I?m glad that this thread generated so many responses, I was hoping it would. As I said, I?ve read a lot of the thoughts and questions that so many of these girls have and thought the right thing to do would be to be honest and call it like I see it. I don?t mean this in a rude way, and those of you whom know me well will understand where I?m coming from, but I didn?t write this post so my choices could be dissected, I wrote it because I truly think that some people might benefit from the truth. By all means, give me your opinions but just remember that I?m a big girl, I?ve lived a lot in my 26 years and I?m not na?ve enough to fall for any BS. I got enough of that from my ex husband and he was a gringo. I appreciate the candor from most of you and I think it?s very nice of you to be concerned but I?ve got it under control.
I figured that I would most likely end up having to defend my position because this is a very touchy subject so I don?t have any problem with any of your views even if I don?t necessarily agree with all of them. I?m probably not as sweet of a person as a lot of you, especially Miguel, so it really doesn?t bother me that these girls are allowing themselves to be taken advantage of. I don?t feel sorry for them but it would be nice to see more lightbulbs flash once in a while. I just can?t feel bad for someone who meets someone for a week or two, sleeps with them and then starts sending money with no questions asked. That?s their fault. I don?t think it is a nice profession to be in but the fact of the matter is that there are a lot of sankies here and that is part of the country and I doubt the industry will die down anytime soon. I?m not a judgmental person and I have an open mind about a lot of things so what my friend does is his choice and it?s not my place to judge. He will have to resolve things within himself in the end, not me. So for the time being, I like hanging around with him here in PoP because I genuinely enjoy his company. As I said before, don?t we all like to be around people who make us laugh and who can carry on an intelligent conversation? And besides, there are a lot of less than scrupulous people here, that?s just a cold hard fact so who is to say that it?s okay to hang out with this person but not that one? I don?t make it a habit of spending time with people whose morals are beyond the realms of my tolerance but I can at least see the potential in my friend although I doubt he will ever reach it. He will most likely spend his life being a sankie or the equivalent and that is sad for me but it?s not my problem. It?s a big world and most of the people in it have their skeletons and do things that others don?t agree with. I wish I could change it but I can?t. I?m not saying that it makes it right but it is what it is. In the meantime, I still like the guy and what he does with his life is not my problem.
But just because the friendship is there doesn?t mean that I?m next in line to be sankified. My mama taught me better than that. It?s a matter of self respect and not having rose-colored glasses on. And if by some chance I come back to this board in a few months, crying because I got swindled then by all means, please let me have it and tell me how stupid I am. How could I not agree with you? But I know myself very well and it?s not a concern for me because I know it would never happen. I?m not saying he won?t ever try but I know damn sure that I?m not going to be a victim. If someone is trying to screw with me, I have absolutely no qualms about telling them to F off and die.
I was really hoping this thread would not take this direction because it was intended for the girls who come on this board and have questions and want to know if we know So and So who works at whatever resort. It wasn?t written for the people who live here or anyone I know, it was written for those with questions, dilemmas, whatever. And if it sounded harsh then that?s the way I intended it. My underlying message was Don?t Be Stupid.
And again, if anyone really thinks that something bad is going to happen to me then that?s fine. By all means, throw the book at me if I?m wrong but I know that won?t happen. I?m not Miss America and I don?t have an IQ of 200 but I?m quite astute at knowing myself, my intentions and everything in between. Remember, this is the same girl who was told just a few months ago that I was an idiot to even think of moving here. And now, this is the happiest I?ve ever been even though it?s a struggle most of the time. I appreciate the advice, I mean that, and I like to hear from everyone so fire away if you want to.
See ya,
Sunnie