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    Default Can anyone help me help this kid? Sorry L O N G post!

    Soon after I arrived to this Country my kids came for a 10 day visit. As kids are, they quickly made friends with kids living in the apartment building where I first lived near Sosua. After they left, these kids, especially two little girls of 7 years of age by now and their family remained friendly with me. Over the last year this friendship has grown to almost a family style relationship. We go to see their grandpa in San Juan (South), go to the river and beach together, make sancocho etc.
    Yes, they are humildes but, probably because I came into their life thru the children they have treated me equal and never really asked me for anything.
    One of the girls, has a "godfather" in the US who is doing the great thing of paying for school at the Sosua Int'l School in La Mulata. As many of you may know, this in not only said to be a good school but also quite expensive at over USD 500.oo a month.

    The other one, well, she does not directly belong to the family. It's one of those typical stories of a kid who was taken over by one family because the mother has 3 others all from different fathers of which only 2 have taken their responsibilities serious and care for their offspring. She, of course was not one of the lucky ones.
    As she is not "bringing in any money" she is welcome to food and sharing a bed with the other one... but obviously, that's about it.
    There is also no school for her... after all, she is only a girl (don't need school) and sentenced to be poor (know where you belong!).
    I can't argue with the family, I can't change the world or only this country but I am trying to get her in a decent school.

    So, I went and looked at the public school in her neighborhood... and went out 10 seconds later shaking my head... forgitaboutit... the last birthday party we had was quiter and more civilized.
    I checked out the two most recommended private schools on the South side of Sosua and only then learned how generous the first girl's "godfather" is. I can't do that.

    But last Sunday, a lady inadvertently backed her car into my truck, creating a minor damage on my vehicle. She was very sorry and went to great lengths trying to resolve the issue fairly. So, we talked and she mentioned a private school in the bar and nite club sector of El Batey (as you may realized, I try not to use names, yet). Her kid goes there and she pays 2000 Pesos a month. Now, I CAN do that! If I can safe a kid that has given me it's unconditional child love.. for 60 Dollars a month, I'll gladly do it.
    I went down there three days ago and talked to a secretary in their offices and told her the whole story, just as you read it here.
    Her first concern obviously was, that the girl was at an age where she should go into 2nd grade but never had attended school. I immediately answered that I agreed that she needed to go into 1st grade. Then, she indicated that their 1st grade students are already "aphabetisados", which is yet not her case. I answered that if they would take her for 1st grade this year, I would see to it that she would be put up to speed by the end of August... either a tutor or even I would take it upon me to get her ready.
    So, I was told that she would comment to the director and call me next day.

    Well, she did call, yesterday, and told me that the response was negative. I asked why and she explained that first because she was not prepared to enter 1st grade, to which I replied that I had stated that I would get her prepared.
    But now comes the what really ticked me off big time:
    She went on to say that they wouldn't consider her because "es una nina de estas"! I asked what she meant, after all, the girl is 7 so what kind of girl can she be? Well, that she is one of these girls who has no family!
    Now keep in mind, this coming from a Dominican secretary and what by the name would seem to be a Dominican director of a school which has been build by the people of which most where orphans or their families otherwise ripped apart by the Nazis!

    I asked to have a meeting and was promised I would get a call back to schedule a meeting. Yet, not to my surprise, I have not received any calls.

    I am not prepared to let this argumentation count. I think it is offensive towards the Dominican society and the memory of the people who founded a school like this one.

    And still, I am looking for a real solution to have this girl put thru school so that she will get a real chance in life and history won't repeat itself.

    So, if you all have not already fallen asleep over this overly long post, I am looking for help helping this girl.

    ... J-D.

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    I can applaud your efforts...please do not let their stupidity dull your sense of what is right.

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    why dont you try teaching her yourself for the time being? you know the basics. thats what my mother did for me before i started school and thats what i did for my son and continue to do every summer before school starts.
    then after you have taught her the basics then try to find a school.

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    JD.
    What you are trying to do is great!

    Are you willing to be the "hands on" person to sponser this child? That is to be directly involved rather then handing money to others that in most cases does not end up helping the child.

