Hola everyone,
I have a long story to tell, followed by some questions.
I met a Domincan girl, 22 yrs. old while I was on assignment in St. Maarten back in January. She was working at a bordello there. Basically, I spent about two weeks with her while I was there. She is from San Juan in DR, has two kids, lives with her sister in S.D. most of the time, while her kids live with her mom in SJ. I considered her to be a honest person. She said that the father of kids left her and she had no choice but to do this work as a means to support her kids. She left St. Maarten in March and has been back in the DR since. I visited her there in April and spent Easter with her and her family. I didn't get the feeling that there was a "chulo" or any other man in her life besides me. I have been sending her $ regularly to take care of herself and the kids. The project I had that allowed me to travel regularly to the caribbean is finished and I have no idea when i can get back down to that part of the world. My situation is this - I am not an old "gringo", I am only 34 and relatively good looking, make a lot of $, etc. etc. however, I have the nagging suspicion that I am being had. A lot of that comes from what I read on the board here and in other places too. My questions are these:
1. What are the chances that she does not have a husband, boyfriend, chulo who is spending my money?
2. If I end it with her, she will undoubtedly have to return to "work". Should I feel bad about that?
3. If she does have a chulo etc. and I end the relationship, will she suffer abuse because of it?
I guess I have always been a soft-hearted guy and I thought for a while that there really was something between us. Now that I have done some reading, I can't help but think that I might be getting taken. Too many of the scenario's described here in other threads hit too close to home.
Thank for listening.
I have a long story to tell, followed by some questions.
I met a Domincan girl, 22 yrs. old while I was on assignment in St. Maarten back in January. She was working at a bordello there. Basically, I spent about two weeks with her while I was there. She is from San Juan in DR, has two kids, lives with her sister in S.D. most of the time, while her kids live with her mom in SJ. I considered her to be a honest person. She said that the father of kids left her and she had no choice but to do this work as a means to support her kids. She left St. Maarten in March and has been back in the DR since. I visited her there in April and spent Easter with her and her family. I didn't get the feeling that there was a "chulo" or any other man in her life besides me. I have been sending her $ regularly to take care of herself and the kids. The project I had that allowed me to travel regularly to the caribbean is finished and I have no idea when i can get back down to that part of the world. My situation is this - I am not an old "gringo", I am only 34 and relatively good looking, make a lot of $, etc. etc. however, I have the nagging suspicion that I am being had. A lot of that comes from what I read on the board here and in other places too. My questions are these:
1. What are the chances that she does not have a husband, boyfriend, chulo who is spending my money?
2. If I end it with her, she will undoubtedly have to return to "work". Should I feel bad about that?
3. If she does have a chulo etc. and I end the relationship, will she suffer abuse because of it?
I guess I have always been a soft-hearted guy and I thought for a while that there really was something between us. Now that I have done some reading, I can't help but think that I might be getting taken. Too many of the scenario's described here in other threads hit too close to home.
Thank for listening.