I thought that I would pose a question to this forum because I've ended up in a bit of a predicament of sorts:
Took an elderly aunt on vacation to DR for some r&r in December after my uncle died. Obviously was lacking in the night-time companion department while there (by this I mean people to go out dancing with in the evening).
Went out the first two night with a nice "rich" dominican: brand new car, paid for all of my drinks etc. Unfortunately, these excursions were too "date-like," and I am engaged: Was concerned that my "date" might expect something of me that I made clear I wasn't prepared to do. Third day, decided to take up one of the Animation Team member's offer to take me out that night. Not being naive, I thought: This is what I need! I'll buy his drinks, we can dance all night, and I don't have to worry about him expecting anything from me! AND since he's animation, he has lots of girls to entertain, which will limit any possible attachment to me.
I did have lots of (innocent) fun that week. Exchanged numbers, figuring that we'd talk once in a while -- caught up in the moment. What a mistake.
Anyway, he has called me every day since. I've told him that I am engaged (to a Crown Attorney, no less, not a gas station attendant). Not only that, he knows that I have years of University and am very successful -- he on the other hand, is a compulsive liar. Which I have pointed out to him that I know, calling him on every lie he has said to me (like bartending in Switzerland, living in Spain for a while, having a degree).
I am now screening his calls, but the voice messages of loving me and missing me are getting ridiculous. We're bordering on three months of daily calls now! I am no stranger to having men fall in love with me, regardless of my best intentions to avoid it, but he absolutely refuses to listen to me!
My questions is this: Is there even a slim chance that he is being sincere, because if so, I don't want to be mean. I'll just continue screening and hopefully he will stop, eventually.
But if he is being incorrigible because he is hoping that it will eventually benefit him someday (against all rational possibilities), I'll let loose on him -- I am so annoyed. Why is he wasting his pesos???!!!
You have to understand, I carry around a lot of guilt for the hearts I've broken -- so I don't want to do it again. Could he possibly actually care about me??? (because he is not smart enough to realize how ridiculous that actually is!!!)
Piper
Took an elderly aunt on vacation to DR for some r&r in December after my uncle died. Obviously was lacking in the night-time companion department while there (by this I mean people to go out dancing with in the evening).
Went out the first two night with a nice "rich" dominican: brand new car, paid for all of my drinks etc. Unfortunately, these excursions were too "date-like," and I am engaged: Was concerned that my "date" might expect something of me that I made clear I wasn't prepared to do. Third day, decided to take up one of the Animation Team member's offer to take me out that night. Not being naive, I thought: This is what I need! I'll buy his drinks, we can dance all night, and I don't have to worry about him expecting anything from me! AND since he's animation, he has lots of girls to entertain, which will limit any possible attachment to me.
I did have lots of (innocent) fun that week. Exchanged numbers, figuring that we'd talk once in a while -- caught up in the moment. What a mistake.
Anyway, he has called me every day since. I've told him that I am engaged (to a Crown Attorney, no less, not a gas station attendant). Not only that, he knows that I have years of University and am very successful -- he on the other hand, is a compulsive liar. Which I have pointed out to him that I know, calling him on every lie he has said to me (like bartending in Switzerland, living in Spain for a while, having a degree).
I am now screening his calls, but the voice messages of loving me and missing me are getting ridiculous. We're bordering on three months of daily calls now! I am no stranger to having men fall in love with me, regardless of my best intentions to avoid it, but he absolutely refuses to listen to me!
My questions is this: Is there even a slim chance that he is being sincere, because if so, I don't want to be mean. I'll just continue screening and hopefully he will stop, eventually.
But if he is being incorrigible because he is hoping that it will eventually benefit him someday (against all rational possibilities), I'll let loose on him -- I am so annoyed. Why is he wasting his pesos???!!!
You have to understand, I carry around a lot of guilt for the hearts I've broken -- so I don't want to do it again. Could he possibly actually care about me??? (because he is not smart enough to realize how ridiculous that actually is!!!)
Piper
good luck