Hello,
This is my first time posting here. I stumbled over this sight and thought perhaps I might be able to get some insight or help as I see there is a lot of info here on the subject of sankies! Help!
So here is the story..........a family member (US citizen) met a young DR man a few yrs ago. They both work for the same co. (he in DR, her is US) so this is how they met. They are now married for about a yr and yes she got him into US on a fiance visa. Frankly the first time I met him on a visit at the start of this, I thought he was gay. This was before truly knowing that there was any type of relationship going on and he was just introduced as a "friend" visiting from DR. She saw him fairly regularly on working trips and also visited on vacations and he came to US several times for visits. After about a yr or more of this, they announced they were engaged. Mind u, the US relative was all very secretive about this to most family due to him being 30 (!) yrs her jr. and due to him being non US citizen, I will also add if this matters, that he is black and she is white (divorced for many yrs and not un-attractive-but to a 30 yr old???!)
Of course everyone was concerned but family member made it quite clear if u don't accept this leave us alone!
There were many emails, phone calls etc. during the whole "courting" phase, he brought gifts here for her when he visited, she went and met his family and stayed there. I do not have proof or know for sure if he ever asked for any $ or if she gave any $ but I do suspect this knowing this family member's history. When he first came to US, she bought him a used car (before he even had a license to drive!) and he managed to get a job in another US city and commuted to their home on his days off. He also just happened to know another male in this city that he cld rent a room from-which I found interesting. He spent 6 months in the other city and has now been transferred to the city where the family member lives. Again, she is still being rather secretive about anything personal but I have found out that he has run up a rather large phone bill on a couple of occasions (and played dumb as to not knowing cost), she has also bought him a very expensive computer shortly after he got here and who knows what else!
Since before he came to US and since he has been here, his mother has been sick in hospital, his sister had a miscarriage, his father was sick, when he was still in DR he was in hospital, since he has been here, his mother has been in the hospital (he has also gotten sick with pneumonia while here so cannot rule out that any of this is true!) I do not know if the family member sent any $ for these "sick" issues before he came to US or since but I cannot rule it out since reading Sanky 101 and her history!
He just recently went on a trip back to DR alone and called her every night complaining about the heat, the brown outs etc.
I can add more info and if needed please ask but think this may be enough for some feedback/insight to the ? Is HE a SANKY??????
This is my first time posting here. I stumbled over this sight and thought perhaps I might be able to get some insight or help as I see there is a lot of info here on the subject of sankies! Help!
So here is the story..........a family member (US citizen) met a young DR man a few yrs ago. They both work for the same co. (he in DR, her is US) so this is how they met. They are now married for about a yr and yes she got him into US on a fiance visa. Frankly the first time I met him on a visit at the start of this, I thought he was gay. This was before truly knowing that there was any type of relationship going on and he was just introduced as a "friend" visiting from DR. She saw him fairly regularly on working trips and also visited on vacations and he came to US several times for visits. After about a yr or more of this, they announced they were engaged. Mind u, the US relative was all very secretive about this to most family due to him being 30 (!) yrs her jr. and due to him being non US citizen, I will also add if this matters, that he is black and she is white (divorced for many yrs and not un-attractive-but to a 30 yr old???!)
Of course everyone was concerned but family member made it quite clear if u don't accept this leave us alone!
There were many emails, phone calls etc. during the whole "courting" phase, he brought gifts here for her when he visited, she went and met his family and stayed there. I do not have proof or know for sure if he ever asked for any $ or if she gave any $ but I do suspect this knowing this family member's history. When he first came to US, she bought him a used car (before he even had a license to drive!) and he managed to get a job in another US city and commuted to their home on his days off. He also just happened to know another male in this city that he cld rent a room from-which I found interesting. He spent 6 months in the other city and has now been transferred to the city where the family member lives. Again, she is still being rather secretive about anything personal but I have found out that he has run up a rather large phone bill on a couple of occasions (and played dumb as to not knowing cost), she has also bought him a very expensive computer shortly after he got here and who knows what else!
Since before he came to US and since he has been here, his mother has been sick in hospital, his sister had a miscarriage, his father was sick, when he was still in DR he was in hospital, since he has been here, his mother has been in the hospital (he has also gotten sick with pneumonia while here so cannot rule out that any of this is true!) I do not know if the family member sent any $ for these "sick" issues before he came to US or since but I cannot rule it out since reading Sanky 101 and her history!
He just recently went on a trip back to DR alone and called her every night complaining about the heat, the brown outs etc.
I can add more info and if needed please ask but think this may be enough for some feedback/insight to the ? Is HE a SANKY??????
