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The new guy
I think the BIGGER question is: WHY would you get "engaged" if you weren't sure you wanted to get married???? Unless my understanding of the definition is wrong, getting "ENGAGED" is what you do once you've decided that you DO want to marry someone, and they in turn, agree that they WANT to get married too!!! How much did you spend on the ring???
Yeah ... some guys in the states will spend (treat themselves) money on beer, cigarettes, a few movies, "designer coffee", that extra (large) pizza, and a large takeout Chinese order .... and there goes a couple hundred dollars for the week. If he wants to spend his money sending it to the DR, that's his business. He just wanted to check on "value" received .....
Scenario #1
He sends her 200$/wk because he feels like that's reasonable and he can afford to. She never asked for it.
Scenario #2
She asked him to send her 200$/wk. Worst that could happen is he could say no. Worth a shot, right? Turns out he said yes. Now he's thinking that's a lot for groceries for mother and baby for a week.
Which one resembles the OP?
He sends her 200$/wk because he feels like that's reasonable and he can afford to. She never asked for it.
Scenario #2
She asked him to send her 200$/wk. Worst that could happen is he could say no. Worth a shot, right? Turns out he said yes. Now he's thinking that's a lot for groceries for mother and baby for a week.
Which one resembles the OP?
If you are sending her $200usd a week for just her and a child then she is either eating really, really well or putting half of that away into a money market fund. I am a little bit worried when you say you have been engaged for a while. Engaged in what? You financing her life style? The average DR worker makes the equivilent of around $6000usd per year. You are sending her $9600 a year. It seems to me she has found her SUGAR DADDY and all day sucker. Is this child yours? That would make a big difference in understanding your motivation for a women you say your are engaged to but really not sure you want to marry. In her case why buy the cow when you are already getting the milk for free? It's hard for me to make a determination of what you have gotten yourself into but honestly this happens often in the DR. Are you prepared to make a committment to move to Santiago at some point. If not, then I would consider ending this relationship. Walk away from Western Union and don't look back.
LTSteve
LTSteve
I'm not sure I get the whole "long distance g/f that I support" thing. Is it a g/f relationship? Is it a pay for play??? Why is anyone supporting a g/f when they are not there???? I understand the "gray zone" of spending money on a "g/f" -- dinners, shopping, gifts... whatever, when YOU'RE THERE, even when it's not a strictly "professional" arrangement as in paying for her "time" ... but when you're not there??? What's up with THAT???? NO WAY are you the "only one". If you have an apartment, you pay rent all the time, 'cause the apartment is yours even when you're not at home. If you visit a hotel, you pay the hotel for the time you are there, then the next guest arrives ... you don't pay for THEIR stay!!!
200 a week should be fine if you are there in person. Just don't be surprised to find out she is getting luxuries and has unnecessary expenses like Presidentes and letting family and friends use some of the money too. People work full time in schools and decent jobs and get 200 a month. People work full time as maids and get up to 100 a month and people in stores often get less than 200 a month. She is really taking advantage of her opportunity in you. I think you should be fine on 200 a week as long as the money is spent wisely. You will live like a middle class Dominican.
wow!!!~not to sound rude but omg ur crazy!!! I am Canadian and I live with my Dominican husband who makes 15,000 pesos a month. My mother owns the house so we r lucky we don't have to pay rent. I don't work yet because I have a 4 month old...but we live off of his money just fine.....food, internet, hydro, water, health insurance, doctors visits....and our grocery bill is more then an average Dominican I would say because I tend to like some of the things I am used to from back home lol...but I would say the majority of Dominicans eat plantains, rice, meat, salad, fruit and really don't spend to much on groceries...but that's just my opinion...sounds like ur being taken advantage of if u ask me...listen to the advice of the others on here....the majority of Dominican woman just want ur money and she probably has a husband who is also making use of the over-the-top amount of money u r sending her...why are u paying her way anyways???????
OMG.............
Another "lonely hearts club" thread?
Don't you guys EVER get bored with the same old, same old?
BTW, In case you haven't noticed, the OP is not very involved in the Q&A.
Hmmmmm.......
Sigh...
Don't get me wrong, I am not being judgmental here. I'm still battered and bruised :hurt: from an earlier post today.
Simply an observation....LOL.
If I'm not careful I'll end up :dead: instead of just battered and bruised :hurt:..........
Another "lonely hearts club" thread?
Don't you guys EVER get bored with the same old, same old?
BTW, In case you haven't noticed, the OP is not very involved in the Q&A.
Hmmmmm.......
Sigh...
Don't get me wrong, I am not being judgmental here. I'm still battered and bruised :hurt: from an earlier post today.
Simply an observation....LOL.
If I'm not careful I'll end up :dead: instead of just battered and bruised :hurt:..........
