I am new to this board, so please indulge me a little.
I have just come back from my second trip to the DR since May - and already want to go back.
Who am I and what am I all about? Well, I am Canadian, mid to late 30s, married for close to 10 years.
I love to travel, my husband does not. I went on this last trip on my own. What an experience!!!
The first trip was with my mom. One of the bartenders kept telling me that I am muy bonita (which I am not) and "te quiero". I kept saying that I am married - that didn't matter to him. I was flattered, but didn't think much of it.
Fast forward to this trip. On my own, looking for just some relaxation and down time. Same bartender, same charm...only much more so, probably since I was on my own. I have to admit that there was a part of me that was VERY tempted. The intensity of the looks kept getting more and more by the end of the week. I was feeling more beautiful, sexier, more desirable than I had ever felt in my life (or at least remembered feeling)! Didn't do anything about it - I do value my marriage and the trust that my husband and I have - but the fantasies were very nice! He kept asking me to go out with him and I said no right to the end.
To make a long story short, I gave him the camera I had taken down with me - not an expensive one, but still a decent one. I had bought one that I would not mind losing if it developed legs and walked away while I was at the beach etc. It cost me about $20 Canadian. Since my Spanish is limited and his English is about as good as my Spanish, we weren't really able to communicate that well, but it seemed like he appreciated the present. We parted with a hug and kisses on both cheeks.
I am not under the delusion that I am the great love of his life, nor that he is not using the same lines on any other girl he can. My take on it is... He got a new camera. I got a week of feeling young, beautiful and sexy (and the motivation to go back to watching my weight and exercising so that I can feel good about myself on my own). Frankly, I think I got the better end of the deal!
Life is what you make it. Every relationship you enter into, no matter how serious (or not) gives something to both parties. That's what makes us human. You just have to figure out whether it has reached the point that you are being taken advantage of.
All I can say is, I am planning another trip there for mid next year (once I have more vacation time). Should be very interesting. Not sure whether my hubby will be so quick to let me go on my own again (but I think he will).
Take care!
I have just come back from my second trip to the DR since May - and already want to go back.
Who am I and what am I all about? Well, I am Canadian, mid to late 30s, married for close to 10 years.
I love to travel, my husband does not. I went on this last trip on my own. What an experience!!!
The first trip was with my mom. One of the bartenders kept telling me that I am muy bonita (which I am not) and "te quiero". I kept saying that I am married - that didn't matter to him. I was flattered, but didn't think much of it.
Fast forward to this trip. On my own, looking for just some relaxation and down time. Same bartender, same charm...only much more so, probably since I was on my own. I have to admit that there was a part of me that was VERY tempted. The intensity of the looks kept getting more and more by the end of the week. I was feeling more beautiful, sexier, more desirable than I had ever felt in my life (or at least remembered feeling)! Didn't do anything about it - I do value my marriage and the trust that my husband and I have - but the fantasies were very nice! He kept asking me to go out with him and I said no right to the end.
To make a long story short, I gave him the camera I had taken down with me - not an expensive one, but still a decent one. I had bought one that I would not mind losing if it developed legs and walked away while I was at the beach etc. It cost me about $20 Canadian. Since my Spanish is limited and his English is about as good as my Spanish, we weren't really able to communicate that well, but it seemed like he appreciated the present. We parted with a hug and kisses on both cheeks.
I am not under the delusion that I am the great love of his life, nor that he is not using the same lines on any other girl he can. My take on it is... He got a new camera. I got a week of feeling young, beautiful and sexy (and the motivation to go back to watching my weight and exercising so that I can feel good about myself on my own). Frankly, I think I got the better end of the deal!
Life is what you make it. Every relationship you enter into, no matter how serious (or not) gives something to both parties. That's what makes us human. You just have to figure out whether it has reached the point that you are being taken advantage of.
All I can say is, I am planning another trip there for mid next year (once I have more vacation time). Should be very interesting. Not sure whether my hubby will be so quick to let me go on my own again (but I think he will).
Take care!