Stop being so sensitive Dominicans, it's STUPID!

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I manage to cause insult on a regular basis without meaning to, it is just a term I have used all my life, why is STUPID used in relaxed terms (as in 'that's stupid' if someone does something wrong when to do it right was much easier, or, 'don't be stupid' if tries to open a can with a knife when a can opener is infront of them) so offensive. I have upset a few people using the word stupid, but use it in my Spanish as I would in English where it isn't offensive, just banter. I try to use other terms but often stupid fits best (not meant in an offensive manner), anyone else had this problem?
Unless someone can tell me it is soooooo offensive and for what reason I shall need to begin to tell people to just toughen up and get over it as I find apologising every time I see their faces drop a bit wet. What's up with the word stupid?
 
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It's not what you say but the way that you say it - that's what gets results.

Maybe these people are a little bit sensitive about being called stupid - I wonder why?
 
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Hope your wearing a vest....

Anastacio said:
I manage to cause insult on a regular basis without meaning to, it is just a term I have used all my life, why is STUPID used in relaxed terms (as in 'that's stupid' if someone does something wrong when to do it right was much easier, or, 'don't be stupid' if tries to open a can with a knife when a can opener is infront of them) so offensive. I have upset a few people using the word stupid, but use it in my Spanish as I would in English where it isn't offensive, just banter. I try to use other terms but often stupid fits best (not meant in an offensive manner), anyone else had this problem?
Unless someone can tell me it is soooooo offensive and for what reason I shall need to begin to tell people to just toughen up and get over it as I find apologising every time I see their faces drop a bit wet. What's up with the word stupid?
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<a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/51418611@N05/4994887423/" title="Gun by bocachica64, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4129/4994887423_3fa8540c64.jpg" width="500" height="353" alt="Gun" /></a>

Now in this case it would be perfectly appropriate to say "Now that's just stupid".........hahahaha......:cheeky::cheeky::cheeky:
 
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Well I'm sharing those thoughts, from nearly getting lamped at the fereteria for Telling the guy not to be stupid for telling me to substitute a reducer on the bath for silicone, to sleeping on the couch for calling my lasses sister stupid for considering getting pregnant at 18 while still in education, it's not nasty, just a 'come on, don't be daft', but I can't say if daft exist here, just stupid?
 
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rice&beans said:
<a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/51418611@N05/4994887423/" title="Gun by bocachica64, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4129/4994887423_3fa8540c64.jpg" width="500" height="353" alt="Gun" /></a>

Now in this case it would be perfectly appropriate to say "Now that's just stupid".........hahahaha......:cheeky::cheeky::cheeky:
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Wow I must be sleepy, it took me a good 60secs to notice what you were on about, lol.
 
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Anastacio said:
I manage to cause insult on a regular basis without meaning to, it is just a term I have used all my life, why is STUPID used in relaxed terms (as in 'that's stupid' if someone does something wrong when to do it right was much easier, or, 'don't be stupid' if tries to open a can with a knife when a can opener is infront of them) so offensive. I have upset a few people using the word stupid, but use it in my Spanish as I would in English where it isn't offensive, just banter. I try to use other terms but often stupid fits best (not meant in an offensive manner), anyone else had this problem?
Unless someone can tell me it is soooooo offensive and for what reason I shall need to begin to tell people to just toughen up and get over it as I find apologising every time I see their faces drop a bit wet. What's up with the word stupid?
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I imagine you say estupido in spanish right? Easy, stop thinking in English and translate to Spanish when talking. Just learn the local lingo on how playfully call somebody an idiot without offending them. Is like me calling my American peers here "Hey Rat" emulating how I talk with some of my Dominican friends here and back home "Dime Rata". The Americans will get offended right away or keep it in the back of their minds and a Dominican knows that's just a greeting.
 
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I'm facing the right way...why is everyone else wrong?......

