Ok ? Well I?m a born and raised American Girl (25). I work in a construction field and have met a Dominican Man on the job site and have been dating him for the past (2) months. Our relationship in the beginning was not that serious to me and I mean he is a contractor and travels around, but as time has gone on I have really fallen for him. BUT there have been some major problems with our relationship, he is always with his friends (the men he travels & lives with), he will come down to my house late in the night, he has never even spent a full day with me, we have never been out in public together, he tells me he?ll call then he won?t, he gets mad at me for the silliest things, seems to be very jealous as well, but I love being with him. He is the first man I?ve been with that makes me feel special and happy.
So he left here and went away to visit some family out of state. He was supposed to stop by to see me before he left but I never heard from him. I was very upset, it wasn?t until the next day he calls to tell me why? he goes on and on about how I didn?t kiss him when I seen him on the job site and was very upset by it. Saying I don?t want anyone to know about us, (I live in a small community, where everyone talks about everyone) and me being White and him Black, is a big deal to people here. I could careless what anyone has to say, and furthermore I?d sooner move him right in than blink my eyes.
So there he was already out of state ? so mad at me ? hung up on me, and me with no numbers to reach him. No idea where he was or who with. He ended up calling 3-days later ? calmer ? but still something was up ? I told him how I missed him with no reply from him. Then the next night I went out to eat and his boss was out, needless to say his boss told me he was going out of state to get married. I was heart broken. I called him and he started yelling at me asking me who told me that, and that was crazy and told me not to ever call him again and hung up on me. Never heard from him again, didn?t even know if I would see him come back.
The next weekend I went out with some friends, and some of his friends were out. I tried to pry some information out of them, but most of them don?t even speak English and the ones who did told me NO he wasn?t getting married. But would they tell me??
So that night I had a few people over to my house including his friends and after a few too many beverages I ended up kissing his one of his friends. I was so mad at him and thought he had gotten married and after lack of judgment I thought that would hurt him, but in the long run it only hurt me.
So needless to say he came back yesterday and I talked to him on the job site yesterday, which did not go over well, he was upset with me, threw his hand in my face saying he didn?t get married, his cousin told him to tell his boss that so he could leave for a week, then preceded to tell me he had bought me a ?ring? and was going to give me a ?ring? but he knew about me being with his friend, he said a few other choice words and walked off.
He ended up calling and leaving me a few messages last night, asking me how could I do that to him (being with his friend) and told me he would never forget it. I have not spoke with him yet again and I don?t know what to do? I want to believe him, but what if he did go get married? How in the heck will I ever know? Do you think he just wants me around while he is here then when he leaves town he?ll leave me again? I just do not understand men, especially this Dominican Man! I care about him so much and I have no idea what approach to take? HELP
So he left here and went away to visit some family out of state. He was supposed to stop by to see me before he left but I never heard from him. I was very upset, it wasn?t until the next day he calls to tell me why? he goes on and on about how I didn?t kiss him when I seen him on the job site and was very upset by it. Saying I don?t want anyone to know about us, (I live in a small community, where everyone talks about everyone) and me being White and him Black, is a big deal to people here. I could careless what anyone has to say, and furthermore I?d sooner move him right in than blink my eyes.
So there he was already out of state ? so mad at me ? hung up on me, and me with no numbers to reach him. No idea where he was or who with. He ended up calling 3-days later ? calmer ? but still something was up ? I told him how I missed him with no reply from him. Then the next night I went out to eat and his boss was out, needless to say his boss told me he was going out of state to get married. I was heart broken. I called him and he started yelling at me asking me who told me that, and that was crazy and told me not to ever call him again and hung up on me. Never heard from him again, didn?t even know if I would see him come back.
The next weekend I went out with some friends, and some of his friends were out. I tried to pry some information out of them, but most of them don?t even speak English and the ones who did told me NO he wasn?t getting married. But would they tell me??
So that night I had a few people over to my house including his friends and after a few too many beverages I ended up kissing his one of his friends. I was so mad at him and thought he had gotten married and after lack of judgment I thought that would hurt him, but in the long run it only hurt me.
So needless to say he came back yesterday and I talked to him on the job site yesterday, which did not go over well, he was upset with me, threw his hand in my face saying he didn?t get married, his cousin told him to tell his boss that so he could leave for a week, then preceded to tell me he had bought me a ?ring? and was going to give me a ?ring? but he knew about me being with his friend, he said a few other choice words and walked off.
He ended up calling and leaving me a few messages last night, asking me how could I do that to him (being with his friend) and told me he would never forget it. I have not spoke with him yet again and I don?t know what to do? I want to believe him, but what if he did go get married? How in the heck will I ever know? Do you think he just wants me around while he is here then when he leaves town he?ll leave me again? I just do not understand men, especially this Dominican Man! I care about him so much and I have no idea what approach to take? HELP