social class and dating

I am alittle surprised at something. I keep reading of men or foreign men that chase after hot women from fairly well off households or the so called upper class or upper middle class. but what most men don't know is that these women seem to be the ones that have had maids and have been pampared all their lives. those women it seems are the worst ones to take to the US if you are not financial sound enough to afford maids. I have been dating a girl in honduras that comes from just above middle class. she looked at me as if i had lost my mind when I asked her to cook us dinner after i had done so twice previously. so instead we went to a chinese resturant. that is when it hit me that i could be getting myself into more trouble chasing these women who seem opposed to everything manual labour. I am not sure of other Latin countries like DR or mexico but in Hondurus and Brazil definately. Now this post is in no way insinuating that women should sit down and be door mats, or they are only good enough to do domestic duties. I believe men should help out once in a while. I also believe it should be a womans choice to stay home or work. It's just at times guys here have so much to say about american or european women when it seems like the other side of the grass could be alot worse.

I find it quite sad really. I mean here even here in Britain there are girls from really good families that have money but they go to finishing school and can cook amazing dishes. But in many Latin American countries, women from families with alittle money and maids feel that manual labor is below them. I just wonder though are they like that with their latino men. I mean latino men have a reputation for prefer the more feminine types, but are also independent women that have their own minds. I met a dominican in elephant and castle that told me that.

just a question id been wondering. i look foward to replies.

adrianb said:

I think Manuel832 makes a very interesting point. The barrio girls are usually excellent cooks with nothing but the most basic ingredients.. while the "upper class" girls often barely know how to boil water.

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Thanks adrianb, It's just a small observation I made. I also noticed in the archives here and older post on the 'men are from mars' section that alot of men on this board belittle the so called 'working class women' as whores of their tigres. AZB a classic example, talking big about 'santiagueras' and belittling women from other towns that are outside of el cibao. not that I am trying to stir up something and cause a war with other members but i think guys should focus alittle more on the character of the woman rather than her being from the upper classes. alot of these higher end types can't even boil an egg.

CFA123 said:

I was invited to a friend's in Santiago because he & his wife were excited about cooking a new recipe - as they were into all sorts of recipe books from all over the world and trying new things all the time. This was going to be their first attempt at Thai night.

Well of course, early on we had drinks and appetizers served to us by the 'butler'... then when time for cooking we went to the immaculate kitchen where two female 'sous-chefs' had prepared and chopped everything, oil was hot on the stove, etc, etc. My friend raked the ingredients into the pan, at which time the two girls took over the cooking with him instructing them when to stir, etc.

Silly me for actually expecting them to cook!
Just another delicious home cooked meal by the Dominican Rothschilds.


ps: the public kitchen was immaculate because the 2nd kitchen was below ground with the maid's quarters, where all the real work was done

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I am sorry I had to laugh after reading this. esp the small print. So the large kitchen is for show, whilst the smaller kitchen which is where the 'slaves' are is down below.

why would anyone do that?

excellent post CFA123.

and thanks for the reply. it is always interesting to hear how the other half live. and I am quite sure most if not all of us that post here will probably never see that world unless by extreme luck or coincidence. even still i think guys here that one to date women in those levels should concentrate on how grounded the woman is. i have met traditional women from working class families before. and they are guarded by their brother and father. but these are the few gems you got to search for.

thanks

SKing said:

I have seen lots of house plans like that.
SHALENA

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I just struck me as funny. I was brought up in a society that values efficiency and simplicity. It just sounds wasteful to have 2 kitchens. 1 for show (which will never be used) and the other for work. but i guess if your that wealthy you can afford to be wasteful. so i mean what do they store in there? does the first kitchen have historical purposes perhaps?

dv8 said:

my sister in law was recently at a wedding of some ochoa dude, girls were teasing his bride for not being able to do anything at home and he angrily responded that his wife does not have to dirty her hands - that's why they have servants

on more serious note, rich girls i know: i guess about a half can cook. the other half does not even pick own clothes from the floor let alone do anything that can ruin their manicure.

i sometimes find life with miesposo strange, he grew up with nannies, maids, cooks, gardeners, chauffeurs and bodyguards - so different than do it yourself communist environment i grew up in. i doubt if has never cleaned a toilet bowl in his life and most of housework puzzles him, to say the least. but - he can cook VERY WELL. guess cooking is a nice classy show off when mopping the floor is not much fun at all.

we recently bought a house and i am over the moon. so much that i rolled up my sleeves and wanted to help with renovation. oh, the horror on the faces of our workers!

lord finchley tried to mend the electric light
himself. it struck him dead: and serve him right!
it is the business of the wealthy man
to give employment to the artisan.
(h. belloc)

i may just add that i have helped my dad with house renovations and i can paint, put the wallpaper and do some other small things. but shhh... i better don't even talk about it...

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Thanks dv8. That post is helpful. I couldn't paint to save my life. is this house you bought in DR?