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    Default I have been adopted 27 years ago and would like to find my real mom!!

    Hello to all forum members.
    My name is Carmen i live in Germany and i was adopted 27 years ago from a german family. I would like to find my real mother who aviously abandoned me leaving me in some childrenshelter in Santo Domingo.The realtionship with my step parents is not very good and they donīt want to tell me anything whatsoever.I have the adoptionpapers and all documents from the german side.I would really appreciate if any of you who read this could help me or give me an idea how to start with . I have two adresses of women who my parents gave to me. They said if you ever want to go to the Dom.rep. you can see them. I contacted them a few years ago but they did not tell me a single word about my mother as they are probably paied and on the side of my stepparents.o that is a dead end. Again i plead to everybody of you if you have any idea or could help me in any way i would be so grateful!!!
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    Carmen

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    You will certainly have to come here to resolve this. Do not be afraid, this is a nice place.

    HB

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    Hello Hillbilly,
    thanks for your response.I would be willing to come there but where to start. I donīt want to go there out of the blue not knowing who to contact what to do where to go. I have only limited time as i am also now a mother of a 2 year old baby girl.I would be willing to spent some money to a private investigator or anybody beeing able to get to the archives of the hospital where i was born. I donīt speak spanish so it should be somebody local. I have some informations about the procedure what happened then.I wish to find a person being able of dealing with that kind of stuff. I am sure there are ways for insiders to get to files and archives.That kind of person i need to help me. The whole thing makes me feel so bad. I can deal with everything what my biological mother could be. But i do not find peace of mind and it is bothering me very very much. It even starts to affect my daily life.I lay at night cannot sleep and so on. I really need somebody to help me with this.If you know anybody who could help me i really really would appreciate this.
    Best carmen

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    You could try the Roman Catholic church. Try and get the name of a priest near where you think you were adopted. The church may be able to give you the names of orphanages in the area - both Catholic and other.
    Somewhere some place the parents must signed papers and the church would know where these papers are archived. If you can find old photos of your step parents it could help. It would help to know the religion of your step parents at the time, where they were living and their tastes etc. in hotels, food, music. Also any business connections at the time with the DR e.g. import / export. Pictures of you as a baby could help.
    Other people will have other suggestions - but you should avoid getting involved with per day people unless they have a definite and reasonable list of visits and enquiry they are going to make and report back frequently.

    Yanandu


    Other people may have different ideas.

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    Hello yanandu,
    thanks for the response and ideas. My stepfather was a biologe working in the DR for the DED Deutsche Entwicklungsdienst German Developing service in santo Domingo. They then moved back to Germany later.I was 3 years old when they adopted me. I know the name of the orphanage i lived and i know the hospital where i was born. Aviously i was not baptised in the DR. That happend later in Germany. I also had no last name only Carmen.I really would appreciate if you could give me more ideas what i could do.
    Best Carmen

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    Quote Originally Posted by Carmelita View Post
    Hello yanandu,
    thanks for the response and ideas. My stepfather was a biologe working in the DR for the DED Deutsche Entwicklungsdienst German Developing service in santo Domingo. They then moved back to Germany later.I was 3 years old when they adopted me. I know the name of the orphanage i lived and i know the hospital where i was born. Aviously i was not baptised in the DR. That happend later in Germany. I also had no last name only Carmen.I really would appreciate if you could give me more ideas what i could do.
    Best Carmen
    Someone needs to go to the hospital and orphanage and do some research, preferably you. You could also have any friends you have in Germany who speak Spanish try and call the orphanage and hospital on your behalf.

    Also, what does your birth certificate say?

    Also, if you came to the DR I feel certain someone would be able to translate at little or no cost for a couple of days to do the research. I recommend you come during the off season to get a cheaper flight and hotel.

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    Wow Carmelita! Interesting story. Keep at it girl, you never know what you might find, the DR really is a great place. Being born there you have good reason to search out your family history.

    Wishing you good luck and do keep us posted as to your success!
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    YUou could hire the Guzman and Ariza firm to do the search. (www.drlawyer.com)...they could do the footwork as far as they are legally allowed.

    If you know the hospital and the approximate date, as well as the orphanage...the adoption process here is long and complicated, so there has to be a paper trail.

    I wish you every good luck .

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    Hmmmm...I wish you the best of luck. One thing is you need to be mentally prepared to not like what you may find. There aren't many orphanages in The DR because even nowadays it is EXTREMELY rare that a Dominican mother would abandon her kids and even rarer that she would abandon them and there would be no other family to take them in, even in the face of extreme poverty.

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    Hello to all !!
    Thank you so much for your responses. I am aware that it might be a bad even worse or an extrem terrible story what had happened then and why i ended up in that orphanage. But to live exactly with that big questionmark makes my life even worse. If i knew what happened i at least could try to put that behind of me and find some peace of mind. And if my mother would be whatever she could be i would be in the position to make the desicion if i want to meet her or not. Again thank you very very very much for trying to help me. Please do not let me down and if you have any other ideas please feel free to let me know.
    Again i have the hospital name i was born, the name of the orphanage i lived until i was 3 years old and of course my birthdate.
    Thank you again
    Carmen

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