I wanted to post to share an experience and bring something up for discussion. Why do foreigners and Dominicans get married? Everyone?s got an opinion about the Dominican, but looking at it from another point of view.
I lived for about 2 years in Santo Domingo, and during that time I met an in-law of a cousin of my husband. She was a nice woman, around 28, in med school, pretty, very little English, we got along well. She met a fellow Canadian on a chat and used Google translate to communicate. They got married after about 2 years, and were doing the long distance thing. He?s a retired fire-fighter, late fifties.
I came to meet him one day when they were returning from a jog and passing by. They seemed to be having a great time.
Being another Canadian, we began chatting, and he told me that he loves her very much, wants her to meet his kids (grown up). And he?s applied for a 2nd visitor?s visa for her, the first was denied.
I asked if he was going to do the papers to bring her to Canada, and he said he was ?too busy right now.?
So here?s the question-why did this guy marry this girl? He?s not willing to move there, he?s not willing to take her to his country. She wants a life together, and whatever her motives are, although I think she might be genuine, getting married does imply joining lives. I got to thinking about this. How many couples out there are like this. And what is it for, if it?s to keep the person hanging on to a vacation romance for indeterminate periods of time I think it?s wrong.
I lived for about 2 years in Santo Domingo, and during that time I met an in-law of a cousin of my husband. She was a nice woman, around 28, in med school, pretty, very little English, we got along well. She met a fellow Canadian on a chat and used Google translate to communicate. They got married after about 2 years, and were doing the long distance thing. He?s a retired fire-fighter, late fifties.
I came to meet him one day when they were returning from a jog and passing by. They seemed to be having a great time.
Being another Canadian, we began chatting, and he told me that he loves her very much, wants her to meet his kids (grown up). And he?s applied for a 2nd visitor?s visa for her, the first was denied.
I asked if he was going to do the papers to bring her to Canada, and he said he was ?too busy right now.?
So here?s the question-why did this guy marry this girl? He?s not willing to move there, he?s not willing to take her to his country. She wants a life together, and whatever her motives are, although I think she might be genuine, getting married does imply joining lives. I got to thinking about this. How many couples out there are like this. And what is it for, if it?s to keep the person hanging on to a vacation romance for indeterminate periods of time I think it?s wrong.