thanks anna, ive learned quite a bit about the dr people since i found this forum. im very impressed, and am seeing the light regarding their culture. regarding my friend in the dr, i know he is a sankie and i dont care, im not bothered by the fact that "it is the way of life" as i was once told, but im now wondering if what he tells me is really from his heart and not just bulls*** even though it'll be 5 more months until i see, him i have a lot of questions and it'll be interesting as to when i get there. im certainly not naive, and i realize he's not waiting for me, ha that would be an understatement, but lets just see as to whether he pays for anything when im there next. i know someof his family, and i am in contact with them all throughout the year, and i do hope they are genuine, as i would be let down if the whole family were sankies too.