I am a foreigner, living here alone in the DR. Last week I cashed a check and received $4,090 RD in exchange. During the week I took taxis to and from work five days, a taxi a sixth day to/from a personal errand, picked up takeout food twice, ate out once, paid Business Mail for mail received, bought groceries for the week and paid a handyman to repair a pedestal fan in my apartment. I still have over $2000 RD left.
Granted, there is no baby needing formula or diapers (if the baby is that age) but you are sending her the equivalent of over $8000 pesos a week. What conclusions can you draw?
Granted, there is no baby needing formula or diapers (if the baby is that age) but you are sending her the equivalent of over $8000 pesos a week. What conclusions can you draw?
OMG.............
Another "lonely hearts club" thread?
Don't you guys EVER get bored with the same old, same old?
BTW, In case you haven't noticed, the OP is not very involved in the Q&A.
Hmmmmm.......
Sigh...
Don't get me wrong, I am not being judgmental here. I'm still battered and bruised :hurt: from an earlier post today.
Simply an observation....LOL.
If I'm not careful I'll end up :dead: instead of just battered and bruised :hurt:..........
Shake it off. You're cool.
DR1 has "People" in Santiago.
"PM" some of them her phone #, or the address of the bar where she "Works".
They will "Check-Her-Out" for you.
At no charge!
Orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, answer a few questions.
How/where did you meet her,"Latin Lovelies" is my guess.
Did you have sex with her on "Day One"???
Do her finger nails look as if they were painted by "Leonardo DaVinci"?
Hair done up nice?
Drinks a little too much?
Has her "Brother's" clothes & shoes" stored for him in "YOUR" apartment????
Been to Curacao, Panama, Venezuela,or "El Suiso"?????
Has a "Sick Mother"???
If the answer is "SI!" marry her before "Tonto" does!!!!!
"Tonto":laugh::lick::laugh::laugh:????????????????????????????
Now THAT makes sense!
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"PM" some of them her phone #, or the address of the bar where she "Works".
They will "Check-Her-Out" for you.
At no charge!
Orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, answer a few questions.
How/where did you meet her,"Latin Lovelies" is my guess.
Did you have sex with her on "Day One"???
Do her finger nails look as if they were painted by "Leonardo DaVinci"?
Hair done up nice?
Drinks a little too much?
Has her "Brother's" clothes & shoes" stored for him in "YOUR" apartment????
Been to Curacao, Panama, Venezuela,or "El Suiso"?????
Has a "Sick Mother"???
If the answer is "SI!" marry her before "Tonto" does!!!!!
"Tonto"
:laugh::lick::laugh::laugh:????????????????????????????Now THAT makes sense!
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DR1 has "People" in Santiago.
"PM" some of them her phone #, or the address of the bar where she "Works".
They will "Check-Her-Out" for you.
At no charge!
Orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, answer a few questions.
How/where did you meet her,"Latin Lovelies" is my guess.
Did you have sex with her on "Day One"???
Do her finger nails look as if they were painted by "Leonardo DaVinci"?
Hair done up nice?
Drinks a little too much?
Has her "Brother's" clothes & shoes" stored for him in "YOUR" apartment????
Been to Curacao, Panama, Venezuela,or "El Suiso"?????
Has a "Sick Mother"???
If the answer is "SI!" marry her before "Tonto" does!!!!!
"Tonto"
Now THAT makes sense!
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does any of this ring a bell, OP? did she ever present you with a pharmacy prescription dated 1994, that she has to fill immediately, because abuela esta grave?
well, you will get a bonus, because if she wins, so does Fausto, and maybe Joaquin.
Tonto That is my idea lol lol Billyrays PI.. For $500dls. My girl and her friends will find out everything about her..But dude there are good women here I got one..It is not her it is you..What women in a 3rd world country would not take the money..
I am not playing my girl takes 2000 pesos a week for everything food,gas for scooter saloon,ect...When I am not here..I live around Dominican people I can tell you the prices for everything she buys at the coner store..They do not eat steaks and make lasana..You will change her not to the good..
devdev is right on..Read and take in what she is saying about the cost and the foods dominicans eat they like those foods..
I spend 10,000rd per week for food which is roughly $250. There are 6 people in my household (1 leaves on the weekends). And my kids will not eat knock off cereal, and still want EGGO waffles and DiGiorno pizza. But we eat Dominican lunch (some type ofm rice, beans, meat, salad, and tostones).
Like I said, that is for 6 people Monday-Friday, weekends usually eating out.
$200/week is way too much for a woman and a baby...in my opinion.
And that's all it is. My opinion. Good Luck.
SHALENA
Like I said, that is for 6 people Monday-Friday, weekends usually eating out.
$200/week is way too much for a woman and a baby...in my opinion.
And that's all it is. My opinion. Good Luck.
SHALENA