In general, Latin-Americans believe in starting a family early. In Dominican Republic it is very common for a young girl to move in the her boyfriend?s family if she becomes pregnant ? even if she moves out soon after having the baby as if nothing happened. In this case, they can always say that she ?married? and it didn?t work out. We are of the thought that kids should be had early, regardless of the circumstances.
I have worked in Corporate America for about 10 years now. The American thought is that career comes before kids, so many of my co-workers are just getting around to having their kids. One of my co-workers is just now trying at 40. By the time I turn 40, my son will be 20 and my daughter 15!! I LOVE THAT!
So here is the big difference: I am divorced but my family says to me: ?At least you have your kids? meaning, my marriage is a wrap, but the most important part is that I have my kids. I guess is because is a lot more common to see us being single than with a good spouse. When I tell anybody at work that I am now divorced, they look at me with sad faces and say that they are sorry for my situation (but that?s also around the time when I smile REALLY big and ask them if I look unhappy!).
This is where my question comes in: (I can only speak for Dominicans now) WE feel that it is very important to have our kids early but apparently, Americans feel that having them later on in life is better.
I believe is in how we look at things and how we handle situations. I know that not many 20 year olds will rise to the occasion and still make life happen.
At any rate, I couldn?t imagine living my life at my age, dating and coming home to an empty house. I also couldn?t imagine looking for someone to have kids with at this point in time and with the mess that they call the dating scene out there. What about these clocks that women are logging around ticking really hard? I would be a crazy mess!
Maybe that?s when a animation guy becomes really attractive and all sense goes out the window?
Any thoughts?
I have worked in Corporate America for about 10 years now. The American thought is that career comes before kids, so many of my co-workers are just getting around to having their kids. One of my co-workers is just now trying at 40. By the time I turn 40, my son will be 20 and my daughter 15!! I LOVE THAT!
So here is the big difference: I am divorced but my family says to me: ?At least you have your kids? meaning, my marriage is a wrap, but the most important part is that I have my kids. I guess is because is a lot more common to see us being single than with a good spouse. When I tell anybody at work that I am now divorced, they look at me with sad faces and say that they are sorry for my situation (but that?s also around the time when I smile REALLY big and ask them if I look unhappy!).
This is where my question comes in: (I can only speak for Dominicans now) WE feel that it is very important to have our kids early but apparently, Americans feel that having them later on in life is better.
I believe is in how we look at things and how we handle situations. I know that not many 20 year olds will rise to the occasion and still make life happen.
At any rate, I couldn?t imagine living my life at my age, dating and coming home to an empty house. I also couldn?t imagine looking for someone to have kids with at this point in time and with the mess that they call the dating scene out there. What about these clocks that women are logging around ticking really hard? I would be a crazy mess!
Maybe that?s when a animation guy becomes really attractive and all sense goes out the window?
Any thoughts?