AnnaC said:what have you got to offer?
nativeson said:We'll, I'm an upper middle class man from California. No problems with women in my own country, just very intrigued by the beauty of the DR. Not just on a sex level, perhaps I can find the one to marry.
Scandall said:Here's some advice. Take it or leave it.
Are you coming as a tourist? Or are you moving here? It makes a huge difference. Do you hang out with tourists at home? Didn't think so. As a tourist you will probably not even see any middle or upper middle class Dominicans. They don't frequent tourist places.
Speaking at least a little Spanish is absolutely necessary. I would not advise hanging out at a university for no apparent reason. You'll look like an idiot.
If you are only visiting for a short time I recommend just getting to know the DR. If you are on a quest you will surely fail..and quite possibly look stupid in the process.
Just my two pesos...do whatever you want.
It wouldn't hurt to do a search for a thread called "Hillbilly's Golden Rules" about dating a Dominican. They may sound harsh but they are good guidelines with very few exceptions.
Scandall
www.dr1.com/podcast
nativeson said:Scandall,
I appreciate the candid feedback. I assume you're a native Dominican, respect. You've probably had your fill of Gringos looking to pilfer the beauty of your country. Fyi, I?m not an average tourist, I consider myself a guest to any new territory I visit, as I stated in my ?Rendezvous? post. I say this because I have nothing but the utmost respect for all people who live according to the natural order of things righteous. It?s highly likely that I will blend into the DR, resembling your average well kept native, not simply because of my physical appearance but essentially because of my disposition.
And, to tell you the truth, I do hang out with tourists in my country. Some of the best times I can recall have been with people just like myself who have a pure affection for a certain locale, venture out to experience it and attract like minded individuals for fulfilling, organic experiences. My point is, I?m attempting to make friends with some natives before I actually arrive in the DR to perhaps, have some happy times. Not to worry, the last thing I would do in any situation or geographical location, is carry myself in an uncivilized manner.
Peace
Antonio
Scandall said:Antonio,
I am not Dominican and did not mean to imply that I was. But I have lived here for a few years and have a reasonable grasp on the way things work.
This is a very different culture than the US. You will have a hard time meeting up with "normal" Dominicans as a tourist. Tourists are transient and seen as little more than a source of revenue for the island. It is not personal...people constantly come and go...that is the nature of things.
Where will you be visiting? Perhaps some other DR1ers can be of assistance.
Scandall
www.dr1.com/podcast
duhtree said:Do you speak Spanish????
aerobaticman said:Usted significa su un anillo de espuma grande de la jalea?
nativeson said:Beyond SD, I'll probably make my way to Boca Chica. Can't precisely speak on the motivation until I touch the ground you know? I know I'll be at the local discos.
Scandall said:I would do a lot more research if I were you. Boca Chica is the exact opposite of what you are looking for. Good luck.
Scandall
laurapasinifan said:he has to get the jitters out FIRST.... or he may drool on himself if he meets a well dressed middle class hottie.!!!!!!!!! ha ha ha ha
I think you need luck ...contacts, or time or a mixture of all the above. You have to go to middle class events. Like the movies , a concert, a play, the baseball game. You have to get lucky and invite someone you meet to another one of those social events. Unless you blend in you will be thought of as a gringo who only wants to shag a latino hottie and got lost looking for the strip club. It never hurst to try. You can see middle class women in the upper end stores.....one that recently comes to mind..believe it or not is that huge grocery store National in santiago....becasue the lower class people will never sho there. The trick may be finding a single woman there........again the outsider image god put on your face is going to be the biggest obstacle.
even if a nice girl from a great middle to upper class family liked you...could she bring herself to introducing you to her parents? Big task FOR HER.
but I wish you the best and know if it happens you will be very happy.
bob
Nativeson,nativeson said:Saludos,
I'm in my early 30s and looking to meet a mature middle class woman in her early 20s, where can they be found in SD?