend the weekend without the need to drive home each evening. big BBQ on the beach, filled coolers, the girls and kids attend church, it is a fantastic time and i enjoy it again and again every year, all week long. at least on 2 days during that week we pack one BBQ and a big cooler on the Truck and ride with some cars to a different beach for the day, beaches in Uvero Alto mostly.
    just, why would someone invite strangers, and strangers from an other country which may not even speak our language, why would someone invite such folks to such family week/weekend?
    once someone lifes here permanently for some years and has relations with local people, for biz or private, then it starts that a Gringo will be invited to participate in family activities.
    everything else is named excursions and can be booked at the resort tourdesks and online with the touroperators, lol.
    i imagine myself on a plane this easter weekend, grab a rental car at Miami Intl, drive over to beautiful Tampa Bay and knock the door of a random average house there, "Hey Folks, I am Mike, I have a sixer Bud Light from the Gas station, some choco eggs stuffed with 1 bucks bills hidden in your backyard, I will spend this weekend with you folks to experience your freakin' culture.
    naaaa, first Obama has to take all those dangerous guns away, most likely a big dog would eat me first anyways when hopping over a fence to hide some easter eggs in the yard, jeje

    Mike

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brookelemongotsoul View Post
    WilliamWebster--Thanks, that means a lot and is a good point. Family time (and vacation time for that matter) are sacred in most cultures, so I should respect theirs. I think we shall be observers and like you said, if we happen to meet anyone local to toast with, so be it. We will also be with our own family, so will be spending that time together as well. Again, this is a great fourm. It is sure tough love, but in a good way. No complaints!
    where ever out of the house, like on a beach for example, it is very easy to mingle with most dominican families. here also ma stranger is welcome to grab a traguito or take a piece from the BBQ, within most families hanging out you will find at least one person who speaks some english, enough to be nice and have some laughs and a drink.

    Mike

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    Mike--point taken. I got the feeling that gringos were treated differently. Sounds like your family has wonderful traditions and great plans for the week. Again, my post was pretty na´ve and although I feel stupid, I am glad I asked. I have been plenty of places where we have been incorporated into local life, but I'm not one to knock on someone's door, get drunk or crash their occasions. Maybe we will catch a plane to Miami instead. lol---enjoy your week with your family and friends. I won't crash your party!

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    I must be one of the wild ones. I once spent the day (Semana Santa) with a family I did not know. It was my second trip to the DR.
    I met a man on the plane flying down to spend the holiday with his family. He invited me to his Mother's house in Santo Domingo for lunch.
    Myself and a friend took a taxi and we ended up having a great time. Lot's of family there. The neighbors came over. The father had a tour bus and took us to visit and party along the Malecon.
    We ended up staying the night at the Mother's house and the father drove us back to Juan Dolio in the morning.
    I admit that I was a little afraid of the father but we ended up safely back where we started from.
    This was all before DR1. Would I do it now if I had read all the warnings here? Nope.
    I am so glad some of us had to learn on our own how to enjoy the DR.
    I admit that now I would not move back to Juan Dolio or Santo Domingo again. Both places appear to be too dangerous for my liking. Times have changed!

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    Quote Originally Posted by dulce View Post
    I must be one of the wild ones. I once spent the day (Semana Santa) with a family I did not know. It was my second trip to the DR.
    I met a man on the plane flying down to spend the holiday with his family. He invited me to his Mother's house in Santo Domingo for lunch.
    Myself and a friend took a taxi and we ended up having a great time. Lot's of family there. The neighbors came over. The father had a tour bus and took us to visit and party along the Malecon.
    We ended up staying the night at the Mother's house and the father drove us back to Juan Dolio in the morning.
    I admit that I was a little afraid of the father but we ended up safely back where we started from.
    This was all before DR1. Would I do it now if I had read all the warnings here? Nope.
    I am so glad some of us had to learn on our own how to enjoy the DR.
    I admit that now I would not move back to Juan Dolio or Santo Domingo again. Both places appear to be too dangerous for my liking. Times have changed!
    Dulce--Sounds like yours was the exception and a long time ago--but what a fun way to see life in another culture. Thinking back to my past experiences with locals, we have always known someone to be the liaison--in other words we haven't randomly knocked on a door or walked up to someone and asked ourselves over for dinner. (although that is what my post inferred)...
    I think we will stick with a pot of spaghetti on the beach. haha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brookelemongotsoul View Post
    Dulce--Sounds like yours was the exception and a long time ago--but what a fun way to see life in another culture. Thinking back to my past experiences with locals, we have always known someone to be the liaison--in other words we haven't randomly knocked on a door or walked up to someone and asked ourselves over for dinner. (although that is what my post inferred)...
    I think we will stick with a pot of spaghetti on the beach. haha.
    That is a good choice for you now. I would not do it in these times.
    By the way I am a woman too. Things were safer back then.

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