Okay, so I am probably going to take a lot of heat for this post but after reading over this forum for a few months, I think someone with a new point of view needs to chime in.
Long story short, one of my very best friends here is a Sankie at Playa Dorado, managing one of the nightclubs. No, we're not sleeping together. No, I don't pay for anything, not even a motoconcho ride. And yes, I have told him that if every member of his family dies next month, goes to jail or needs an operation that I don't care. I liked him from the beginning because he is such a funny, animated person and don't we all like to be around people who make us laugh?
We have a great time, he knows that he can talk to me about anything and that I will be nonobjective and nonjudgmental. I know that if I have a problem or need help that I can call him at 4 in the morning and he will be there for me in a heartbeat. He also knows that I would do whatever I can to help him out as long as it is not financial help. I have told him from the beginning " I know who you are, I know what you do and I have a brain so don't even think about grouping me with the hundreds of other girls you use every year".
Once we got past the initial barriers as I mentioned above, a very close friendship developed and I am continually amzed by how GOOD this guy is at getting whatever he wants from the tourists who come down here for a few weeks at a time. I think he is Western Union's best customer.
We have spent hours upon hours talking, cracking each other up and yes, gossiping about all of his " novias". At the time, he has 2 girlfriends in the US, one in Canada, one in the UK and 2 in Germany. I know all of their names, what their backgrounds are and all of the juicy details.
I listen to my friend talk on his phone to a random girlfriend and I hear how sincere he sounds when he tells them things such as " I love you, I have never met anyone like you, when are you coming back mi amore ..." and so on and so on.
I can understand how easily a girl on vacation could fall in lust with him, he is beautiful and he always knows the right thing to say. But what these girls don't hear is the things that he says after he hangs up the phone. I won't get into all the insults but what he is basically saying is that he is amazed at how stupid this girl is and how he could never love someone who doesnt have any self respect and who is naive enough to think they are in love after 10 days.
But as I said, he is a great sankie and to hear him talk, you would swear that it was the real thing. But when the truth comes out, at the end of the day there are two things he cares about and they are money and sex. He will tell you he will go to the ends of the earth for you if he thinks he is going to get a penny or if he thinks he is going to get in your pants.
I have met his sankie friends and I really dont like them because I don't find them to be interesting or intelligent but they all have pretty much the same mentality concerning women, sex and money.
Yes, I'm sure there have been a few exceptions and true love has stemmed from a whirlwind courtship but just remember that FEW is the exception, not the rule.
A lot of people on this board know a lot more about life than I do but my advice for anyone looking to fall in love here - be careful. I hate to be so blunt but your guy is most likely playing you for a fool. It's kinda sad to hear about him taking advantage but I really don't feel bad for the girls he is using. They are the stupid and naive ones, not him. He is making a living feeding off of other people's ignorance which is no different than a lot of careers. What amazes me is the willingness of these girls to let him pull their strings. This is no country for a woman with low self esteem to visit because I think so many people are in love with the idea of love itself and being idealistic like that usually does not turn out well. It may appear to work for awhile but in the long run I'm not so sure.
So ladies, be careful and keep your wits about you. Have a good time, enjoy yourself but if I were you I wouldn't go back home and convince yourself that you have found something special. Maybe you have, I'm sure it has happened a time or two, but I really doubt it and so should you. You wouldn't try to bring the ocean back with you after a vacation because it belongs here and it just doesn't make any sense. Keep the same attitude regarding the men you meet.
This post is not meant to be mean or hateful, just informative. Maybe an insider's view will be helpful, who knows? As much as I love my friend to death, I still think he needs to find a new line of work because I hate to see anyone lose all their common sense over a piece of a$$ and a few sweet nothings whispered in their ear.
Cuidado
Sunnie
Long story short, one of my very best friends here is a Sankie at Playa Dorado, managing one of the nightclubs. No, we're not sleeping together. No, I don't pay for anything, not even a motoconcho ride. And yes, I have told him that if every member of his family dies next month, goes to jail or needs an operation that I don't care. I liked him from the beginning because he is such a funny, animated person and don't we all like to be around people who make us laugh?
We have a great time, he knows that he can talk to me about anything and that I will be nonobjective and nonjudgmental. I know that if I have a problem or need help that I can call him at 4 in the morning and he will be there for me in a heartbeat. He also knows that I would do whatever I can to help him out as long as it is not financial help. I have told him from the beginning " I know who you are, I know what you do and I have a brain so don't even think about grouping me with the hundreds of other girls you use every year".
Once we got past the initial barriers as I mentioned above, a very close friendship developed and I am continually amzed by how GOOD this guy is at getting whatever he wants from the tourists who come down here for a few weeks at a time. I think he is Western Union's best customer.
We have spent hours upon hours talking, cracking each other up and yes, gossiping about all of his " novias". At the time, he has 2 girlfriends in the US, one in Canada, one in the UK and 2 in Germany. I know all of their names, what their backgrounds are and all of the juicy details.
I listen to my friend talk on his phone to a random girlfriend and I hear how sincere he sounds when he tells them things such as " I love you, I have never met anyone like you, when are you coming back mi amore ..." and so on and so on.
I can understand how easily a girl on vacation could fall in lust with him, he is beautiful and he always knows the right thing to say. But what these girls don't hear is the things that he says after he hangs up the phone. I won't get into all the insults but what he is basically saying is that he is amazed at how stupid this girl is and how he could never love someone who doesnt have any self respect and who is naive enough to think they are in love after 10 days.
But as I said, he is a great sankie and to hear him talk, you would swear that it was the real thing. But when the truth comes out, at the end of the day there are two things he cares about and they are money and sex. He will tell you he will go to the ends of the earth for you if he thinks he is going to get a penny or if he thinks he is going to get in your pants.
I have met his sankie friends and I really dont like them because I don't find them to be interesting or intelligent but they all have pretty much the same mentality concerning women, sex and money.
Yes, I'm sure there have been a few exceptions and true love has stemmed from a whirlwind courtship but just remember that FEW is the exception, not the rule.
A lot of people on this board know a lot more about life than I do but my advice for anyone looking to fall in love here - be careful. I hate to be so blunt but your guy is most likely playing you for a fool. It's kinda sad to hear about him taking advantage but I really don't feel bad for the girls he is using. They are the stupid and naive ones, not him. He is making a living feeding off of other people's ignorance which is no different than a lot of careers. What amazes me is the willingness of these girls to let him pull their strings. This is no country for a woman with low self esteem to visit because I think so many people are in love with the idea of love itself and being idealistic like that usually does not turn out well. It may appear to work for awhile but in the long run I'm not so sure.
So ladies, be careful and keep your wits about you. Have a good time, enjoy yourself but if I were you I wouldn't go back home and convince yourself that you have found something special. Maybe you have, I'm sure it has happened a time or two, but I really doubt it and so should you. You wouldn't try to bring the ocean back with you after a vacation because it belongs here and it just doesn't make any sense. Keep the same attitude regarding the men you meet.
This post is not meant to be mean or hateful, just informative. Maybe an insider's view will be helpful, who knows? As much as I love my friend to death, I still think he needs to find a new line of work because I hate to see anyone lose all their common sense over a piece of a$$ and a few sweet nothings whispered in their ear.
Cuidado
Sunnie