Hello all, I'm sorry that I haven't been back for quite a few months, it's been an academic hell for me lately, but I digress. Also, please excuse my writing style, I'm awfulll when it comes to forum posting and blogging.
I've been meaning to ask (without being graphic) about social acceptance of virginity in DR. My parents are both Dominican and I've spent a ridiculous large amount of time in the country (combined over the years) but I've never actually dated in DR, so I wonder how virginity is viewed.
Here in the states it seems as though virginity is considered gauche past the age of 16 (I'm strictly speaking about my personal experiences) and almost all of my good friends (both males and females) have admitted that they generally feel it is a nuisance. In other words, when I date people here in the states the subject of sex inevitably comes up, no matter how much I try to skirt around the issue, and when I admit that I'm waiting until I get married, things go sour quite quickly because of the lack of male tolerance of my decision.
My dilema is this: since I've been thinking of taking the plunge and moving to DR permanently, it has dawned on me that I may or may not be lucky enough to find a mate that will wait for me; in a country that is predominantly roman catholic and is steeped in conservative tradition, but at the same time is very progressive when it comes to views on sex and marriage, is virginity viewed as a "no-big-deal" issue or, as in much of the western world, a taboo of sorts?
I don't mean to generalize, I just want to get a few thoughts from those of you who are out in the dating scene and might be able to throw some pearls of wisdom my way.
P.S. I have not chosen to wait because of religion, it is just a matter of practicality for me
P.S.S Again, I apologize in advance for my awkward, rambling-style of writing
I've been meaning to ask (without being graphic) about social acceptance of virginity in DR. My parents are both Dominican and I've spent a ridiculous large amount of time in the country (combined over the years) but I've never actually dated in DR, so I wonder how virginity is viewed.
Here in the states it seems as though virginity is considered gauche past the age of 16 (I'm strictly speaking about my personal experiences) and almost all of my good friends (both males and females) have admitted that they generally feel it is a nuisance. In other words, when I date people here in the states the subject of sex inevitably comes up, no matter how much I try to skirt around the issue, and when I admit that I'm waiting until I get married, things go sour quite quickly because of the lack of male tolerance of my decision.
My dilema is this: since I've been thinking of taking the plunge and moving to DR permanently, it has dawned on me that I may or may not be lucky enough to find a mate that will wait for me; in a country that is predominantly roman catholic and is steeped in conservative tradition, but at the same time is very progressive when it comes to views on sex and marriage, is virginity viewed as a "no-big-deal" issue or, as in much of the western world, a taboo of sorts?
I don't mean to generalize, I just want to get a few thoughts from those of you who are out in the dating scene and might be able to throw some pearls of wisdom my way.
P.S. I have not chosen to wait because of religion, it is just a matter of practicality for me
P.S.S Again, I apologize in advance for my awkward, rambling-style of writing