I get the picture
I had written a reply this AM but it is not on the screen so I will write it again and address all of the issues and questions.
1.) My children are 13, 7, and 4. My 13 y.o has no desire to come and will live with my mom and her husband which she thinks it the best thing ever, even though I don't. I would like her to be with me but I did take psychology in college and I know that moving a child at her age would be worse. My 7y.o and my 4y.o. would love to move, I have asked them without actually "asking" them. I live in a wonderful "looking" subdivision where I know the name of only one of my neighbors. My children go outside on a daily basis knocking on doors asking if any of the children can play, usually to no avail. I hate this for them. Their faces when they return from outside is reason enough to move.
2.) Thanks for assuming that I have no money. I am a Registered Nurse for goodness sake. I have enough money saved to live comfortably in Sajoma for 7-8 mos. if I did not work AT ALL. And actually, I will be returning to my current job every 2 mos and working a week. Doing this I will earn Approx. $4,000 which in Sajoma, is enough to live off of comfortably for approximately 3-4 mos. but I will be doing this every 2 mos. Also, each summer my kids will return to the US to visit their father for a month at which point I will return also to work and work EVERYDAY for a full month to pad my bank account for unexpected expenses.
3.) I also have enough sense to know not to send my children to a public dominican school, when the dominicans that I know (EDUCATED DOMINICANS) don't even send their children to the public schools. My questions WAS should I choose a school that taught in english or spanish and my children speak spanish, I would say, on an intermediate level.
4.) I have met lots of men, of course, there. But I have not spent more than 2 hours with any particular one and I have NO love interest at this time. As I said before, all of my closest friends are dominicans, male and female. And I have been taught well by my male friends, dominican men are professionals at what they do... this goes back to the point that I am not stupid. Also, as a single mom, I take offense to the mere thought that I would move my children to another country for a man.
5.) Sajoma is a wonderful "pueblo" with wonderful people and although it is not "Santo Domingo" "Santiago" or the like, it in itself is worthy of respect. I have been to Santiago on several occasions, and after apprx. half a day I begged to be returned to Sajoma immediately. I have worn all of my jewelry in Sajoma as well as my friend has and every other woman I have met there has. Eveyone knows that I am American and I have not been robbed, even when my friend has left her door open and we have gone via "passola" to the "colmado". I am not saying that there are not thieves or bad people there but that is everywhere. I have had my wallet stolen from the breakroom at work for goodness sakes.
Thanks so much for the advice and keep it coming, I need to hear this. But please ask me questions and do not make assumptions. I will gladly answer the question truthfully.