<a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/51418611@N05/4995515660/" title="stupidity by bocachica64, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4105/4995515660_df2ecaf9a1.jpg" width="500" height="400" alt="stupidity" /></a>


Well I'll leave you with this.....one of my favorites.....:cheeky::cheeky:
 
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Yes I use estupido and am aware I am the only one I hear using it. I think I need to learn some new words for dumbass!
I do think it can e oversensitivity also, whenever I cry out bitch if I wackmy elbow on the shower or stand on a sharp dog biscuit my lass thinks I'm shouting at her, amazing!
 
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You can not call people stupid who are never wrong, it?s not logical!​
 
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Try one of these responses:

Say what?

You have got to be kidding me!

You are joking, right?

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Now that?s funny!
 
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Est?pido in Spanish is a much stronger insult than stupid in English, that's all. More precisely, in the DR and possibly other parts of Latin America. In Spain, IIRC, it's closer in meaning to its English cognate.

I found out the hard way too. :)
 
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True story. About 20 years my mother-in-law came to stay with us one summer [in NJ]. At the time we had an electric stove, and I was having trouble with one of the burners - sometimes it just didn't turn on. She didn't like the stove, was used to gas, but she used it. One day she decided to make something and I heard her call my husband into the kitchen. Then he called me in, to tell me there was something wrong with the stove. I said "Oh this stupid burner, it only works when it wants to" [in English]. All she heard and understood was the word stupid, and she went off like a rocket saying she was NOT stupid. We were both taken aback for a second, and he quickly explained I didn't call her stupid, I was talking about the stove. She didn't believe him, or me. In the US, we often use the word stupid to describe inanimate objects - not so in DR. And using the word stupido - them there's fightin' words!

Ever since, I'm very careful to avoid using that word when I'm in around Dominicans, here or there!

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Anastacio said:
Well I'm sharing those thoughts, from nearly getting lamped at the fereteria for Telling the guy not to be stupid for telling me to substitute a reducer on the bath for silicone, to sleeping on the couch for calling my lasses sister stupid for considering getting pregnant at 18 while still in education, it's not nasty, just a 'come on, don't be daft', but I can't say if daft exist here, just stupid?
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necio, torpe, baboso, loco, ridiculo, ingenuo, payaso, tonto, sagano? They dont work?
 
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AlterEgo said:
True story. About 20 years my mother-in-law came to stay with us one summer [in NJ]. At the time we had an electric stove, and I was having trouble with one of the burners - sometimes it just didn't turn on. She didn't like the stove, was used to gas, but she used it. One day she decided to make something and I heard her call my husband into the kitchen. Then he called me in, to tell me there was something wrong with the stove. I said "Oh this stupid burner, it only works when it wants to" [in English]. All she heard and understood was the word stupid, and she went off like a rocket saying she was NOT stupid. We were both taken aback for a second, and he quickly explained I didn't call her stupid, I was talking about the stove. She didn't believe him, or me. In the US, we often use the word stupid to describe inanimate objects - not so in DR. And using the word stupido - them there's fightin' words!

Ever since, I'm very careful to avoid using that word when I'm in around Dominicans, here or there!

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My lesson was learned when I light-heartedly told a Dominican colleague something like "no sea tan est?pido" in the sense that Anastacio meant - don't be so daft - and he took strong offence.

Talking of stoves, I had a misunderstanding with my Venezuelan granny when she complained that "la cocina est? muy sucia" after I'd cleaned the whole kitchen - I stomped off in a huff and my mother had to explain to me that "cocina" also meant stove. Not that it came as such great consolation because I'd cleaned the stove too.
 
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Find smarter people to hang out with, stupid!!! :bunny::bunny::bunny:
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LOL exactly. I love babpiece's advice. he should set up a radio show in DR.
I do not socialize with people who open up cans with knife. Just too chopo for my taste. I see people come here, find the people of their choice to live with and then turn around and complain about the same folks.
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Not about sensitivity.

Actually, I find it "stupid" for someone to move to a different country and not learn enough of the local lingo to avoid offending people.:ermm:
 
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