Sorry for the length of this post but looking for meaningful input.
Met a beautiful Dominican, 30 yrs.old, (I was a spry 54 at the time) through a relatively legit internet service in Santiago. We spent a few days together and I then returned a couple of months later when we spent 2 weeks together travelling the island and meeting her family. On my next trip down I committed to trying to have a long term relationship. That same week I impregnated her with twins! I then spent the better part of 18 months with her in Santiago during the pregnancy and after their births on 8/28/08. At her modest urging I started the visa/green card process for her and her 3 kids. We arrived here in Utah in June. We were married in August.
In Santiago I rented a house for $1,100 monthly, moved her and her kids, brother and parents into it. Bought all household furniture/fixtures. Put her kids in bilingual school and art, swimming , dance classes etc.
I understand the underlying drive/desire of her and others who live in poverty to escape it. I understand that my ability to provide was/is a primary attraction. Her behavior has always been steady if emotional and loud at times. She has regularly lavished me with praise and more often that not initiated sex. She takes pride in being from a honest/honorable family and I never saw anything that contradicted that. She never displayed any behavior that would suggest a dishonest personality with the exception that before and initially after we met she said she had two kids, excluding the 3rd, a 12 yr old boy. She fessed up as we became serious.
Two months ago I grabbed her cell phone to look up one of her girl friends phone number to call her because my wife was feeling a bit blue/lonesome. As I scrolled through her recent calls my wife came over from the other side of the room, peering over my shoulder, I then noticed two calls to a Pedro in the DR. I did not react or question her about Pedro at the time. During my two years with her in the DR I met all of her family and girl friends, never a mention of a Pedro. A few days later I looked through her contact list on her phone, she had erased the Pedro contact (he must have been on the Contact list to have shown up by name on the Recent Call list) My experience is that Domincanas don't have platonic male friends very often. That night it seemed to me that she was very restless while trying to sleep. I am concerned that this could be an unlikely but massive hustle. Get the green card then use the babies to secure support and alimony while divorcing me. For the past two weeks I have been trying to surreptiously record her phone conversations with little to show so far. My plan is to continue this effort. I believe if I confront her she will just lie is she is deceiving me.
In closing, my wife was quasi married to a Dominican who was alcoholic and phyically abused her on occasion. When she was 8 years old her parents sent her off to live with an Aunt (for economic reasons) whose husband tried to molest her. My wife is smart, responsible and very attentive with the babies.
Me, I speak fluent spanish and am well apprised of the Sankie element.
So, what could be the innocent explanation of her calling some unknown guy in the DR multiple times? If not, what would you do? I may be able to get the Pedro phone number. Thanks for all serious responses.
Met a beautiful Dominican, 30 yrs.old, (I was a spry 54 at the time) through a relatively legit internet service in Santiago. We spent a few days together and I then returned a couple of months later when we spent 2 weeks together travelling the island and meeting her family. On my next trip down I committed to trying to have a long term relationship. That same week I impregnated her with twins! I then spent the better part of 18 months with her in Santiago during the pregnancy and after their births on 8/28/08. At her modest urging I started the visa/green card process for her and her 3 kids. We arrived here in Utah in June. We were married in August.
In Santiago I rented a house for $1,100 monthly, moved her and her kids, brother and parents into it. Bought all household furniture/fixtures. Put her kids in bilingual school and art, swimming , dance classes etc.
I understand the underlying drive/desire of her and others who live in poverty to escape it. I understand that my ability to provide was/is a primary attraction. Her behavior has always been steady if emotional and loud at times. She has regularly lavished me with praise and more often that not initiated sex. She takes pride in being from a honest/honorable family and I never saw anything that contradicted that. She never displayed any behavior that would suggest a dishonest personality with the exception that before and initially after we met she said she had two kids, excluding the 3rd, a 12 yr old boy. She fessed up as we became serious.
Two months ago I grabbed her cell phone to look up one of her girl friends phone number to call her because my wife was feeling a bit blue/lonesome. As I scrolled through her recent calls my wife came over from the other side of the room, peering over my shoulder, I then noticed two calls to a Pedro in the DR. I did not react or question her about Pedro at the time. During my two years with her in the DR I met all of her family and girl friends, never a mention of a Pedro. A few days later I looked through her contact list on her phone, she had erased the Pedro contact (he must have been on the Contact list to have shown up by name on the Recent Call list) My experience is that Domincanas don't have platonic male friends very often. That night it seemed to me that she was very restless while trying to sleep. I am concerned that this could be an unlikely but massive hustle. Get the green card then use the babies to secure support and alimony while divorcing me. For the past two weeks I have been trying to surreptiously record her phone conversations with little to show so far. My plan is to continue this effort. I believe if I confront her she will just lie is she is deceiving me.
In closing, my wife was quasi married to a Dominican who was alcoholic and phyically abused her on occasion. When she was 8 years old her parents sent her off to live with an Aunt (for economic reasons) whose husband tried to molest her. My wife is smart, responsible and very attentive with the babies.
Me, I speak fluent spanish and am well apprised of the Sankie element.
So, what could be the innocent explanation of her calling some unknown guy in the DR multiple times? If not, what would you do? I may be able to get the Pedro phone number. Thanks for all serious responses.
