STOP! this is not even about the ex anymore!!
I was blinded by total love obviously. He was a different person though then who is now.. I think the laws In Canada for immigration need to change!
Your judgment, actions, and feelings about this whole situation is clearly tied to your emotions. There is nothing we can say on this forum that will make you feel better at this point. What you are feeling right now is normal.
This man has done plenty to make you hate him and not want your son around him. Just please don?t do it out of spite, remember that at the one that will suffer the loss of his dad is your son.
(?) a Lawyer (mediator) involved and assigned to our son to pick what?s best between my ex and I.
The mediator is supposed to look out for the child?s best interest? not YOURS and not your ex.
As per this post here:
? he is all in this for money. And the mediator stated he should be able to bring our child to the DR for vacation. I understand if my ex's life was stable here I would have no problem, but he has nothing, no real apartment (rents a room) and my son is OK to stay there as per the children?s lawyer. He has no reason to return when what he craves in the DR life. He has debts here, he ruined his credit, and the list goes on. So he has no reason to return to actual Responsibilities. ?
Twilight, as far as what you have written, the reasons you have mentioned for not wanting your son to go to DR are all subjective, apparently based on your opinion about your ex.
BTW ? How he chooses to live his life it really up to him now? There's nothing you can control about that.
Also, given the economy and the situation in DR, I doubt he will have a better life there and leave the opportunities he has in Canada or the USA. So it is MY OPINION that his staying in DR and ruining all chances for a better future for himself AND getting in trouble with the law are UNLIKELY.
Lastly, He will end up spending a lot more than a $100 a month keeping him in DR anyway.
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To the rest of you spewing HATE towards such a complicated situation: please remember this is regarding a CHILD and a father ? he is a loser father, but HIS father nonetheless. If this man has any sense, he may come around and he will regret is actions. If the kid is taken away from him, there may be irreparable damage done to him in regards to how he views his father ? and who will help them then??
You guys shouldn?t add fuel to an already burning fire. She needs support and some reasonable advice, not HATE and deportation talk!
After reading responses like this:
I was blinded by total love obviously?
you can clearly see she is HURT! This is not about safety and $100 a month ? she is a woman scorned, is ****ed off ? and rightly so!
Let us not lose sight on the most important thing: this is FAMILY matter!
