lindalin1 said:
Actually I am speaking from experience...I really don't have any issues other than trying to help someone....okay, she should speak with his friends and family!!! what do you think they are going to say..."yes...he wants out of the DR and you are going to help him...now that he has met you, he is going to be celebate until you return in 6 month, he will stay at home, cook, clean and will not leave his house until you return..he won't go out with his friends and look at other women because you are his girlfriend"...give me a break..his family, his friends and his goats are all in on it...take my advice...if you want to be with a dominican so badly....meet him in the city that you are at...meet them when he already has his visa..this way you can learn who he is as a person, without having to worry if he is with you for his papers only
I just need to ask you a few things since you it seems that you are a Dominican men hater.
1- Did you followed the same advice you are trying to give here?.
2- Did you got to know your husband before you brought him to Canada?
3- How come you did not know that he had someone else pregnant before you got him to Canada?.
4- How well did you knew him before you started the "papers" procedure?
5- How long did you actually lived in the DR with him before marrying him?
6- Did you kicked him out after finding out that the same day he arrived in Canada to be with you, that his DR girlfriend gave birth to their kid?
7- Did you kicked him out of the house right after the first beating?
8- Did you kicked him out of the house right after he beat you so hard that you landed in a hospital?
9- Did you called the cops so they can remove him from your house?
10- Don't you have any family that could had come to your defense?
In all, take some darn responsabilities for your actions!. Your experience consists of ONE experience with ONE Dominican. One experience does not makes you an expert on Dominican males. You chose the guy, nobody did it for you.
Why didn't you do your homework before falling for someone that you, it seems, knew nothing about. Maybe, just maybe, if you had, you would had saved yourself so much pain.
All men did not made you fall for that loser, you did. Therefore, you are also to blame.
Btw, I am more than sure that he threw "red flags" all over the place for you to see but you were just to much in "lust" with him to see them.
Blame him all you want but don't forget about you since you let him treat you the way he did. Plain and simple!.