Okay, I feel as though I need to give some background about myself in order to tell this story properly. I am 22 years old, and an attractive female (meaning that I?ve had boyfriends both in the United States and abroad, and I don?t have self-confidence issues). I lived in the Dominican Republic in 2003 (from January until June) doing a research project for my University, and volunteering in Batey San Isidro. I graduated in December, and held down a job at the State Senate until September 1, and decided to spend this year in Santo Domingo teaching English and volunteering, before entering Graduate school. I plan on studying Comparative Politics of the Caribbean, so my time here this year is justified.
Anyway, I got here on Saturday, and have been staying with friends, trying to get acclimated here again. I broke up with a boyfriend of mine about 3 months ago, so I am single. On Monday I went to check something out at UNIBE and was a bit lost. I turned to the first person that I saw, his name is Amaurys.
Amaurys is cute, but not super-hot, and at times wears ?"nerdy" glasses that appeal to the intellectual part of me. Talking with him, I found out that he is a U.S. resident (he still goes back there to visit, but his mom lives here, so he decided to attend the University here). Because of this, I felt safe for 2 reasons: He is allowed to return to visit the U.S. (he didn?t get kicked out because of crime) and because he wouldn?t be trying to use me, as sometimes I feel as though I am carrying a sign that screams "Walking Visa to the United States". He also has his own car (not too nice, but not a junker), works for the "Port Authority", and paid for everything when we went out (yes, I know for 3 whole days - but still, this story has a point). He told me that he didn?t have a girlfriend, but I called him "tiguere" as a joke, and it offended him. He met some of my dominicana friends and they all said he was "buena gente" and that he was not a tiguere. The fact that he is stable, economically speaking, and that he was attending the university (not UNIBE where I met him, but INTEC) for Civil Engineering, also seemed to be good characteristics. I remembered reading Hillbilly?s 3 Rules that can help you determine whether or not your novio/a is a sankie, and he seemed to pass the test.
Today I went with him to lunch, and then we went to INTEC because he had class. His mom called him on his cell phone, and when she asked where he was, he told her that he was with me, at INTEC.
A few minutes later, his phone rang again. He picked it up, and when the person asked where he was, he didn?t mention that I was with him. Somehow, I realized that that wasn?t right, so I asked him about it. He told me that he was talking with his boss, and that since he was skipping out on work to be with me, he had to lie to his boss. That didn?t sit well with me for some reason. So I grabbed his cellphone out of his hand and called back the phone number of the last call that he had received (we were already making quite a scene at INTEC, and I?m sure that a rubia fighting a guy for his cellphone may have been a bit amusing for a few onlookers).
A girl answered his phone. I didn?t know what to say, so I asked who she was. She said her name was "Reni". If I had actually been calling his boss, I would think that the person who answered the phone would have said something more than "Hello". Anyway, she then asked me who I was, and I told her that I was a friend of a friend, not wanting to say everything right then.
Well, we hung up, and then Amaurys told me that Reni was a girl who was in love with him, but he didn?t love her, blah blah blah. Suddenly, he got a text message from that same number that said (this is a loose translation of her Spanish) "Diablo, who just called me from your phone?"... So I asked him why she would be asking such a thing.
He took his cellphone away, but I had already memorized Reni?s phone number. I had a Communicard with me, so I told him that I was going to call her back if he didn?t explain to me what was REALLY going on.
At this point I was calling him a mentiroso in a fairly loud voice, and I saw a few people giving us weird looks. He told me that we should go up by his class, and that we could talk there. I followed him. He tried to convince me that nothing was going on. I said, "Well, if nothing is going on, why don?t you call her back, and then maybe we can all hang out together. Wouldn?t that be fun?"...He said that we could do that later, and that I should go to a nearby internet site while he was in class, and then we would definitely call her when his class was over. I asked what she would say if I called her. His response was that, "She will tell you that she?s my novia because she?s in love with me". I said that he should be honest with her if he doesn?t love her, instead of leading her on. He said that he didn?t want to break her heart if she was in love with him.
