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    Default I need to vent..Please tell me why!!!

    Bare with me but I really need to vent. Why ( and yes I could probably answer this myself) is it when you explain to someone what the process is ( paperwork etc...) do they not listen and then come back and blame you because it did not work. Or ( and this is the good one) they will tell you "Juan/Juana" said that you do not need to do that because they did it like this. OMG spent my precious time helping someone do some legal paperwork. Told them exactly where and when it needed to be done. Told them exactly what papers they needed to take with them and what happens I get 50 da*m texts telling me when they went there they could not do the process because the paperwork they had was not the "legal" copy. OMG how times did I tell these people you have to take the originals NOT the fax copy. I know I have lived here a long time and should be used to this but it amazes me everytime. No matter how many times you tell someone or show someone how something should be done its like there is the correct way and then what I call the " Juan/Juana" way. And everytime the "Juan/Juana way wins over the correct way. And then it is my fault. I know why do I bother!!!!!! Unfortunately this was a member of spouses family can't change my number..lol!!!! Thanks for letting me vent..Have a great day!!!!!

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    Feel any better?

    I think the TV needs to go out the window also, just to be sure you have it all off your chest!!!

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    I've run into this many times and have heard others say the same thing. They (I assume we are talking about Dominicans) will generally believe anyone but you!

    That's as uncomplicated as I can put it

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    Quote Originally Posted by AnnaC View Post

    That's as uncomplicated as I can put it
    Sh1t, that's bad as I'm confused, lol

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    Having lived through similar situations and tried to remedy the stupidest of mistakes made because "they told me to do it like this", I can certainly understand your vent. Just know that it is endemic to the culture and step back. Don't try to help. If they ask for it, tell them to get a lawyer, that you cannot do this sort of stuff, the "consul" told you not to,,,etc etc etc... It is the only way to avoid all this crappo...

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    Thank you, I do not feel so alone . Honestly there were some things flying, my phone!!!! No problem I will get a new one. Spouse will be paying!! I know I really should know by now just to keep my mouth shut and not offer any type of help. Lord knows they never listen to me!!!! I mean this family is educated but all that education and common sense goes out the window. The only answer I could give them was " are you fr***ng serious... I know all Dominicans are not like this but da*n there is not 1 day that does not go by that I do not encounter this. Maybe for them common sense makes too much sense. Heck I showed the instructions/process to them in espanol and they still did not want to believe what was right in front of them.Ok I am done!!!!!!! I will move on.

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    I live with this situation everyday. Especially it is a hell when coordinating the logistics. Even they repeat the same thing every time, they will not correct themselves and do the same mistake everyday. Many times I had involved myself to train them and now they started to think it is my duty. I understand your frustration.

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    Default Not to go off topic....

    Bare with me but I really need to vent...
    please tell me that someone else other than me started to laugh when they read this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by keepcoming View Post
    Bare with me but I really need to vent. Why ( and yes I could probably answer this myself) is it when you explain to someone what the process is ( paperwork etc...) do they not listen and then come back and blame you because it did not work. Or ( and this is the good one) they will tell you "Juan/Juana" said that you do not need to do that because they did it like this. OMG spent my precious time helping someone do some legal paperwork. Told them exactly where and when it needed to be done. Told them exactly what papers they needed to take with them and what happens I get 50 da*m texts telling me when they went there they could not do the process because the paperwork they had was not the "legal" copy. OMG how times did I tell these people you have to take the originals NOT the fax copy. I know I have lived here a long time and should be used to this but it amazes me everytime. No matter how many times you tell someone or show someone how something should be done its like there is the correct way and then what I call the " Juan/Juana" way. And everytime the "Juan/Juana way wins over the correct way. And then it is my fault. I know why do I bother!!!!!! Unfortunately this was a member of spouses family can't change my number..lol!!!! Thanks for letting me vent..Have a great day!!!!!
    If you paid attention you would learned when CC said "they know how to do everything, but nothing ever gets done." Juana's information was better than yours because everyone is looking for an easier way to accomplish a simple task. I dont know you man, but I KNOW you told them to bring the originals. But Juana told them a copy should be good enough. You told them to bring an official certified birth certificate but Juana told them their cedula should suffice. Bro, everyone here has been through that. You dont know how to do anything but you are the only person getting it done.

    Everything in every event is exactly the same. They make decisions based on wacked out advice from the peanut gallery versus listening to the guy who is clearly exposed to the requirements. Its like someone telling you they want to blaze their own trail but blaming you when they dig themselves into a ditch. Even though you made it specifically clear that they were steering towards swampland. <--What an analogy.
    Last edited by RacerX; 09-02-2011 at 07:30 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mobrouser View Post
    please tell me that someone else other than me started to laugh when they read this.
    Well, it was a particularly hot day today

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