MommC said:
Check out some of the other posters who have married in the past three years (just search for marrying or marry or married) and try to PM them to see how many are still together!
Yes there are successful unions also posted on the board however if you check them out ALL met HB's "Rules" or surpassed them.
Good luck.......
Not to get on your case, MommC; I know you mean well and have seen a lot, as have I. I know there is a lot of negativeness to be had on this board, and in many cases,
tienes razon . However, my husband Angel did not meet any of HB's rules, and five years later, I'm happier with him than I ever have been. Being that Angel never did go to the discos when he was single, and still in Canada does not prowl, I can say, without a doubt in my mind, that he was not prowling the discos while waiting for a visa. He was never a sankie, and I was the first foreign girlfriend he had. I didn't meet him in a hotel, I met him while I was living there and watching his ballgame, so I admit, my story is a little different. I had friends living in the area who went out all the time after I moved back home, and the only time they ever saw him was on the street during the day. If he did go out, it was to the sports club where he lives in Los Jaliscos playing dominoes. So however easy it is to paint everyone with the same brush, it's not fair. Everyone who meets someone and starts asking about them on this board is automatically criticized for being with a sankie. It then puts doubts in the woman's head, perhaps
sin razon, and it poisons their minds. Unless you actually know the exact person they are talking about, how can everyone scar them and slander them this way? There are definitely good men to be found in the DR, so categorizing all of them is just not fair. I do encourage anyone wanting to make a commitment to a Dominican to live there and see the other side of their lives before marrying, however, I realize not everyone is in a position to do so. Point of the matter is, these women are going to do what they want and learn the lessons they need to learn no matter what any stranger tells them. So why do we care enough about this complete stranger that we want to warn them about someone we have no clue about his intentions or feelings?
PS (ETA)
Not to single you out by quoting you, MommC, that was not my intention - I could've quoted a number of posts in this thread and made the same argument. Your's was just the closest to the bottom!
