Mariposa, I see your point, but my feeling is that you belong where you want to.
I am not the typical Dominican either, here or there. The first thing that sets me apart from the rest of the Dominicans in my cypher is that I choose not to live "con un pie aqui y el otro alla" I dont want to save pesos, I dont want to own a house in San Cristobal - I want one near the beach, I rather have a house here in the States, I rather have a quality ride here than one stored in a marquesina so that I can drive it in December or a few weeks out of the year, I dont want to pay less for a mortgage or rent so that I can save and move there, I rather pay more and feel safe and have my kids go to a quality school system.
See, although many Dominicans mean well by saving and having something to 'fall back on' it is impossible to try to live a quality life in both places. They have to concentrate in either place and once stablished then we can move forward. Many of them, my family included, want to leave something behind for the kids, but in the meantime dont live in safe areas, live crowded and just dont live they way they can trying to live out this dream that has been instilled in them from other generations.
I break my mom's heart everytime I tell her I really dont want to buy that lot next door to her, or the house for sale accross the street, or the car the neighbor is selling... I have to get myself and my kids situated in the area I live in most of the time.
Ok, so back to the original question, I feel your pain: I dont really fit any mold either, I dont look Dominican, I'm not American, and in DR, I'm a Dom-York too - and I still go every year. In a way it is a catch 22, but is not so bad to not belong to someone else's mold, so I've created my own...