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    Default Help with a schizophrenic

    I will try and keep this short!!! Although the whole story would make a book!!!

    I look after an apartment for an american lady. I rent it or she rents it. I check in the guests, collect the rent and security deposit. When they leave I check the inventory, return the deposit, clean it and wait for the next guest.

    She rented it 2 weeks ago to an American lady, Turned out it was for her 28 year old son from Miami and his Dominican gf. GF turns up on the day from Santiago. Nice girl. Has not seen bf for 4 years??? Pick up bf from airport, and turns out he is diagnosed Schizophrenic. Plus mental age of around 6 years. Mother has sent him here for a month with 50 us$. GF leaves after 2 days, as thinks he is wierd and expected him to give her lots of money when he arrived. Bf is a sex maniac and desperate for a woman - but only has 50 us$. Now has less, as has has bought a wooden elephant and a presidente T shirt off beach. He managed to find one Haitian girl and spent last 30 us$ on her.Not at his apt as administration would not let her in - thank goodness. At least had sex for first time in life, and informed me he wore 3 condoms!!!!

    I have had him round at my house every night for dinner but he now has no money, have written to mother who sent another 20 us$ by Western Union, which went straight away on another hooker sesssion. He leaves 8th June, but mother will not pay for him to go earlier. Nor will she send money for food. He does not understand that he cannot get a gf here without money.

    Any intelligent suggestions, as this responsibility is getting too much (!!!) or does anyone know anything about schizophrenia??? He is now getting depressed as is desperate for real gf and I will not let him take anyone to apt as I know he has no cash and think he might be in danger or at the least they will take stuff out of apt.

    Matilda

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    When he leaves, check the totally inventory.
    Don't borrow him any money.
    Give him no food on credit.
    How much deposito he paid you?
    Tell him that hookers are not allowed in the apartment.
    Better throw him out, because you get troubles with him.
    And give him back a part of the money.
    Go today checking the inventory.

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    Default social services

    I would have contacted social services in the American ladies home town , as she is obviously not worried about sending someone who cant take care of themselves around the world with no money and relying on some samaritan to come to his aide

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    Quote Originally Posted by Matilda View Post
    or does anyone know anything about schizophrenia??? Matilda
    Yes. Don't allow it to become your problem, Matilda. The American owner might choose to refund the rental and send him home; it was she who rented to this tenant's mother, not you. Your job is to care for the property, not the incumbents, yes? Mother of the young man doesn't sound like her grasp on reality is too tight either - of course he can't exist here without money for food.

    You say he is becoming depressed: suicide rate among young male schizophrenics is pretty high. I don't know if there have been attempts in the past. You really don't need this, nor does the owner of the property. Send him home or call in his Embassy for assistance with getting the airline ticket brought forward. I am sure the young man's mother needs a break but this isn't the way to arrange it, shifting the responsibility to others who were not pre-warned and aren't prepared & who would never have agreed to this if they had known.

    Don't try to treat him or mother him. Does this sound harsh? Yes, but I know what a kind person you are Matilda.

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    Hi Matilda,

    Just wondering, did mom send any medications with him? Any responsible parent of a schizophrenic would not send him/her out on vacation without their medication (Seroquel, Zyprexa, Ativan, Clozapine) especially if that person appears to be unfit to travel and is unaccompanied. It appears this may be an attempt at mom trying to rid herself of her son. This worries me a bit as I work in the field of psychiatry and deal with schizophrenics on a daily basis, and know that when people are psychotic that they need to be in a safe place under the care of a Psychiatrist. However, he sounds quite manageable other than wanting to spend what little he has on lady friends. He may not be psychotic (it doesn't sound like it) at the present time, and if that is the case then you have nothing to be afraid of other than some odd behaviour on his part. Should you feel unsafe or worry for his personal safety then the only thing that I can advise you is to call the authorities ( police/Canadian Embassy). They most likely will have him sent back in that case. There are many schizophrenics that are very wonderful people and as I said before, unless he appears to be threatening in any way then you should have nothing to be afraid of. But if you can, do him a favour and ask him where his meds are, check them out if he'll allow you to, ask him when he took his last dose, and hopefully you can get him back on track with those (very important). And another thing, do not enable him by giving him any more money. If mom sends some you should be using this to cover the fact that you're feeding him (but of course he will probably not understand this).
    Thank you for caring so much Matilda. Unfortunately his mother doesn't seem to care an ounce as much as you do.

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    My bad...American Embassy

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    I also rent apartments in Juan Dolio.
    In such cases you have a big problem.
    Also me had different cases like this.
    Better you do not accept everybody for renting.
    But it is smart that you have a deposit.
    I hope it is not a small deposit.

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    I agree Matilda, we are not just talking about some randy teenager that is trying his luck, he has a severe mental illness and these people find it hard enough to function in familiar territory let alone a foreign country like here.

    I would contact the owner of the apartment and the mother again, You are too good hearted Matilda and are being taken advantage of. This is not your responsibility and maybe you may feel guilty ruining this young mans so called vacation as it sounds as if he thinks its heaven on earth, but he could really get himself in trouble.

    If he is crazy for the hookers and hasnt got any money in addition to being mentally ill, I hate to think what he could be capable of to get his fix!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lambada View Post
    Yes. Don't allow it to become your problem, Matilda. The American owner might choose to refund the rental and send him home; it was she who rented to this tenant's mother, not you. Your job is to care for the property, not the incumbents, yes? Mother of the young man doesn't sound like her grasp on reality is too tight either - of course he can't exist here without money for food.

    You say he is becoming depressed: suicide rate among young male schizophrenics is pretty high. I don't know if there have been attempts in the past. You really don't need this, nor does the owner of the property. Send him home or call in his Embassy for assistance with getting the airline ticket brought forward. I am sure the young man's mother needs a break but this isn't the way to arrange it, shifting the responsibility to others who were not pre-warned and aren't prepared & who would never have agreed to this if they had known.

    Don't try to treat him or mother him. Does this sound harsh? Yes, but I know what a kind person you are Matilda.

    Sounds like good advice to me.

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    Matilda its clear that this young men is not good news for you our the local Dominican .haitnas girls around the property. please contact the person responsible for the apartment and the owner and advise them that you are canceling the contract dude to violations.. i bet you cna find one..
    Plus please contact the American embassy so they cna guide you on how to manage a mentally ill American citizen that has no money to feed them self and was abandon.. lets make sure he was nto snet over here to be left here for good.. some people are nto good parents.. let make sure we dont hurt him or you..or the apartment....

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