I marched down the stairs toward the Verizon phones. He followed me, saying that he would NOW tell me the truth. I said, "What truth, you have alledgedly told me ?the truth?about 5 times today already"
He proceeded to tell me that she loves him, but he doesn?t love her. So I said that I was going to talk with her. Yes, this is when I become a heartless b..ch in this story.
I went to the Verizon phone and called her number. I asked her if she was Amaurys?s boyfriend. She said she was. I told her that he and I had been hanging out the past three days and that he had told me that he didn?t have a girlfriend. I told her that we hadn?t done anything (because we really didn?t- we hadn?t even kissed...we had held hands and cuddled a bit, but NOTHING more than that). I said that I had thought that maybe Amaurys and I would date, but that if she was really his girlfriend, that I wouldn?t feel very comfortable seeing him anymore (obviously). She said that she had been his girlfriend up until this point, but that she wasn?t anymore. I told her I was sorry (because I really, honestly felt bad for her - wow did I ever feel bad for her)...She told me not to worry, but as she was telling me this, I could hear her voice start to break, and she started to cry. I said I was sorry again, and then said good-bye.
Amaurys was VERY upset with me, saying that I hurt Reni?s feelings. I told him that he had hurt my feelings, and why did he treat women like toys? I told him to give me the keys to his car, so that way I could get my things out of his car and head to my friend?s house. He told me not to, and said "Let?s talk about this".
I said, "Okay, let?s talk. I respect myself too much to put up with this sort of s..t. I know that I am a good, intelligent, and attractive person, and that I deserve a man who respects me. I don?t want to be with men who treat women like this!".
Amaurys then told me "the truth". That he had " a thing" with her, but that their relationship had problems, and he was hoping to find a new girlfriend and THEN break up with her. I told him that I didn?t want to have any part in this, and that a strong person would end a relationship that they thought had problems that couldn?t be fixed. He said that he just couldn?t do that.
He ended up giving me a ride to a site close to my friend?s house (better than taking a gua-gua). I wouldn?t let him take me to my friend?s actual house, because I told him that I wouldn?t sleep well knowing that he knew where I was, because I have now lost all trust and confidence in him.
Sorry if this post makes me sound like I have a big ego, but I know that I deserve better than him. I don?t put the lyrics to Madonna?s "Express Yourself" next to my mirror for nothing!
Also, I do feel bad for Reni, but I am also glad that she knows that her novio was not the most faithful man in the world. Every girl deserves to know that, in my opinion.
Anyway, I got here on Saturday, and have been staying with friends, trying to get acclimated here again. I broke up with a boyfriend of mine about 3 months ago, so I am single. On Monday I went to check something out at UNIBE and was a bit lost. I turned to the first person that I saw, his name is Amaurys.
Amaurys is cute, but not super-hot, and at times wears ?"nerdy" glasses that appeal to the intellectual part of me. Talking with him, I found out that he is a U.S. resident (he still goes back there to visit, but his mom lives here, so he decided to attend the University here). Because of this, I felt safe for 2 reasons: He is allowed to return to visit the U.S. (he didn?t get kicked out because of crime) and because he wouldn?t be trying to use me, as sometimes I feel as though I am carrying a sign that screams "Walking Visa to the United States". He also has his own car (not too nice, but not a junker), works for the "Port Authority", and paid for everything when we went out (yes, I know for 3 whole days - but still, this story has a point). He told me that he didn?t have a girlfriend, but I called him "tiguere" as a joke, and it offended him. He met some of my dominicana friends and they all said he was "buena gente" and that he was not a tiguere. The fact that he is stable, economically speaking, and that he was attending the university (not UNIBE where I met him, but INTEC) for Civil Engineering, also seemed to be good characteristics. I remembered reading Hillbilly?s 3 Rules that can help you determine whether or not your novio/a is a sankie, and he seemed to pass the test.
Today I went with him to lunch, and then we went to INTEC because he had class. His mom called him on his cell phone, and when she asked where he was, he told her that he was with me, at INTEC.
