I've been following this with interest and would like to throw in a slightly different slant. I accept that this forum is primarily for fun and entertainment, but these are serious issues we're discussing.
Whilst it may seem that all these "Canadian fatties" should be able to see what they are getting into, there really are a lot of women, and men, who come here for the first time, maybe never having travelled much or at all, and honestly don't have a clue what they are getting into. I was one of them, but an English rather than Canadian larger woman. Not everyone has read this site before they come, and many never read it when they are here, they're too busy taking in everything this country has to offer! They've probably never experienced anything like it...... I hadn't.
I love this country and the Dominican people and choose to continue to stay, after three years of coming here as a tourist and now three years of living here. I've been taken in more times than I care to admit. Knowing a fair bit now about how some Dominican men and women operate, I'm still not totally secure in my belief that it can't happen again, unless I avoid Dominican men altogether. Sankies, or users as I prefer to think of them, come in a range of disguises (and are not only Dominican, of course). The obvious ones are easy to spot and avoid, once you know what you are looking for, but it's easy to be taken in by others who appear to be more "respectable". All relationships comprise of some kind of trade off, but when that is hidden or misrepresented, people get hurt. Otherwise intelligent, successful and independent people can be reduced to powerless, self-sabotaging and hurting wrecks because they believed they were being offered love, when in fact they weren't. It may have been apparent for everyone else to see, but not to them, and that's a horrible, humiliating experience to find yourself in.
You can abuse us as much as you like, but I think those who said it's not going to prevent this happening again, have it right. Forewarned should be forearmed, but it's not always that simple, unfortunately. That's not to say that the warnings aren't still important and valuable, if they prevent at least some of these sorry sagas. I also agree that some people thrive on the drama.
I'm not one of them anymore, and now want some happiness and peace in my life.
I could go on in this vein for hours, but if there is anyone reading this, male or female, fat or thin, young or old, who still loves this country, has had their fingers burned or their heart broken, and still hangs on to the hope that it may be possible to have a good life in this country (whether or not that involves being in a relationship with a Dominican), drop me a personal e-mail, for sharing, friendship and mutual support.
"I have woven a parachute out of everything broken."
