For Negrecita2003 and NY1 among others
NY1, you proved me out. the guy worked at a resort but he went to college (hopefully even graduated)!! That is very different from the huge majority of cases where the poor fellow cannot even read or write, and just uses his "personality" to get ahead in life. Look, if this was an Italian board, I would probably be writing the same sort of stuff, these guys abound, and I think maybe you know it. Come to Santiago and I can show you where some really nice, educated, visa-holding, professional young men hang out.
Besides, did you say you were Dominican-American? Any Dominican female already knows what she is getting with a Dominican male. If she gets hurt, that is her fault. But a truly incredible number of foreigners manage to convert the smooth talk into "true love" and get really hurt.
Susiesue is trying to resolve a relationship issue. It is going to be hard enough without having her hopes dashed. Has she even thought at just what her "fianc?" is going to work at in the States? There are not a whole lot of jobs for this person: drive a taxi, but he has to at least be able to read and pass a driver's test; security guard; Mickey D; great prospects...might become Head Fryer?
Better to be harsh than crying with two kids to look after...
HB