I met a nice Dominican girl 2 years ago...met her on the beach at a resort. She was with a half-brother from the US and she had her little girl with her. Never thought I'd hear from her again but...sure enough she called and after some rapid Spanish learning on my part (she doesn't speak English)we've been in constant contact ever since.
I've been reading many threads with interest and have gone back and forth from being positive to extremely disappointed. I never expected this whole thing to work out so I'm not going to feel wripped off or anything and I'm pretty sure what the general answer will be but I need to know what to do.
I've been to visit several times, and I've been to her home town to meet her parents (I think its called Guayubin but I can't find it on a map) and I have also met her extended family. In fact, the brothers trucked me around all day meeting cousins and such which was interesting because only my girlfriend can understand my crappy Spanish.
Any who things seemed to go very well. Yes, I did send some cash now and then but I was rarely if ever asked to. I did on my own accord. And yes, she was keen on getting maried prior to knowing me well (we only had one quick date during my first visit) which has always concerned me. She seemed to be very sincere and wanted a loyal man that didn't have 3 girlfriends which she explained was common in the DR. I wanted to get married and have her and her daughter come live with me but prior to signing a contract with gov't to repay and potential social assistance for 3 years I wanted to get her a visitor visa to meet my folks and she if she'd like it here. Well, I spent time and effort on trying to get one and I'm not even sure she applied the first time but the second time was this fall and she was declined. Very disappointing...! I've lost some hope of proceeding since but have lots of time and feelings invested and don't want to be negative from one or two set backs.
I want to start a family and have good intentions but don't want to take a leap with someone whom I've only spent several weeks at time with mostly on a beautiful resort setting. What should I do?
Secondly, and maybe more important starting about 5 weeks ago I can't get ahold of her often (has a sankie feeling to it). She's never had a job while we've been together but now has and says she works all day and can only talk on Sunday's. Apparently her boss won't allow any calls. This latter question seems very sankie like but she says she gets her daughter off to school, then to work and then is home at 11 PM and goes to bed. Until recently we spoke almost everyday and she says she wants to spend Christmas with me at the resort but I don't know what to do. I know she's had a lot of problems with her phone but she used to get upset with me if I didn't talk to her every day and then all of sudden...nothing for 3 weeks, and then only once a week after that. Says she loves when we talk and she has nothing going on but...??. Maybe its reading these postings, but I'm losing faith both in being able to proceed without a visa and in her truthfulness. Is this true about working in a store? 8am-11pm (I don't see it).
I've been reading many threads with interest and have gone back and forth from being positive to extremely disappointed. I never expected this whole thing to work out so I'm not going to feel wripped off or anything and I'm pretty sure what the general answer will be but I need to know what to do.
I've been to visit several times, and I've been to her home town to meet her parents (I think its called Guayubin but I can't find it on a map) and I have also met her extended family. In fact, the brothers trucked me around all day meeting cousins and such which was interesting because only my girlfriend can understand my crappy Spanish.
Any who things seemed to go very well. Yes, I did send some cash now and then but I was rarely if ever asked to. I did on my own accord. And yes, she was keen on getting maried prior to knowing me well (we only had one quick date during my first visit) which has always concerned me. She seemed to be very sincere and wanted a loyal man that didn't have 3 girlfriends which she explained was common in the DR. I wanted to get married and have her and her daughter come live with me but prior to signing a contract with gov't to repay and potential social assistance for 3 years I wanted to get her a visitor visa to meet my folks and she if she'd like it here. Well, I spent time and effort on trying to get one and I'm not even sure she applied the first time but the second time was this fall and she was declined. Very disappointing...! I've lost some hope of proceeding since but have lots of time and feelings invested and don't want to be negative from one or two set backs.
I want to start a family and have good intentions but don't want to take a leap with someone whom I've only spent several weeks at time with mostly on a beautiful resort setting. What should I do?
Secondly, and maybe more important starting about 5 weeks ago I can't get ahold of her often (has a sankie feeling to it). She's never had a job while we've been together but now has and says she works all day and can only talk on Sunday's. Apparently her boss won't allow any calls. This latter question seems very sankie like but she says she gets her daughter off to school, then to work and then is home at 11 PM and goes to bed. Until recently we spoke almost everyday and she says she wants to spend Christmas with me at the resort but I don't know what to do. I know she's had a lot of problems with her phone but she used to get upset with me if I didn't talk to her every day and then all of sudden...nothing for 3 weeks, and then only once a week after that. Says she loves when we talk and she has nothing going on but...??. Maybe its reading these postings, but I'm losing faith both in being able to proceed without a visa and in her truthfulness. Is this true about working in a store? 8am-11pm (I don't see it).