Hi all (this is long so only continue if you are willing),
I am a first-time poster. It was recently my first time dating a Dominican. I live in Asia but there is a military base where I live with lots of Dominicans.
So I like to go out dancing to bachata, merengue, salsa, etc. and I met this Dominican guy at the club. We have been acquaintances for many months and always enjoyed dancing with each other. From the moment I saw him, I was instantly attracted to him. I never acted on it, as I was in a relationship. However, as soon as I broke up with my boyfriend last week, he asked me out so of course I eagerly accepted. We spent a couple days togther (and did NOT sleep together, just a kiss) and started discussing how it is such a shame we didn't mean sooner (I am leaving for a 6 month trip to Central America in July) and he tried to convince me to come back sooner so we could be together. On the second day he told me that he wasn't like the other Dominican guys but that he didn't want me to fall in love with him because one day he was going to get up and leave and there is nothing I can do about it. I got ****ed off and asked him why he was telling me this on the 2nd day of hanging out with him. Then he asked if I like challenges. I said it depends. I was just confused and had no idea what he was talking about.
Then the next day, I decided to look him up on myspace.com. And guess what, he was on there... pictured with his 17 year old Dominican wife and kid in New York! I was so shocked... not necessarily angry, but I laughed because I was so surprised! Here I was actually thinking I may even shorten my trip just to be with this man I was very attracted to and thought I could take seriously. I sent him a really cocky email telling him to say hello to his wife and kids and he still thinks to this day somebody told me... haha, thank goodness for myspace. I am so glad I found out now and not months later. I would have been devastated.
He tried to explain that he really did want to tell me the truth when he told me not to fall in love with him but that it just wasn't the right time. He said he always had this attraction for me that led him to do what he knew was wrong and also begged me to give him a chance as a friend. At first I firmly told him to **** off but then I started feeling a little empathetic and thought, well maybe I could be his friend?? He seems like he might actually be a nice guy who just wants a companion for these next 2 years he is separated from his wife. I will surely NOT fulfill that role knowing he is married but I started thinking I would be willing to meet him again just to try to form some sort of friendship. I guess I am wondering, is he a total sleaze that has more schemes up his sleeve or maybe he is genuine in spite of the fact that he cheats on his wife? There is also the fact that I am attracted to him and maybe meeting him again at all would just complicate matters?
Anyways, I guess it doesn't really matter much but I do want to learn more about men in Latin culture as I have a deep interest in Latin America and plan on spending a lot of time there. (I went to Brazil for 6 months and the men were this way but I guess there is always more to learn).
Thanks guys, sorry for the mega long post.
I am a first-time poster. It was recently my first time dating a Dominican. I live in Asia but there is a military base where I live with lots of Dominicans.
So I like to go out dancing to bachata, merengue, salsa, etc. and I met this Dominican guy at the club. We have been acquaintances for many months and always enjoyed dancing with each other. From the moment I saw him, I was instantly attracted to him. I never acted on it, as I was in a relationship. However, as soon as I broke up with my boyfriend last week, he asked me out so of course I eagerly accepted. We spent a couple days togther (and did NOT sleep together, just a kiss) and started discussing how it is such a shame we didn't mean sooner (I am leaving for a 6 month trip to Central America in July) and he tried to convince me to come back sooner so we could be together. On the second day he told me that he wasn't like the other Dominican guys but that he didn't want me to fall in love with him because one day he was going to get up and leave and there is nothing I can do about it. I got ****ed off and asked him why he was telling me this on the 2nd day of hanging out with him. Then he asked if I like challenges. I said it depends. I was just confused and had no idea what he was talking about.
Then the next day, I decided to look him up on myspace.com. And guess what, he was on there... pictured with his 17 year old Dominican wife and kid in New York! I was so shocked... not necessarily angry, but I laughed because I was so surprised! Here I was actually thinking I may even shorten my trip just to be with this man I was very attracted to and thought I could take seriously. I sent him a really cocky email telling him to say hello to his wife and kids and he still thinks to this day somebody told me... haha, thank goodness for myspace. I am so glad I found out now and not months later. I would have been devastated.
He tried to explain that he really did want to tell me the truth when he told me not to fall in love with him but that it just wasn't the right time. He said he always had this attraction for me that led him to do what he knew was wrong and also begged me to give him a chance as a friend. At first I firmly told him to **** off but then I started feeling a little empathetic and thought, well maybe I could be his friend?? He seems like he might actually be a nice guy who just wants a companion for these next 2 years he is separated from his wife. I will surely NOT fulfill that role knowing he is married but I started thinking I would be willing to meet him again just to try to form some sort of friendship. I guess I am wondering, is he a total sleaze that has more schemes up his sleeve or maybe he is genuine in spite of the fact that he cheats on his wife? There is also the fact that I am attracted to him and maybe meeting him again at all would just complicate matters?
Anyways, I guess it doesn't really matter much but I do want to learn more about men in Latin culture as I have a deep interest in Latin America and plan on spending a lot of time there. (I went to Brazil for 6 months and the men were this way but I guess there is always more to learn).
Thanks guys, sorry for the mega long post.
