I'm a frequent reader of this forum and thought it was time to ask a question. I constantly read about guys wanting to come to the DR to meet quality girls. Responses to these inquiries usually contain some denigration of anyone who has no interest in establishing anything more than casual relationships. Then there is the reference to what I can only conclude is the ego gratification attached to meeting and conquering good upper class Dominincanas (this seems in some way to be synonymous with blanca, but for the life of me I can't understand how your skin color alone makes you a good person). I suspect some people view these women as a better class of human being because of their money/privledge/color? It appears, in some minds, that assuming this facilitates the transfer of this perception on to oneself. Here at home I long ago abandoned judging folks strickly by where they came from. Perhaps being raised in the projects, overcoming an addiction, and working in corporate America with some pretty elitist folks who weren't worth much more than their inherited credentials has taught me to look a little deeper when taking a person's worth.
Personally I go to the island to establish and maintain as many casual relations as I can manage without laying too much emotional waste ("shields up"). If I really wanted a good girl from a good family I'd have settled down with any of a number of women I have met here in the states. My problem is that nearing 50 I have lost the desire to "court" or "peel too many layers off the onion". I completely understand the difficulty in maintaining fidelity (hey if I commit it's for the whole 9 yards) while riding the waves of another person's ego, emotions and family attachments (a virtual tsunami when it comes to an intercultural relationship, I know I've been there). No, fully aware of my limitations and tolerances, I now maintain just a few requirements. She has to be attractive (beauty is in the eye of the beholder), fun to be with, and in general a good person (e.g., has loving friends and displays a friendly attitude regardless of the person's outward appearance). Since it has become way to difficult to date, with much luck, solely on that basis here at home I now regularly travel to the DR where the women are generally willing, attractive (in all their glorious colors) and in large numbers open to casual relationships.
You may have concluded that I have no objection to paying a fee for companionship if the basic criteria (refer above) is met. My position is I'd rather pay outright than steal via false expressions of current or future emotional attachments. Yes, exploitation is a concern, but of course that depends on the value the parties place on what's being transferred and whether a fair price was paid. For me freedom of movement is paramount. If I wanted to be tied down I'd be happily chained to some outrageous mortgage, some gigantic SUV for the wife, and a mother-in-law I had not interest in visiting. I've chosen to remain independent by taking the pay as you go approach. As is often been said in this forum, some of the most expensive sex is the kind you attempt to get for free.
Now finally here's the question. Guys/girls, do most of you who go to the DR or live there, seek out serious or casual relationships? My opinion is, that contrary to the position frequently exposed by a number of regular posters, the majority of you who engage in relationships with the opposite sex do so purely on a casual basis and wouldn't want it any other way.
On final observation, in a sexually open society, as you have in the DR, there are somethings that can and will cross both economic and color lines, one of those things is the pursuit of good expertly delivered sexual gratification. It is often surprising what the promise of a good lay will do to bring down the barriers that sometimes segregate us.
Personally I go to the island to establish and maintain as many casual relations as I can manage without laying too much emotional waste ("shields up"). If I really wanted a good girl from a good family I'd have settled down with any of a number of women I have met here in the states. My problem is that nearing 50 I have lost the desire to "court" or "peel too many layers off the onion". I completely understand the difficulty in maintaining fidelity (hey if I commit it's for the whole 9 yards) while riding the waves of another person's ego, emotions and family attachments (a virtual tsunami when it comes to an intercultural relationship, I know I've been there). No, fully aware of my limitations and tolerances, I now maintain just a few requirements. She has to be attractive (beauty is in the eye of the beholder), fun to be with, and in general a good person (e.g., has loving friends and displays a friendly attitude regardless of the person's outward appearance). Since it has become way to difficult to date, with much luck, solely on that basis here at home I now regularly travel to the DR where the women are generally willing, attractive (in all their glorious colors) and in large numbers open to casual relationships.
You may have concluded that I have no objection to paying a fee for companionship if the basic criteria (refer above) is met. My position is I'd rather pay outright than steal via false expressions of current or future emotional attachments. Yes, exploitation is a concern, but of course that depends on the value the parties place on what's being transferred and whether a fair price was paid. For me freedom of movement is paramount. If I wanted to be tied down I'd be happily chained to some outrageous mortgage, some gigantic SUV for the wife, and a mother-in-law I had not interest in visiting. I've chosen to remain independent by taking the pay as you go approach. As is often been said in this forum, some of the most expensive sex is the kind you attempt to get for free.
Now finally here's the question. Guys/girls, do most of you who go to the DR or live there, seek out serious or casual relationships? My opinion is, that contrary to the position frequently exposed by a number of regular posters, the majority of you who engage in relationships with the opposite sex do so purely on a casual basis and wouldn't want it any other way.
On final observation, in a sexually open society, as you have in the DR, there are somethings that can and will cross both economic and color lines, one of those things is the pursuit of good expertly delivered sexual gratification. It is often surprising what the promise of a good lay will do to bring down the barriers that sometimes segregate us.
