The Hague convention applies, but like others, I'm not a lawyer and invoking Hague rights requires lawyers and legal maneuvers. Against all advice (family, friends, and lawyers) I allowed my child to travel from the US with his Dominican father during our divorce. I feel for you, and know how confusing these things are. In the end, there's much conflicting advice, and no-one can predict what will happen. Please fell free to pm or e-mail me, I'd be happy to share more details in private. While I'm in the US, it seems that our situations may have been very similar and I know and appreciate how insecure it feels right now. Where custody is concerned I'm assuming that Canada is similar to the US, excuse my ignorance if I'm wrong. Stay strong and be well.
I like this post alot.
I can only offer what i believe is good advice from my own experience and from what i learned from others in the same situation.
Just like Rubia says above, you will get conflicting advice. I for one have been able to travel with my kids to DR during my divorce. However, my ex and i NEVER allowed our disagreements to get in the way of what was best for the children. I never got in his way to see them or to spend time with them - outside of my own house or supervision and this worked out well for us. Six years later, we have a great parenting relationship. Long time in the making, but well worth it.
Of course, if you feel your son will be in danger, this is another story, but you know better.I suggest that you follow your heart, but dont let your personal feelings against your ex get in the way of your childs relationship with him.
This is the beginning of a life-long situation you will need to come to terms with. He will forever be your son's father and he will stay Dominican.
At the end of the day, dont lose sight of the most important fact: if he wants to spend time with his son, please dont take that away from the child. Not many of us can say we grew up with our fathers in our lives. This is why i continue to make every effort i can to keep my communication lines open with my ex.
I will also offer the best divorce advice i received from a friend: You shouldnt try to micromanage the father's relationship with his son. it is futile.
All the best...