Last time I went to the DR it kind of felt like I'd arrived in heaven. The way hot girls would look at me and make advances towards me was amazing. I wasn't looking for prostitution, but I was looking for casual relationships with girls there. At the time I didn't feel any guilt about doing this, it just felt like I was putting myself in an environment that's easier for me to thrive in than the US, given that I'm pretty introverted. I'd spent a year and a half learning Spanish for opportunities like this.
Now I've read on other forums that for guys to go to other less developed countries to get laid is desperate (signalling they can't get laid in the US) and exploitative, because somehow there's a huge wealth/power gap between those in the US and other countries. A lot of these conversations have come up in the context of guys going to SE Asia, countries like Thailand, where I'm guessing they borderline worship white guys to an extent they don't in the DR. But the DR has come up too since I know sex tourism, some of it probably exploitative, is a really big industry there.
I guess I'm just wondering if it's possible for a white male to go to the DR and seek short-term opportunities with non-prostitute women without it being this horrible racist/exploitative thing. Obviously my appeal as a foreigner/someone with perceived wealth and status is part of what makes me attractive to women there, but isn't it kind of condescending to assume that all the women who are attracted to me don't have agency to make the best choice for themselves/are all hooking up with me out of economic desperation? The girls who I talked to on ????? last time seemed like they were intelligent independent women, although I'm not sure of their economic background. I'm just wondering where the line is, because I want to be able to go on vacations to the DR and have enjoyable relationships, without feeling like I'm treating anyone disrespectfully/unfairly. I'm curious to hear the opinions of Dominicans and if you think Gringos who come to the country interested in opportunities with women are all assholes.
Now I've read on other forums that for guys to go to other less developed countries to get laid is desperate (signalling they can't get laid in the US) and exploitative, because somehow there's a huge wealth/power gap between those in the US and other countries. A lot of these conversations have come up in the context of guys going to SE Asia, countries like Thailand, where I'm guessing they borderline worship white guys to an extent they don't in the DR. But the DR has come up too since I know sex tourism, some of it probably exploitative, is a really big industry there.
I guess I'm just wondering if it's possible for a white male to go to the DR and seek short-term opportunities with non-prostitute women without it being this horrible racist/exploitative thing. Obviously my appeal as a foreigner/someone with perceived wealth and status is part of what makes me attractive to women there, but isn't it kind of condescending to assume that all the women who are attracted to me don't have agency to make the best choice for themselves/are all hooking up with me out of economic desperation? The girls who I talked to on ????? last time seemed like they were intelligent independent women, although I'm not sure of their economic background. I'm just wondering where the line is, because I want to be able to go on vacations to the DR and have enjoyable relationships, without feeling like I'm treating anyone disrespectfully/unfairly. I'm curious to hear the opinions of Dominicans and if you think Gringos who come to the country interested in opportunities with women are all assholes.
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