Well, it seems my situation is resolving itself. I know may of you have read my stories on the family in La Caleta( Santo Domingo) that I try to help with rent of the house, barrels, food, clothing etc each time I go back to the DR., and I know many were concerned I was too involved and should ease back or even cut the cord altogether. Well, as fate woudl have it, the woman is now moving out of the house with the kids and back to her mother as they are fighting too much. I knew this was always going on, but there was nothing I could do about it. It seemed to happen more now that they had moved out of their tiny place with nothing into the much -bigger place I rented for them.
I gave them all they needed. He never needed to buy clothes, food, drinks whatever, I paid... and was willing and happy to do it at the time.. but as I wrote weeks ago, I have been feeling things have been getting way out of control and I was in too deep. It seemed to me they never argued so much and fought when they were worse off. I seem to have opened up a Pandora's box by covering all the stuff Juan always had to cover. Anyway- it seems like it is over ( at least for now). The family is leaving and my friend Juan will be alone in the big house. I paid two months deposit plus one to the
" lawyer" back in August last year... so I told him yesterday he has two months to find a smaller place. I think that is fair. I really do want to to ever see him or the family hurt. But fate hasa taken hold now and it seems out of my hands. I bougth a brand new fridge last year from Corripio for 12000 pesos, which I am sure he will sell ..... should I tell him to keep the cash for me ( and I will give to her) , or should I just close the chapter and move on? There is a second-hand stove, a washer -dryer, also that we bought form the compra-venta for about 3000 pesos each... I am sure he will get rid of there.. the mother will notbe able to bring these back to Samana with her. Should I insist he sell them and give me the money to bring to her? I go in 2 and half weeks to Santo Domingo... but I lied and told them that I cannot now go due to my poor economic situation right now. But I am going . Should I surprise Juan and see if he did the right thing, or sold all the items and spent iton booze? I would relaly hope not , but I know how things fly down there now that I've been there a few dozen times. In the long run I think this is going to be a very good thing and it lifts a heavy millstone from around my neck. I was torn between a life-long commitment to the kids whom I loved and financial delinquency on my part. So maybe God palyed a hand and said enough is enough.I still feel like I did something wrong... anyone got the name of a decent therapist?? So what do you all think? Should I call Juan and tell him not to sell anything till I return sowe can divide up the stuff and sell it for the good of the family, or throw in the towel an call it all quits? As of right now, no one is angry at me,...or so the text messages indicate....
cheers Mike, confused, but getting to see a bit of light at the end of the tunnel......
I gave them all they needed. He never needed to buy clothes, food, drinks whatever, I paid... and was willing and happy to do it at the time.. but as I wrote weeks ago, I have been feeling things have been getting way out of control and I was in too deep. It seemed to me they never argued so much and fought when they were worse off. I seem to have opened up a Pandora's box by covering all the stuff Juan always had to cover. Anyway- it seems like it is over ( at least for now). The family is leaving and my friend Juan will be alone in the big house. I paid two months deposit plus one to the
" lawyer" back in August last year... so I told him yesterday he has two months to find a smaller place. I think that is fair. I really do want to to ever see him or the family hurt. But fate hasa taken hold now and it seems out of my hands. I bougth a brand new fridge last year from Corripio for 12000 pesos, which I am sure he will sell ..... should I tell him to keep the cash for me ( and I will give to her) , or should I just close the chapter and move on? There is a second-hand stove, a washer -dryer, also that we bought form the compra-venta for about 3000 pesos each... I am sure he will get rid of there.. the mother will notbe able to bring these back to Samana with her. Should I insist he sell them and give me the money to bring to her? I go in 2 and half weeks to Santo Domingo... but I lied and told them that I cannot now go due to my poor economic situation right now. But I am going . Should I surprise Juan and see if he did the right thing, or sold all the items and spent iton booze? I would relaly hope not , but I know how things fly down there now that I've been there a few dozen times. In the long run I think this is going to be a very good thing and it lifts a heavy millstone from around my neck. I was torn between a life-long commitment to the kids whom I loved and financial delinquency on my part. So maybe God palyed a hand and said enough is enough.I still feel like I did something wrong... anyone got the name of a decent therapist?? So what do you all think? Should I call Juan and tell him not to sell anything till I return sowe can divide up the stuff and sell it for the good of the family, or throw in the towel an call it all quits? As of right now, no one is angry at me,...or so the text messages indicate....
cheers Mike, confused, but getting to see a bit of light at the end of the tunnel......
