Ok, I read all the replies and this is a bit more background.
I was in DR for a month.
She worked at the hotel I was staying at, it wasn't a resort, It is a hotel my dad goes to when he goes to DR. MY dad knows the owner and the owner knows the girl's family aswell.
And My dad's friends go to the hotel to eat aswell and know her aswell. (atleast what they know from her interactions with clients, since it a small place)
both the owner and my dads friends (my dad checked up on her aswell) say she is an educated girl, comes from a well respected family, and they always heard guys (white americans, dominicans born in the US, and Dominicans) promising her riches, visas, cars...etc.. and she would tell them no, I have a man (when they were persistant) and no I don't want to date anyone.
I even (before I showed any interest in her) saw guys flirting with her and she wouldn't pay them no mind. But I used to talk to her more about what things can I do in DR, since it was my 1st time there and she would tell me tourist places to visit...etc,..
Then about my 2nd week there I started flirting with, nothing to heavy just little things, and she thought I was cute, but thought I was 21 years old, (I look young, godbless my dad and his younger than he looks genes
) so when she found out I was 28yrs old, and that I wanted to hang-out with and get to know her better she agreed to go on a date.
we went out and we discovered we had alot of things in common, we both want kids (Now!!!), We both were brought up, with the same humility and she and her family and my mom were raised in campos, which is a different lifestyle from the cities.
and as far as I know, she didn't give me any reason to doubt her, and I have a secret mole where she works who before I asked her to go out he told me she is a good girl, who doesn't flirt around, like alot of girls over there (I had to bat them away) and from what he tells me everytime I call her at her job she gets happy and they never seen her happy like that before. (I believe what he tells me cause he doesn't gain anything or loss anything from it, and he is an american (son of the owner) and he wouldn't let me mess around with any girls that wanted visas.
Also when I told her I wanted to be with her, and marry her she said that we didn't know eachother well enough to get married or talk about it (I said cause I wanted to see her reaction if it would be her saying yes right away) cause I met another girl, on a bus trip and she was already talking marriage
. But as time went on we knew we liked eachother and wanted to be together.
And her sister married an American man and they been together a couple of years now and they are happy together.
could it be that she sees her sister happy with with an american in america?
could be. I proposed that I would live in DR and she said she didn't care, as long as we were together , she said she could help me get a job over there and we could live together. Could it be a front, knowing or thinking I wouldn't follow through with moving to DR?
could be!! but I have to believe otherwise
and yes I love her
and I believe she loves me too.
I mostly asked cause my parents are worried she could be using me and I wanted to protect myself aswell