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    Default He wants to pay for everything

    Hi!
    I recently met a guy from the Dominican Republic on a cruise ship. Allegedly he fell in love with me. I told him that there's no future for us because I don't have the money to come and see him and that time is also an issue.
    He wants me to come back over christmas and is offering to pay for the cruise (at least 1000 only for a cabin and food, drinks and tips would go extra). He says he would get me a cabin close to staff quarters and that he would invite me as his girlfriend which means that we could behave like a couple not like personell and guest.
    I wonder whether he's a sankie though because of all this falling in love head over heels stuff.
    I could imagine falling in love with him but I haven't yet, time was just too short. And reading about all this sankie-stuff now makes me doubt everything he said. Then again - he can't be after my money. I haven't got any and he knows that... Confusing!
    Does he sound like a sankie to you?

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    Default sankette??

    Quote Originally Posted by notion
    Hi!
    I recently met a guy from the Dominican Republic on a cruise ship. Allegedly he fell in love with me. I told him that there's no future for us because I don't have the money to come and see him and that time is also an issue.
    He wants me to come back over christmas and is offering to pay for the cruise (at least 1000 only for a cabin and food, drinks and tips would go extra). He says he would get me a cabin close to staff quarters and that he would invite me as his girlfriend which means that we could behave like a couple not like personell and guest.
    I wonder whether he's a sankie though because of all this falling in love head over heels stuff.
    I could imagine falling in love with him but I haven't yet, time was just too short. And reading about all this sankie-stuff now makes me doubt everything he said. Then again - he can't be after my money. I haven't got any and he knows that... Confusing!
    Does he sound like a sankie to you?
    You know, there are sankette's too!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by notion

    I could imagine falling in love with him but I haven't yet, time was just too short. And reading about all this sankie-stuff now makes me doubt everything he said. Then again - he can't be after my money. I haven't got any and he knows that... Confusing!
    Does he sound like a sankie to you?
    No, but you sound like a sock puppet.

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    Huh?
    You're calling me a sankette and a sock puppet?
    Why?

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    Take him up on his "offer" and see if he really delivers. Tell him to send you the cash. hehe I have my doubts it will happen.

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    Dear "notion",
    There is nothing wrong with accepting his invitation.
    It may, however, not turn out to be as told. Staff on cruise ships are not allowed to demonstrate openly a liaison with a passenger.... Given that he is Dominican working in the tourist trade also adds to my doubts that his intentions are honest.
    Beware, your nationality might be high on his priority list and
    your getting him a visa could well make up for his investment in you.

    M' frog

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    Last edited by mountainfrog; 10-02-2005 at 10:40 AM.

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    True Mountainfrog...

    Many of these guys consider,

    1) In the long run you have more money than they have, even if you are not rich. Most of these guys aim to "get" tourists, they know they are not moviestars. They also know whatever money you have, it is more than them. If not now, then at a later stage in life.

    2) Their goals are longterm, they want a visa/citizenship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by notion
    Hi!
    I recently met a guy from the Dominican Republic on a cruise ship. Allegedly he fell in love with me. I told him that there's no future for us because I don't have the money to come and see him and that time is also an issue.
    He wants me to come back over christmas and is offering to pay for the cruise (at least §1000 only for a cabin and food, drinks and tips would go extra). He says he would get me a cabin close to staff quarters and that he would invite me as his girlfriend which means that we could behave like a couple not like personell and guest.
    I wonder whether he's a sankie though because of all this falling in love head over heels stuff.
    I could imagine falling in love with him but I haven't yet, time was just too short. And reading about all this sankie-stuff now makes me doubt everything he said. Then again - he can't be after my money. I haven't got any and he knows that... Confusing!
    Does he sound like a sankie to you?
    Since I am getting sick and tired of advising people on whether someone is a sankie/sankiette or not (well not really but it gets tiresome) all I will tell you is: TEST HIM!.

    Tell him that if he wants you there, to pay for EVERTHING, including the drinks and tips. Tell him to send you the money ahead of time. See him run as if his axx was on fire.

    Now, for YOU, let me ask you something and judge for yourself if he is sankie or not:

    1- Why doesn't your head tells you that if he did this with you, that he is doing it with other girls that he meets?.

    2- Nothing against you but: what's so special about you that this man would go "bonkers" over you and not any other girl on the cruise?. I you have that effect on men EVERYWHERE you go, then believe him and just consider that he works on a cruise an there's no doubts in my mind that he does the same to whomever he sees as an "easy target".

    Let me tell you a little story and then you can make your own conclusions:

    I know someone in Cancun, Mexico that once told me, while I was vacationing there: "Miguel, you are a very handsome man (yea dick, whatever) but I can get much more girls that you would ever dream of getting. On a slow weekend, I can score with about 10 different girls. I am on a eternal honeymoon!!!". When I asked him how was that possible being that he was a fat, short and ugly duckling (I swear I told him that, kiddingly but I meant it). He response was: I WORK ON A CRUISE SHIP and as long as there are desperate tourists who would believe anything that we tell them, there will always be jobs and women to be had for us ugly ducklings. Some of these morons do not understand that we are paid to show them a good time and make them feel happy. It does not matter how bad they look, we are supposed to say anything in order to make them feel like a million dollars!!!.

    Now, do your own math.

    Btw, why would you even consider going into a relationship with someone that works on a cruise ship knowing full well that you will not be able to see him often?. Why do you want to put yourself in a position where you will be wondering if he is with others (I say others because as SOME resort workers' sankies/sankiette, SOME swing both ways)?.

    Save yourself some headaches and money down the line and leave everything as is and don't forget that to be in "lust" is not the same as being in love. Find someone in your own backyard.

    Don't forget that a STD does not discriminate and you would be going to bed not only with him, but also with EVERY SINGLE PERSON that he went to bed with prior to you!. Think with your head and not your heart.

    Good luck and I hope that you are not someone that we will tell: "WE TOLD YOU SO!!!!!".

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    Words are very nice and don't cost a thing but actions are much better.

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    Hi all!
    Yeah, you might be right in what you're saying. Maybe he's a sankie.
    Thanks for taking the time to give me some advice.

    Of course I have taken many of the things you said into consideration even before I knew about sankies.

    The "why me" factor. Although I cannot complain about a lack of admirers I think you always have to ask yourself that question nevermind which country they're from. The world is full of liars who are only after one thing.
    The contageous diseases problem. Also a thing that you really have to take into consideration all over the world these days.

    The long distance relationship. I don't really mind that for a while as long as there's trust... Anyway allegedly he is not gonna sign a new contract after this one.

    Uhm, I will see what happens.
    Anna is right: Actions do speak louder than words! So if he is being sincere he's gonna have to prove that and really work for it.
    I can be very stubborn if I put my mind to it!

    Well thanks a lot again. I'll do my best to remain level-headed!
    notion

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