A few minutes later, his phone rang again. He picked it up, and when the person asked where he was, he didn?t mention that I was with him. Somehow, I realized that that wasn?t right, so I asked him about it. He told me that he was talking with his boss, and that since he was skipping out on work to be with me, he had to lie to his boss. That didn?t sit well with me for some reason. So I grabbed his cellphone out of his hand and called back the phone number of the last call that he had received (we were already making quite a scene at INTEC, and I?m sure that a rubia fighting a guy for his cellphone may have been a bit amusing for a few onlookers).
A girl answered his phone. I didn?t know what to say, so I asked who she was. She said her name was "Reni". If I had actually been calling his boss, I would think that the person who answered the phone would have said something more than "Hello". Anyway, she then asked me who I was, and I told her that I was a friend of a friend, not wanting to say everything right then.
Well, we hung up, and then Amaurys told me that Reni was a girl who was in love with him, but he didn?t love her, blah blah blah. Suddenly, he got a text message from that same number that said (this is a loose translation of her Spanish) "Diablo, who just called me from your phone?"... So I asked him why she would be asking such a thing.
He took his cellphone away, but I had already memorized Reni?s phone number. I had a Communicard with me, so I told him that I was going to call her back if he didn?t explain to me what was REALLY going on.
At this point I was calling him a mentiroso in a fairly loud voice, and I saw a few people giving us weird looks. He told me that we should go up by his class, and that we could talk there. I followed him. He tried to convince me that nothing was going on. I said, "Well, if nothing is going on, why don?t you call her back, and then maybe we can all hang out together. Wouldn?t that be fun?"...He said that we could do that later, and that I should go to a nearby internet site while he was in class, and then we would definitely call her when his class was over. I asked what she would say if I called her. His response was that, "She will tell you that she?s my novia because she?s in love with me". I said that he should be honest with her if he doesn?t love her, instead of leading her on. He said that he didn?t want to break her heart if she was in love with him.
I marched down the stairs toward the Verizon phones. He followed me, saying that he would NOW tell me the truth. I said, "What truth, you have alledgedly told me ?the truth?about 5 times today already"
He proceeded to tell me that she loves him, but he doesn?t love her. So I said that I was going to talk with her. Yes, this is when I become a heartless b..ch in this story.
I went to the Verizon phone and called her number. I asked her if she was Amaurys?s boyfriend. She said she was. I told her that he and I had been hanging out the past three days and that he had told me that he didn?t have a girlfriend. I told her that we hadn?t done anything (because we really didn?t- we hadn?t even kissed...we had held hands and cuddled a bit, but NOTHING more than that). I said that I had thought that maybe Amaurys and I would date, but that if she was really his girlfriend, that I wouldn?t feel very comfortable seeing him anymore (obviously). She said that she had been his girlfriend up until this point, but that she wasn?t anymore. I told her I was sorry (because I really, honestly felt bad for her - wow did I ever feel bad for her)...She told me not to worry, but as she was telling me this, I could hear her voice start to break, and she started to cry. I said I was sorry again, and then said good-bye.
Amaurys was VERY upset with me, saying that I hurt Reni?s feelings. I told him that he had hurt my feelings, and why did he treat women like toys? I told him to give me the keys to his car, so that way I could get my things out of his car and head to my friend?s house. He told me not to, and said "Let?s talk about this".
I said, "Okay, let?s talk. I respect myself too much to put up with this sort of s..t. I know that I am a good, intelligent, and attractive person, and that I deserve a man who respects me. I don?t want to be with men who treat women like this!".
Amaurys then told me "the truth". That he had " a thing" with her, but that their relationship had problems, and he was hoping to find a new girlfriend and THEN break up with her. I told him that I didn?t want to have any part in this, and that a strong person would end a relationship that they thought had problems that couldn?t be fixed. He said that he just couldn?t do that.
He ended up giving me a ride to a site close to my friend?s house (better than taking a gua-gua). I wouldn?t let him take me to my friend?s actual house, because I told him that I wouldn?t sleep well knowing that he knew where I was, because I have now lost all trust and confidence in him.
Sorry if this post makes me sound like I have a big ego, but I know that I deserve better than him. I don?t put the lyrics to Madonna?s "Express Yourself" next to my mirror for nothing!
Also, I do feel bad for Reni, but I am also glad that she knows that her novio was not the most faithful man in the world. Every girl deserves to know that, in my opinion.
