This is actually for the men of the forum, but women feel free to respond. As a person who travels(mainly to the DR, but also to other countries) and is single, I thought, WOW!! The DR is incredible!! So many pretty girls, and boy what a relief to not have to deal with the hang-ups and BS I deal with in NYC!
Well, there is no such thing as paradise. I think some of us are more prone to getting involved in intense sexual relationships without thinking that the women we spend such passionate nights with are'nt really all that good for us in the long run. So what is a single guy to do when he's got his face in a cookie jar full of cookies with noone watching?
I've had the pleasure of meeting some amazingly charming, warm and considerate people while in the DR. Ted and Marco from Rockys in Sosua, fellow DR1 member JWB(had an awesome time in Rio San Juan, brother!! Thanks a million for everything, and sorry my ladyfriend was such a sourpuss!!!), Santos, the right hand man of the great people who run the Hostal Zapata in Boca Chica(this guy SERIOUSLY looked after me the times I have stayed there) and my friends in Santo Domingo, who have shown me the other side of dominican life all over the capital and the Cibao, not just the hookers of Boca Chica and Sosua!!
I sort of felt sorry while back in Sosua for the turistas that go there strictly to whoremonger. Not that I am judging them(hey, to each his own) but if they don't get out and see the DR from a different perspective it is easy to get the wrong impression of dominicans. I say this being just as guilty of the same things I am talking about so I can see both sides. Which brings me to my main point.
Finding a life partner is difficult enough under ideal circumstances, but as some of us on the DR1 forum found out you can't have it both ways. You can't go out in search of nice chicas who one would potentially consider as marriage material and whoremonger at the same time. It just does'nt work. I managed to find a great girl without even looking, but at this time I still have cold feet about what the future possibly holds.
This could be because I have enjoyed being single and having the freedom to come and go as I please. But there comes a time when bad habits become ingrained, which will lead to problems further down the line.
I have a friend who lives in Brazil. He told me that the first year was great, but his lifestyle began to eat him up. He told me he is at the point now where he can't even hold a conversation with a woman he is interested in because he has become jaded. If they don't fall in bed with him right away, he feels as if he is wasting his time so he does'nt bother looking for anything stable or meaningful. I have visited him several times so I know what he is talking about.
Now like I said I say this because it is very difficult for me to give up my present lifestyle and look forward to "settling down" when there is so much fun to be had. But as some of us know, fun can have its downsides.
Like falling for someone for the wrong reasons. Or letting a great person slip away from you because she won't let you treat her like a hooker. Well, we all make our choices and live with them. So at a moment where I am sitting on the fence, deciding which way to go, I have to consider that the person in my life won't necessarliy wait patiently while I get my "wild side" out of my system.
Some people can go on playing around forever, and there is nothing wrong with that. I happen to be at a point where I am reconsidering all of that. I still don't know which way I will go. Alot to consider until my next trip this coming Christmas. Maybe I just need Marco to slap me silly and I'll snap out of all this.
Well, there is no such thing as paradise. I think some of us are more prone to getting involved in intense sexual relationships without thinking that the women we spend such passionate nights with are'nt really all that good for us in the long run. So what is a single guy to do when he's got his face in a cookie jar full of cookies with noone watching?
I've had the pleasure of meeting some amazingly charming, warm and considerate people while in the DR. Ted and Marco from Rockys in Sosua, fellow DR1 member JWB(had an awesome time in Rio San Juan, brother!! Thanks a million for everything, and sorry my ladyfriend was such a sourpuss!!!), Santos, the right hand man of the great people who run the Hostal Zapata in Boca Chica(this guy SERIOUSLY looked after me the times I have stayed there) and my friends in Santo Domingo, who have shown me the other side of dominican life all over the capital and the Cibao, not just the hookers of Boca Chica and Sosua!!
I sort of felt sorry while back in Sosua for the turistas that go there strictly to whoremonger. Not that I am judging them(hey, to each his own) but if they don't get out and see the DR from a different perspective it is easy to get the wrong impression of dominicans. I say this being just as guilty of the same things I am talking about so I can see both sides. Which brings me to my main point.
Finding a life partner is difficult enough under ideal circumstances, but as some of us on the DR1 forum found out you can't have it both ways. You can't go out in search of nice chicas who one would potentially consider as marriage material and whoremonger at the same time. It just does'nt work. I managed to find a great girl without even looking, but at this time I still have cold feet about what the future possibly holds.
This could be because I have enjoyed being single and having the freedom to come and go as I please. But there comes a time when bad habits become ingrained, which will lead to problems further down the line.
I have a friend who lives in Brazil. He told me that the first year was great, but his lifestyle began to eat him up. He told me he is at the point now where he can't even hold a conversation with a woman he is interested in because he has become jaded. If they don't fall in bed with him right away, he feels as if he is wasting his time so he does'nt bother looking for anything stable or meaningful. I have visited him several times so I know what he is talking about.
Now like I said I say this because it is very difficult for me to give up my present lifestyle and look forward to "settling down" when there is so much fun to be had. But as some of us know, fun can have its downsides.
Like falling for someone for the wrong reasons. Or letting a great person slip away from you because she won't let you treat her like a hooker. Well, we all make our choices and live with them. So at a moment where I am sitting on the fence, deciding which way to go, I have to consider that the person in my life won't necessarliy wait patiently while I get my "wild side" out of my system.
Some people can go on playing around forever, and there is nothing wrong with that. I happen to be at a point where I am reconsidering all of that. I still don't know which way I will go. Alot to consider until my next trip this coming Christmas. Maybe I just need Marco to slap me silly and I'll snap out of all this.