    There is a grade school up the road across from the old club house entrance to Porto Chiqueta. I'm told that you would not know that it is a school, I'm sure it is poor. One of the teachers is staying with one of my renters and I can talk with her this PM.

    If you could use some $ to help sponser her, I would gladly trust you.

    Respectfully, Ringo

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    Quote Originally Posted by wylechile_2000 View Post
    why dont you try teaching her yourself for the time being? you know the basics. thats what my mother did for me before i started school and thats what i did for my son and continue to do every summer before school starts.
    then after you have taught her the basics then try to find a school.
    She lives in La Union, I live in down town Puerto Plata. There are obvious logistics involved in commuting a kid back and forth. I can't have her living here, I live alone and it's not proper here... I don't want to be considered the next Michael Jackson.
    Besides... I am 42.. I work.
    Yes, while I have never done it before, I feel confident I could teach her to read an write... in Spanish that's easy (when compared to English) as it;s almost phonetic. But I don't want her to just get the basics... I want to break her out of the vicious circle of ignorance.
    Yet, if it's necessary I am prepared to bring her up to speed during the summer vacations.

    ... J-D.

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    I would talk to the director of the school and explain to him that you will be taking care of the expenses and making sure that the girl shows up every day on time, dressed properly and clean and and that she will do her homework. You need to be persistent. If for any reason you think you're Spanish isn't adequate for them to understand you, have someone call on your behalf.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ringo View Post
    JD.
    What you are trying to do is great!

    Are you willing to be the "hands on" person to sponser this child? That is to be directly involved rather then handing money to others that in most cases does not end up helping the child.

    There is a grade school up the road across from the old club house entrance to Porto Chiqueta. I'm told that you would not know that it is a school, I'm sure it is poor. One of the teachers is staying with one of my renters and I can talk with her this PM.

    If you could use some $ to help sponser her, I would gladly trust you.

    Respectfully, Ringo
    Thanks for the generous offer, Ringo. I know I can do the 2000Pesos a month... I can do the books a year and her T-shirt and shoes... and even her pants! But I want it done right... something I / We can look back upon some day and be proud.

    ... J-D.

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    Ok I would suggest that you stick to your guns and give it all you've got.
    You seem to be her only hope of an education and a start in life.
    Its only an idea but maybe you can find members here who would be willing to teach her privately for the same money you would pay the school.
    There must be quite a few ex pats who could teach a 7 year old enough to get her upto speed. does not have to be the same person for all subjects ie maths english spanish history etc .....many could give one day, afternoon or evening to help I would have thought. It could be the beginning of a new school founded and run entirely by ex pats?

    I hope you get a good response for what is a very good cause.
    I wish there were more people with the same attitude as you.

    Skippy1

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hillbilly View Post
    I can applaud your efforts...please do not let their stupidity dull your sense of what is right.

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    I never do, Sir. It has not always made my life easier but well...

    ... J-D.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skippy1 View Post
    Ok I would suggest that you stick to your guns and give it all you've got.
    You seem to be her only hope of an education and a start in life.
    Its only an idea but maybe you can find members here who would be willing to teach her privately for the same money you would pay the school.
    There must be quite a few ex pats who could teach a 7 year old enough to get her upto speed. does not have to be the same person for all subjects ie maths english spanish history etc .....many could give one day, afternoon or evening to help I would have thought. It could be the beginning of a new school founded and run entirely by ex pats?

    I hope you get a good response for what is a very good cause.
    I wish there were more people with the same attitude as you.

    Skippy1

    The post are coming in faster than I can respond them.
    I think it's an idea, but then it would eventually lead to a new school... maybe we could do this.
    But right now, I think this is kind of an emergency as there is no more time to be wasted with her... by the end of this year she will turn 8.

    Because of the inconsistent way her "family" navigates thru life, I think there needs to be a regular schedule they will have to abide by... dressing her up and sending her in the concho guagua to school, every day, same time... or it will fail on those good souls who will try to help will give up, not on her but on "them".

    I still have not given up on "that" private school in El Batey (those who do not know which one I mean PM me). And I hope we have some here who could and would try to talk to some sense into them.
    Somebody who visited me today and with whom I consulted about posting this here, thought that maybe we could e-mail them and remind them a little bit about history too(?).

    ... J-D.

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