So I've been down here for a year and a half. I've dealt with the bad girls here and seen the street smarts in action. I'll say that their game isn't bad but it's bush league compared to what an educated U.S. woman will do to some poor guy. I met a girl about a year ago. Overall, she's nice, she takes good care of the house, her family is educated and decent, etc. But I've had a few Dominican bumps. The kind where it is assumed that all U.S. citizens are billionaires because they watch too much T.V. here in the D.R. They don't realize that the cost of living is relevant to where you live. I've had one of her relatives try to charge me a grand for something that was easily obtainable for under 200. I thought that was pretty slimy but it's also biz as usual down here for the gringo. I've had her lie to me one time that I'm aware of about buying things for her relatives and she used a not so nice word to describe me once. We have our weekly couple headbutting exercise as she, in typical woman fashion, says she wants to run the show and I put her back in her place (I'm not violent, I just tell her how it is, i.e. if she doesn't like it I can move on.) She seems to respond well to a firm hand and goes a little nuts if I don't let her know who's doing the driving. Again, normal for any woman I've dated in my 40 plus years of living. She's a younger girl and yes I know the game and the stats fellows and at best it's a risk. However, I've got a kid on the way, yes I'm 99% sure it's mine and yes I want a child that I'm more than willing to support and raise. Now, it's obvious I have doubts but I also have some questions that I could use some help with before I decide what to do next. I could be reading into things that just aren't there but I'd rather take a beating hear and if possible avoid some bad decisions.
1. Why would a woman here tell me that she wants a civil wedding and then after a year or two, a wedding in a church? I assume there are some legal reasons but I don't know.
2. She's agreed to a prenuptial agreement here. How well do they stand up in court?
3. She will only consent to signing the prenuptial and marriage after the child is born. She says it's because she wants a wedding dress without a baby bump. OK, but is there any other reason that I should be aware of?
4. If things don't work out, what am I looking at in terms of child support or child custody preferably. She's not a pro and has a respectable/professional family. So what am I up against.
Please help, I don't mind hard criticism as long as it comes with some valid experience and advice. If there is anyone out there who actually has a successful Dominican relationship and has dealt with similar issues I'd like to chat if possible. If anyone sees any serious issues where I could be hammered, i.e. should I run like hell, and can back it up, I would appreciate the info as well. Any helpful advice is appreciated even if you want to lump me in with the Galactically Stupid.
Thank you
1. Why would a woman here tell me that she wants a civil wedding and then after a year or two, a wedding in a church? I assume there are some legal reasons but I don't know.
2. She's agreed to a prenuptial agreement here. How well do they stand up in court?
3. She will only consent to signing the prenuptial and marriage after the child is born. She says it's because she wants a wedding dress without a baby bump. OK, but is there any other reason that I should be aware of?
4. If things don't work out, what am I looking at in terms of child support or child custody preferably. She's not a pro and has a respectable/professional family. So what am I up against.
Please help, I don't mind hard criticism as long as it comes with some valid experience and advice. If there is anyone out there who actually has a successful Dominican relationship and has dealt with similar issues I'd like to chat if possible. If anyone sees any serious issues where I could be hammered, i.e. should I run like hell, and can back it up, I would appreciate the info as well. Any helpful advice is appreciated even if you want to lump me in with the Galactically Stupid.
Thank you