I love some advice I read on this site which is to respond to tigueraje with tigueraje.
I got a bunch a cuzins just waiting for me to land drooling at the mouth. I ain't lending them a dime either, nor am telling them when I am getting there!
Good luck pierods
Be a tiguere or be P*nd*j*.
Yup the island game. I have an aunt who does surprise vacations too. LOL
One cousin says...as soon as I step off the plane I start begging them before they have a chance to beg me first. lol She calls herself cheap before they call her that first. She could care less.
My good Cuban friend in Toronto said he is returning to Cuba for the 1st time in years and will probably just visit family/friends for a day and then head off to a part of the island where he knows no one so he can have some peace. Kind of sad really.
My Dominican friends dad when he returns to the DR he refuses to stay with family and stays at Playa Dorado because he hates people asking him for stuff and lets everyone know he brings/gives nothing to no one.
My other friend said she knew a guy who works in resort and wouldnt even go visit his grandma in the campo because all his cousins would be begging him for money.
My friend says.....'they got by all their life without my money before they will get by without it now'. And never lend to people you couldnt turn to in your time of need. Some people are just leeches
Sure people have emergencies, thats an exception, but I have learned the hard way that giving money to most people who are just plain irresponsible with their money is ENABLING them to keep being irresponsible!
You are not actually helping them you are hurting them!!!!!!!!! They will never learn how to be self reliant. Let people fall in their mistake and then they will learn to choose differently next time. A baby learns how to walk by falling and giving some people monet is like catching them before they fall.
If you constantly bail people out they will never learn to set important priorities or their are consequences for their actions because hey 'this' person will help me in a bind. Just like children most people learn this way best. They need to feel discomfort or pain to learn lifes most valuable lessons.
"Oh darn you are going to be evicted because you have not payed your rent.
Thats too bad for you. But if you were not so irresponsible and bought the latest cell phone or spent all your rent money on Presidentes making Mr. President and his family more richer that god (they thank you from their private jet and luxury mansions all over the world LOL), you wouldnt have the problem you have now".
So maybe sleeping on the street one night will be the kick in the butt they need. Saying no is a good thing sometimes. It is not an evil word.