I have 2 daughters 13 and 8 they have known about my relationship with my domincan manfriend for 4yrs they r happy that I have found a man who makes me happy.However I do know they r still children and I have wrestled with how 2 make the transition easy on them and him as well he will be here in a few months and now that we r married we need 2 live 2gether as a family but I feel even though I know him from numerous trips and phone calls on both sides and lived the life as much as I could .I seen the good and bad and we fought through our differences and understand each other .I still have my girls 2 think about.I feel that it would be wise 2 have him live with my mother for a few months when he arrives and date him here with my girls seeing him durin the day and he doesn't sleep here when they r here. kind of like the same way if he was a man I met here .I didn't write this because I need validation but just as a voice 2 any other woman that might have a similar situation.
I am confused:ermm:
Why would you not have included your children in your marriage in the first place?? Now you are going to date him, when you are already married to him? I know you are trying to protect your children, but come on now, you said they like him, etc. Would you do the same if you had married a North American man, send him to your mothers and date him before getting on with your marriage.
Am I the only one who doesn't see the sense in this?? Something just isn't right here. If you marry someone, you marry someone! You don't date someone, then marry them, then date them again. Your children should be made aware of your marriage, if they are not. I always am honest with my child, and I reap the benefits of that honesty. If I out and out lied to her about anything, and she found out later, I would lose all her trust! How do you think your children would handle it, if they found out you have decieved them?
I don't know, unless I am off base here, this just isn't adding up!:tired:
Marlie