I just feel like I want to share my story
I am in a relationship with a Dominican ( What a surprise ; )
First time I went there, I did not know anything about this phenomenon, sanky pankies... long distance relationship... having many girlfriends at the same times... Since I am involved in one, I am surprised to see how common it is and how so many were "used". And oviously it scares me. Why me, why my relationship would be any different now... even if a big part of me believe it is.
We talked about it many times, he did tell me that in the past, he slept with tourists and made them believe whatever they wanted to hear. Not because he absolutely wants to get out of the country but everybody pretty much at the resort does it and it is not as if it was painful to do it. Regardless, after he never really entertained the relationship. At least he was honest with his past and the questions I've asked him. I do understand in a certain way why he did it.
Now me, it's going to be six months, I went there 3 times already. He calls me every single day, several times and we talked for hours. We really get along, we have good conversations, about his past, his family, his future, some anecdotes, about my life... we are getting to know each other as any normal relationship. He makes me feel good and I do make him feel good.
I really feel he is sincere, that he does not have other girlfriends nor he does the same with other girls. I do think he has changed just like he tells me.
He is the one to call me, if i miss his calls, i call him back, never i was not able to reach him, he always answered or called me within few minutes. He tells me what he does all the time, if he is going out, eat, have a drink, going to the store etc...
We are talking about me going to live there to see if it could be possible, let's face it, unless we don't live together for a certain period of time, never we will know if the relationship can really work cause now everything is so good, talk on the phone, go there for a week or two but it is not the 'real' life.
I do want to try, i am starting to like him more and more, just like him...
I wish it could be easier for him to come and visit ( Canada ) but it is almost impossible and I don't want to marry him, well not now. And he knows that.
He is telling me that he only waits for the time that I will be ready to go live there, and he will gets everything ready for us to live together. I have a very good job that i don't want to quit, i would need to take a leave of absence for a few months.. save money... it's not something that I can do now. Maybe in a year... It is so long when you think about it...
To finish, of course sometimes I have doubts... I ask myself questions, I ask him questions, poor him sometimes ;O ... especially now that I am awared of this 'phenomenon' I wouldn't like to be one in so many... It would truly hurts me now that I am strongly attached to him. But i honestly don't feel like he is like that and where would he finds the time...
I am not crazy, I am staying focus on my life here as well, I keep my feet down to earth but everything's is possible no ?
By the way, I am not older, bigger, uglier than him !!!
Sometimes It is more difficult than the other days. I do have ups and downs.
Anyways, that was it.
No judgments please, only share your story or give your advices / your thoughts.
I am in a relationship with a Dominican ( What a surprise ; )
First time I went there, I did not know anything about this phenomenon, sanky pankies... long distance relationship... having many girlfriends at the same times... Since I am involved in one, I am surprised to see how common it is and how so many were "used". And oviously it scares me. Why me, why my relationship would be any different now... even if a big part of me believe it is.
We talked about it many times, he did tell me that in the past, he slept with tourists and made them believe whatever they wanted to hear. Not because he absolutely wants to get out of the country but everybody pretty much at the resort does it and it is not as if it was painful to do it. Regardless, after he never really entertained the relationship. At least he was honest with his past and the questions I've asked him. I do understand in a certain way why he did it.
Now me, it's going to be six months, I went there 3 times already. He calls me every single day, several times and we talked for hours. We really get along, we have good conversations, about his past, his family, his future, some anecdotes, about my life... we are getting to know each other as any normal relationship. He makes me feel good and I do make him feel good.
I really feel he is sincere, that he does not have other girlfriends nor he does the same with other girls. I do think he has changed just like he tells me.
He is the one to call me, if i miss his calls, i call him back, never i was not able to reach him, he always answered or called me within few minutes. He tells me what he does all the time, if he is going out, eat, have a drink, going to the store etc...
We are talking about me going to live there to see if it could be possible, let's face it, unless we don't live together for a certain period of time, never we will know if the relationship can really work cause now everything is so good, talk on the phone, go there for a week or two but it is not the 'real' life.
I do want to try, i am starting to like him more and more, just like him...
I wish it could be easier for him to come and visit ( Canada ) but it is almost impossible and I don't want to marry him, well not now. And he knows that.
He is telling me that he only waits for the time that I will be ready to go live there, and he will gets everything ready for us to live together. I have a very good job that i don't want to quit, i would need to take a leave of absence for a few months.. save money... it's not something that I can do now. Maybe in a year... It is so long when you think about it...
To finish, of course sometimes I have doubts... I ask myself questions, I ask him questions, poor him sometimes ;O ... especially now that I am awared of this 'phenomenon' I wouldn't like to be one in so many... It would truly hurts me now that I am strongly attached to him. But i honestly don't feel like he is like that and where would he finds the time...
I am not crazy, I am staying focus on my life here as well, I keep my feet down to earth but everything's is possible no ?
By the way, I am not older, bigger, uglier than him !!!
Sometimes It is more difficult than the other days. I do have ups and downs.
Anyways, that was it.
No judgments please, only share your story or give your advices / your thoughts.