I have a very successful, albeit different, relationship. My husband and I are both Americans (non-Domincan) and after 13 years of marriage, we decided to have a very limited, open marriage. We each have one boyfriend/girlfriend. My husband's girlfriend is here in L.A. and I found mine in the D.R. where he works at a nice resort. My boyfriend has a family, decent career, house and his own money. It's almost like polygamy because he refers to both of us as his wives, but he isn't formally married to either of us. We both love our families and neither of us are going to leave them nor do we want the other to do so. We are honest with each other and our spouses.
This arrangment is not for everyone, nor do I recommend it. But it works very well for us. My boyfriend and I care for each other and love talking and laughing on the phone everyday. Skype very soon - as soon as he figures out how to register. He is a very good man (and so romantic, right?). I have been back to the D.R. to be with him. Of course, he wants to come to the U.S., but he knows that I can't do anything to help him with that. I will write a letter to the embassy for a tourist visa so that he can see my country - and because I want to see HIM. Maybe he and his family can eventually move to the U.S. through his brother who lives here.
The bottom line is, we are all VERY happy and there is not much to lose with this arrangement. I know I'm not being used but we are having so much fun learning about each other's culture and language - and did I mention the romance?
This arrangment is not for everyone, nor do I recommend it. But it works very well for us. My boyfriend and I care for each other and love talking and laughing on the phone everyday. Skype very soon - as soon as he figures out how to register. He is a very good man (and so romantic, right?). I have been back to the D.R. to be with him. Of course, he wants to come to the U.S., but he knows that I can't do anything to help him with that. I will write a letter to the embassy for a tourist visa so that he can see my country - and because I want to see HIM. Maybe he and his family can eventually move to the U.S. through his brother who lives here.
The bottom line is, we are all VERY happy and there is not much to lose with this arrangement. I know I'm not being used but we are having so much fun learning about each other's culture and language - and did I mention the romance?
And do you really think it is O.k that you are having sex with another womens husband..Just because your husband and you choose to live like wild dogs does not mean that your Sankies wife does. 
