This is my first time posting but read most of the threads and found it so helpful and interesting!This is going to be a long post, sorry in advance. If you don't feel like reading the whole story, just read the last paragraph. Thanks in advance.
I am a Canadian now living and working in the US for close to 10 years. I am a healthcare professional, 32 y.o., I live confortably financially but I am in a failing marriage of 7 years (yes I guess the 7 year itch...). I like to think that I have some common sense and can read people more easily than other can. I am petite (height and weight) and I keep in shape. I do get attention from men in the US but I have to say I was not prepared for the DR. (I have travelled in many different places but always with my husband, but not this time).
I went to Punta Cana for a week with friends. I was getting lots of attention at the hotel, from the Dominican and from a few tourists but most of it was so obvious, it was easy to brush it off.
One night, I met V (yes, he is a hotel worker, a DJ...) He seemed different from the other guys because mostly he was not talking a lot, I guess I like the silent type... We danced, had a quick kissed and he grabbed my axx ( I know this is no excuse but I was drunk and on vacation and by that time I felt like maybe I was going to have a fling).
By the next night, I felt like: we live only once and I have never done this even though I know very well that my husband has (at least one time that I know of) and I "deserve" it. Like it is a price or something...
So the next night, we danced some more and we planned to meet after he gets off work and my friends were off to bed. I did not want them to know...
We did not sleep that night even though I have to say he is not really good in bed... We had sex a few times and were talking about our lives.
He told me he has a 2 year old child from a previous relationship (after reading all the posts on DR1 about dominican "polygamist", I don't know if it is previous or current.) He was in the army for 4 years before this job. He is 26 y.o. (6 years younger than me). He loves his job (been there for a little over a year) and loves batchata... That his friend don't want him to dance with their girlfirend because he dances too sexy, I can get that... He told me he had never been in bed with a tourist (I told him that I did not believe him, in return he told me that he did not believe this was the first time I cheated on my husband... even though it really was). His father has 21 kids from 5 different women (a real Dominican from what I understand now). He had 4 with his mom.
I was very honest with him: married, unhappy with my marriage, looking for a fling, not love. He seemed to think the same but asked me to please meet him for a second night since after that, he would be leaving the resort for holiday and not come back until I was gone. So, I accepted.
The second night was different, less casual if I can say that. He wanted me to sleep there until morning. He was asking me why I did this (sleeping with him)? Saying that my husand should know how lucky he is to have me. He asked me why I did not have any kids in 7 years? I told him that most likely I will not be able to have kids (I have some hormonal issues that make it unlikely that I will become pregnant without some kind of fertilization treatment, I did not go into those details with him) He told me that if I were to become pregnant with him, he would want me to come to DR and he would take care of me. He said he has no money but has his love. He asked me if I would come back another time to see him, I did not answer. He said if you ever come back to DR, just know that there is someone here who cares about you. He wanted to get my email, facebook, etc, I refused. He really seemed heartbroken, do you think it was his wallet talking? He kept saying: "I can't believe this will end just like this. No more 'my name'. No more 'my name'. You are my fantasy.". I told him that he is a good person, he will find a girlfriend. He said " no, my hand will be my girlfirend..." He said he sometimes watches porno movies with girls like me and now that he has known me he doesn't even want to watch that anymore. I thought this was a little disrespectful but I did not say anything. After all, I had gotten myself into this. He asked if I would forget about him and I said no never, that he would be a good memory. He said when you are very old, you can tell your husband about this.
I am proud of not giving in to his request for my email but after he left I really was devastated, kept thinking about what he said, what if he is honnest? What if I am really his fantasy? He never asked for money or complained about his life. He even said that now he makes good money with his job. I wonder if he was talking about what the hotel give him or if he has other girls like me??? He has a Iphone,do you think that it is paid by some other girl?
I feel like I need to get to the bottom of this. If he is really honnest, I would actually consider going to live there. Seeing how it goes. I feel like we had a connection but I am wondering if he felt like he had a possible connection with my bank account instead of me. I would not mind supporting him financially but I cannot live with a player, cheater (who am I to say that..). I know that when I found out about my husband escapade, it broke something and we have not been able to restore it since then. I feel like I am in a limbo, my life is so stressful in the US and I could really use a break. I have never felt so appreciated and special as I felt with him.
I keep going back and forth between thinking this was the best thing I ever did or the biggest mistake. I need help!
Do you know of any private investigation service that can look into him? I only know his first name, hotel and that he is a DJ) I would be willing to pay good money to know the truth. I think this may be the only way for me to get off the hook. If I see a proof that he has other women taking care of him, I will go on with my life, just my pride will be hurt a bit.
