Fiesta Mama said:
I just had to set the record straight after after checking in with DR1 after almost a month and getting a good laugh over the fact that people spend time talking about what others are doing. Anna I don't mean you or the others who were wondering about my wellbeing and I thank you for that. Dawnwil thanks for offering to share my life on a message board despite the fact that you don't even know me. Sure you have seen me but I don't believe we have ever had a conversation???
Anyway, I did NOT move to the DR to live with my boyfriend. I had a relationship in the past with a Dominican (as you are all aware) and that ended before I ever moved here. I moved to this country to have a different experience in life and to take a break from my life back in my own country. I am having a great time and don't plan on going home any time soon!!!
Those of you who are my friends can feel free to PM and I would be happy to share more details however I rarely check in on DR1 since it has turned into a gossip board so be patient with my responses.
FM
Words on a message board can be cheap-- it's easy to paint any picture a person wishes. I have zero interest in gossiping. Most people in this Peyton Place expend much more energy doing so and are much better at it than me.
You have given a false impression of my purpose in speaking up, so I shall set the record straight as well.
FM, let's just say that not too long ago, while you painted a rosy picture here on DR1, you painted a different one in real life. One day in Rocky's, I logged into DR1 moments after you posted a glowing report about your life in Sosua, while your words to anyone who would listen around you were anything but. I couldn't believe the juxtaposition. You seemed in the depths of depression from what I saw and heard on more than one occasion. I am a writer, I listen and observe. You left others exhausted by your negativity. I sincerely hope things are better for you now!
I wished to convey one message only. It troubled me to see others jumping on the bandwagon and offering blind support when they know a person, any person, ONLY by words on a message board.
Especially given the problem here with Sankies and deluded women believing their situation is different. Or 'special', 'true love', etc etc ad nauseum. I live here now, and the truth is this: those women don't need any more false bravado or hopes than they already carry. They need a strong and harsh dose of reality. Those who jump in and blindly cheerlead have no idea how they might be leading a poor deluded soul down the garden path with false hopes.
So, "to share your life", as you put it, was certainly not my interest; I find the idea repulsive. I would like to say, however, that in the past, you did so quite thoroughly yourself.
You are right on two counts, my conversations with you have been extremely limited. I chose not to be drawn into the negativity. It's much too tiring. I remember only one brief talk... you spoke about how bored you were here; I asked you how you could be bored here, and you said it was different for me because I had my work here. I told you I believed boredom was a state of mind. End of conversation.
And, it's also true: I have no idea how things have been going for you the past few weeks here; I hope better than your first few weeks.
I wish you well and hope you find happiness in this country. Whatever it is you're searching for, there is only one place to find it: inside yourself. Be at peace with yourself and you will no longer be concerned about how others perceive you. When you are no longer concerned, others will see the 'you' that you try so hard to convey now.
Peace!
Dawn
PS Reply as you will; I will not be responding.