sade, wrong start. We like our board members to be simple as opposed to complicated. You can be rude but if you are easy to figure out, you will be accepted as family. However from reading your post, i am sure that you are a female, perhaps, an ugly one, but a female indeed.
About name changing business:
You are a newbee so you haven't noticed that we all change our nick names to pretend to be someone else. Sort of like a role playing game. Jazzcom becomes AZB and I take over Jazzcom. Then we try to set up each other with tonyC and call each other gay; ofcourse, tonyC is not always the real Mecoy so be careful. Janice is another favorite personality and we all pretend to be her except her cyber boyfriend TonyC. IloveDr also changes to many names so now you have your warning. I had changed my name from jazzcom to TonyC to janice to finally, when my intellectual personality took over, to PIB. I just love to see how people treat her on the chat (I mean the fake PIB).
Anyway, its all in good fun and laughter (may not be in good humor). sade, take it easy and don't try to burn up your precious brain cells to figure us out. Just play along and stop judging people. We are here to help you. After-all, its DR1 and we love every newbee that come along to seek help.
By the way, don't get confused if you won't be able to come online as sade, you just find yourself online and chatting already. hehehehehe