I am a Canadian now living and working in the US for close to 10 years. I am a healthcare professional, 32 y.o., I live confortably financially but I am in a failing marriage of 7 years (yes I guess the 7 year itch...). I like to think that I have some common sense and can read people more easily than other can. I am petite (height and weight) and I keep in shape. I do get attention from men in the US but I have to say I was not prepared for the DR. (I have travelled in many different places but always with my husband, but not this time).
I went to Punta Cana for a week with friends. I was getting lots of attention at the hotel, from the Dominican and from a few tourists but most of it was so obvious, it was easy to brush it off.
One night, I met V (yes, he is a hotel worker, a DJ...) He seemed different from the other guys because mostly he was not talking a lot, I guess I like the silent type... We danced, had a quick kissed and he grabbed my axx ( I know this is no excuse but I was drunk and on vacation and by that time I felt like maybe I was going to have a fling).
By the next night, I felt like: we live only once and I have never done this even though I know very well that my husband has (at least one time that I know of) and I "deserve" it. Like it is a price or something...
So the next night, we danced some more and we planned to meet after he gets off work and my friends were off to bed. I did not want them to know...
We did not sleep that night even though I have to say he is not really good in bed... We had sex a few times and were talking about our lives.
He told me he has a 2 year old child from a previous relationship (after reading all the posts on DR1 about dominican "polygamist", I don't know if it is previous or current.) He was in the army for 4 years before this job. He is 26 y.o. (6 years younger than me). He loves his job (been there for a little over a year) and loves batchata... That his friend don't want him to dance with their girlfirend because he dances too sexy, I can get that... He told me he had never been in bed with a tourist (I told him that I did not believe him, in return he told me that he did not believe this was the first time I cheated on my husband... even though it really was). His father has 21 kids from 5 different women (a real Dominican from what I understand now). He had 4 with his mom.
I was very honest with him: married, unhappy with my marriage, looking for a fling, not love. He seemed to think the same but asked me to please meet him for a second night since after that, he would be leaving the resort for holiday and not come back until I was gone. So, I accepted.
The second night was different, less casual if I can say that. He wanted me to sleep there until morning. He was asking me why I did this (sleeping with him)? Saying that my husand should know how lucky he is to have me. He asked me why I did not have any kids in 7 years? I told him that most likely I will not be able to have kids (I have some hormonal issues that make it unlikely that I will become pregnant without some kind of fertilization treatment, I did not go into those details with him) He told me that if I were to become pregnant with him, he would want me to come to DR and he would take care of me. He said he has no money but has his love. He asked me if I would come back another time to see him, I did not answer. He said if you ever come back to DR, just know that there is someone here who cares about you. He wanted to get my email, facebook, etc, I refused. He really seemed heartbroken, do you think it was his wallet talking? He kept saying: "I can't believe this will end just like this. No more 'my name'. No more 'my name'. You are my fantasy.". I told him that he is a good person, he will find a girlfriend. He said " no, my hand will be my girlfirend..." He said he sometimes watches porno movies with girls like me and now that he has known me he doesn't even want to watch that anymore. I thought this was a little disrespectful but I did not say anything. After all, I had gotten myself into this. He asked if I would forget about him and I said no never, that he would be a good memory. He said when you are very old, you can tell your husband about this.
I am proud of not giving in to his request for my email but after he left I really was devastated, kept thinking about what he said, what if he is honnest? What if I am really his fantasy? He never asked for money or complained about his life. He even said that now he makes good money with his job. I wonder if he was talking about what the hotel give him or if he has other girls like me??? He has a Iphone,do you think that it is paid by some other girl?
I feel like I need to get to the bottom of this. If he is really honnest, I would actually consider going to live there. Seeing how it goes. I feel like we had a connection but I am wondering if he felt like he had a possible connection with my bank account instead of me. I would not mind supporting him financially but I cannot live with a player, cheater (who am I to say that..). I know that when I found out about my husband escapade, it broke something and we have not been able to restore it since then. I feel like I am in a limbo, my life is so stressful in the US and I could really use a break. I have never felt so appreciated and special as I felt with him.
I keep going back and forth between thinking this was the best thing I ever did or the biggest mistake. I need help!
Do you know of any private investigation service that can look into him? I only know his first name, hotel and that he is a DJ) I would be willing to pay good money to know the truth. I think this may be the only way for me to get off the hook. If I see a proof that he has other women taking care of him, I will go on with my life, just my pride will be hurt a bit.
